jaguar Posted May 10, 2014 Posted May 10, 2014 I am shy I am not good at small talk I am not a nice guy I am not capable of love I don't care about anyone(I don't like to admit that, but whatever) I am honest I don't know how to play games I need a sexual relationship(well it is a human need) Don't tell me to sleep with prostitutes because apparently that doesn't work. I don't feel any pleasure in that. Just any woman won't do. I need something(not love). Don't tell me to sleep with men. That doesn't work either. What do I do?
d0nnivain Posted May 10, 2014 Posted May 10, 2014 Yes you can fibd happiness but it will take work. First, change your self talk. Instead of listing your negative qualities, focus on your good ones. You say you are not a nice guy. Change that. Become a nice guy. You don't have to be a saint but you also shouldn't kick puppies or go out of your way to be mean to people. Learn to care about people. I suspect if you cared more about others, your overall happiness would increase. Come out of your shy shell. Join something like ToastMasters. Once you learn to like yourself, love will find you. Right now you are too busy feeling sorry for yourself without putting in any effort to overcome your perceived shortcomings to let love in. Nobody wants to be with a mean angry person. 1
Author jaguar Posted May 10, 2014 Author Posted May 10, 2014 Yes you can fibd happiness but it will take work. First, change your self talk. Instead of listing your negative qualities, focus on your good ones. You say you are not a nice guy. Change that. Become a nice guy. You don't have to be a saint but you also shouldn't kick puppies or go out of your way to be mean to people. Learn to care about people. I suspect if you cared more about others, your overall happiness would increase. Come out of your shy shell. Join something like ToastMasters. Once you learn to like yourself, love will find you. Right now you are too busy feeling sorry for yourself without putting in any effort to overcome your perceived shortcomings to let love in. Nobody wants to be with a mean angry person. I am not feeling sorry for myself. Why should I? I am ok. I had a peaceful life, more than what other people get. But I just want to know how to get sex. The method. I don't want anything else.
odinseye Posted May 10, 2014 Posted May 10, 2014 St. Francis said we all can't burn. Forced my husband to want for decades. Now we are paying a hard price Glad she remembers something a good man said, Yesterday I declared my freedom from you, my family and doctors. since I was required to be controlled I will now let you all play your game with someone else. By tomorrow I will be at upper range cabin. I know where it is, Grandpa had me live there for five months. I also know that there are eight people that know its location almost all are dead, I owe nothing to society, they now are free of me. When I get there I will have to get roof repaired but should be easy fix most the place is in hillside. Have the things I need for steam generator, dish tv. for three years. Have sat dish there to, Might have to hunt and fill old freezer but as long as I have wood and water should be good, Uncle said he put shower in the last time here. My bed that is going to be old strap and bedroll bed. Sit on lawn furniture and homemade log table. Bringing my small 19 inch tv with me. Things will be peaceful. If you want to hear from me don't. you are free. in six years have me declared dead, I will be back on, Might find me in town, on some day I come out. You are free of me, the fear you say I caused should stop,
todreaminblue Posted May 10, 2014 Posted May 10, 2014 no you wont find happiness in your mind set .....sex is fleeting produces feel good hormones for only a short while so, therefore, if you want happiness from sex like you do, you would have to have it constantly with no connection there of course, because you dont care about people in general so like unpaid prostitution almost...... you are looking for casual sex for happiness and blow what anyone else wants i even believe that to have casual sex(which to me is boring and empty) one you still have to have feelings for others....and two your happiness will be short lived especially if you dont care if the other person is satisfied or not.....till the next time you get physical pleasure you need to change or channel something outside of you my friend.....maybe not be so selfish...... to truly have happiness that lasts longer than a day....... and i wish you well...good luck...deb
preraph Posted May 11, 2014 Posted May 11, 2014 ^ only if you're a woman. Women don't focus that much on bodies like men do. It takes more usually.
preraph Posted May 11, 2014 Posted May 11, 2014 Well, Jaguar, at least you are self-aware. So why do you believe you aren't capable of love and don't care about anybody -- and how old are you approximately? Do you believe you're either a narcissist or a sociopath? Did you have a bad upbringing, bad modeling, don't know how to love because of it? That's usually what causes someone to just not have any empathy for other people. But that's why I asked your age. If you're really young and have a lot of anger or something, that can make you that way and then it can change sometimes.
Author jaguar Posted May 11, 2014 Author Posted May 11, 2014 Well, Jaguar, at least you are self-aware. So why do you believe you aren't capable of love and don't care about anybody -- and how old are you approximately? Do you believe you're either a narcissist or a sociopath? Did you have a bad upbringing, bad modeling, don't know how to love because of it? That's usually what causes someone to just not have any empathy for other people. But that's why I asked your age. If you're really young and have a lot of anger or something, that can make you that way and then it can change sometimes. I am 30. I had a good peaceful childhood. I can't really explain why I am liike that. Empathy? Well I don't want to hurt anyone. I am always careful not to hurt anybody's feelings. I don't really care that much about anyone though. I don't have a lot of anger. So my only way of life is to have casual sex. Now I want to know how to get it.
AdrianCrawley Posted May 11, 2014 Posted May 11, 2014 ^ only if you're a woman. Women don't focus that much on bodies like men do. It takes more usually. Yeah, keep believing that...
bryceisbryce Posted May 11, 2014 Posted May 11, 2014 Can you provide more info? How are you with talking to women in general? Are you able to make friends? Have you tried PUA? How and where do you meet women?
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