khushi_435 Posted May 10, 2014 Posted May 10, 2014 I am a college going student and I have this situation that I am not able to comprehend on my own and hence I seek your help. There is a person, lets say A in my college, i am friends with. We used to enjoy each others company. We would spend time with each other, he would call up to ask upon me and things were very nice. A couple of weeks back we planned to go out to buy me a scooty but he cancelled the plan due to some reasons and I was very upset so although I didnt want to but I called up and lashed out at him. Realising it later, I did apologise for it. However, after that incident he has not called me. So i thought maybe there is some problem so then I used to call him. When I asked him if there was any problem, he just said there were some work issues so he was very busy over that. We talk nicely when we meet by chance here or there in the campus. But I feel he no longer cares. Maybe he was genuinely busy with work but I felt he was making excuses for not meeting up. Now just a day before, he was leaving for 10 days and I just wanted things to be clear in my mind so I again called him and asked him to meet. And them again asked him the same thing. He said the same. But I just dont feel right. What do I do about it ? The whole day this thing keep revolving in my head that maybe I should have done this thing this way or I should not have done that. Maybe I was being too clingy, thinking negative all the time. He needed space. Maybe I should not have met him that last day. and now i see he is online on whatsapp but doesnot messages me while that was never the case earlier. Is it my negative feelings that drove him away ? Or does he really dont want to it himself ?
ja123 Posted May 16, 2014 Posted May 16, 2014 You blew it with him by over-reacting. He probably thinks you're crazy now and doesn't want anything to do with you. Can you blame him? Cut him loose. Don't contact him again. Work on yourself so you don't do this again. It is not just the behavior of lashing out at him, but the thoughts behind the behavior that need to be addressed. Good luck!
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