That sucked =/

[Omei]

So me and my friend were at the bar drinking etc anyway while outside we enter a conversation with some guys etc one guy is really interesting to talk to, we chatted a bit when the bar closed me and my friend were going back to my place for some more beer a movie etc she's sleeping over so we invited the guy to come chill with us.

 

My friend eventually passes out but we talk the night away our family backgrounds are the same a lot in common (polish fathers) while we're not but parent was extreamly similar, we share funny videos play some games watch a movie eventually we call it a night and hes like nice to meet you etc it was great but within the last 10 mins of hanging out he drops "I got a gf bomb"

 

That was so weird since we talked about how my best friend shouldn't be hugging guys at the bar while she's taken even tho she's drunk and agreed on so much other topics then if he agrees why come back to a place to chill with two girls right?

 

At no point did I see him ask permission to be there since he came in the first place one would assume you're single to begin with? And im all up for making friends he seems like he will be a good one but who taken gos to chill with two girls at 2 am after a bar night right?

 

My only guess is that he is really single but at the end of the night friendzoned my ass lol.

 

Oh well, I've given up on dating and looking trying to force something but at least I know I can catch someone's eye enough for them to wanna talk to me.

 

Oh and im not sorry for my long post you love it.

Edited May 10, 2014 by Omei

[HappyLove]

Yea, that sucks! If he does have a gf then he's a pretty crappy bf to go back home with two women and chat them up all night. Feel bad for the gf. You're not missing out on this one!

[DArtagnan2]

Now, I am new to dating world again, but I do know, if at a bar and a girl ask me back to her place I would suspect she was into me and wanting to continue to get to know me personally, not just play video games and watch a movie with me.

 

I am sure he knew that too.

 

Don't know why he changed his mind. Maybe he does have a gf and guilt took over given what he was thinking. It may have nothing to do with you personally.

 

I like how you took a positive from that, continue on that thought and on to the next.

[Omei]

It was a Group setting, with no flirtation involved, his idea to play games.

 

Im pretty sure he wouldn't expect to get laid with my friend with us its so rude to have sex with people when you have people over, he never gave off any inkling.

 

ill be more clear we only met in front of the bar while me and my friend were picking up more beer from the vendor to bring back and we ended up talking to this guy because there was a gun standoff with the police and some random guy and we were watching for like 20 mins that's when conversation started and he knew he was being invited to a place with people ahead of time and that we were only gonna be hanging out watching tv and stuff so I don't think he expected anything else than what was described he never acted it, or at any moment gave off a disappointed feeling he was very into what we were doing.

 

I just thought with all the good connection in our conversations and how we had so much stuff in common that there would be a chance to see into it further by our conversation he was very friends first minded like I was when he went into relationship talk, it was just disappointing to find out he wasn't single yet likes to meet girls. I just don't get why you would hang out with girls if you're not single. (I mean this in the way of at 2 am instead of going back to your girl not to say men cant have female friends)

 

 

He even asked to hang out again but if that happens I would want to see him ask this so called gf first.

 

Ps we were getting to know each other personally, on a personality bases which is why his Gf bomb sucked so much. If you ment laid that's not getting to know someone personally.

 

It mega mega mega sucks because I actually really liked the guy till he said GF I am kind of interested to know if he really just wants friendship because hes wicked cool I could do that.

Edited May 10, 2014 by Omei

[DArtagnan2]

What I wrote was not intended to relate to any kind of sexual encounter that night. I meant getting to know each other, you didn't invite him over just to be buds and play video games. You showed an interest in him in general and had some great conversation and just clicked it appeared.

 

I guess instead of hearing "I have a gf" I kind of expected to read him asking for your number and possibly setting up another time to hang out. That's all.

 

Sorry if anything I wrote implied anything different. I am not "that" guy myself, so I don't speak or think like in those terms.

[Omei]

Ah yeah its cool, I gave my number and said he could bring over his gf next time and good luck with his soccer game but I dont suspect ill hear from him again, I was sober at the time he said he was too he may not of been.

[maturityassets]

Sometimes we just talk to girls. Sure it crosses our minds that we would sleep with someone but sometimes we guys want to talk and feel that experience of actually talking with the opposite sex that isn't our girlfriend. There is also the egoist in us that wants to also feel that the this stranger is attracted to us though and thus ego boost are also a common reason we might talk to a girl.

[Omei]

Sometimes we just talk to girls. Sure it crosses our minds that we would sleep with someone but sometimes we guys want to talk and feel that experience of actually talking with the opposite sex that isn't our girlfriend. There is also the egoist in us that wants to also feel that the this stranger is attracted to us though and thus ego boost are also a common reason we might talk to a girl.

 

Idk if you read post but it was more about the fact he went home with 2 woman at two am while having a gf.

 

I know guys talk to girls =P