What dating lessons do you wish you knew when you were at my age?[OP early 20's]

[halfcrazed_i]

Don't waste your time being with someone that you can't imagine being with in the future.

 

And especially don't waste your time pining after someone who clearly won't give you what you want.

 

There is someone out there who deserves your love more.

[pink_sugar]

To take my time and not rush into anything. You don't really grow into yourself and know what you want until close to 25 I'd say.

[todreaminblue]

one chance is not infinite chances

 

 

to not think everything that goes wrong is ultimately my fault and something i could have done better

 

that i deserve to have a guy who loves me and that guy can be a good guy because i am a good woman

 

 

to not wait for any man who leaves me waiting for them to arrive

 

 

that a guy who does not answer me or have time to answer or call back is not the guy i need to be with because time is important to me.....i dont have much to give or know when that time runs out it takes two seconds to say cant talk now ill call you soon..... ...not even two seconds......so if they cant give me two seconds why would i give them a week of my time worrying about why they didnt call

 

 

that you treat others how you want to be treated and if they dont treat you the same way ......they are not for you

 

 

that you always forgive someone if they hurt you , doesnt mean the trust level is where it was before.......or that the relatinship should continue

 

 

that there are no guarantees in love.........ever........but if i commit i stay that way and so should they....or they arent right for me either

 

 

that you dont give up on love.....but you can set it free......if that love becomes too painful to hold on to...you just have to let go.....

 

 

 

that tug o wars in love do end up with someone eating dirt and someone holding the rope....thats fact...and that playing tug o war with love sucks for both parties......because it isnt love its just playing with love......see dirt above.............deb

[ayala]

I wish I learned sooner not to try to change a person to fit my "ideal" and to learn to accept a person for their flaws, which I do now with my current boyfriend. I tried changing my ex when I should have just left.

 

Not to be in a relationship with someone I'm not in love with.

*Just because they buy me something, I'm not obligated to stay. My love cannot be bought.*

 

Learn to respect myself first and foremost.

Be with someone that respects me.

 

Sometimes it's not always their fault. Sometimes it's mine.

 

Words are nothing if it has no actions behind it. It's a combination of both.

 

*Don't be clingy, dependent, or rely on them* I can only rely on myself.

 

If I can be lazy and be taken care of, it's not love.

If I have to work my ass off for little in return, it's not love.

It has to be done together.

 

Always be my best and try to improve. Never settle for something I'm unhappy with.

 

Also COMMUNICATION AND HONESTY REALLY ARE KEY. Silent treatments are silly. Get to the point and say whats on the mind. No one is a mind reader.

 

Just a few of the things I learned!