Eivuwan Posted May 10, 2014 Posted May 10, 2014 It's clear from all your posts that your girlfriend gets off on dominating people. She picked you because it's easy to do that to you. If you think some sex and attention is worth this kind of treatment then what's the point of posting here? Most people think self-respect is more important, but it doesn't seem like that's the case for you. 2
M30USA Posted May 10, 2014 Posted May 10, 2014 Change all the shes for hes and hes for shes and this forum would be on fire. There would also be jail time and public shaming.
StanMusial Posted May 10, 2014 Posted May 10, 2014 You could be right MidwestUSA, but in this case what should I have done? Yes I could have pulled her off... she is much smaller than me. But she was holding on tightly and it would definitely have hurt her, which I am really not into. Too bad. Maybe she needs to learn a lesson her parents never taught her. 1
FitChick Posted May 11, 2014 Posted May 11, 2014 Is this the chick who wanted to wear a Hello Kitty dress to a formal dinner?
GoreSP Posted May 11, 2014 Posted May 11, 2014 Is this the chick who wanted to wear a Hello Kitty dress to a formal dinner? Guess so. I'm not even responding to his posts anymore... 1
William Posted May 11, 2014 Posted May 11, 2014 Sincerely folks, if you can't be mature adults and form a respectful and topical posting, go find something else to do on Saturday night! Two members moderated and thread cleaned up and trust me it'll continue if you can't behave according to our published guidelines.
spiderowl Posted May 11, 2014 Posted May 11, 2014 I'm confused medium, was it your girlfriend who did this or your cousin? I didn't notice any mention of your girlfriend in your original post, but I could be missing it. What she did was assault. You could report her to the police. I know that a guy might find this difficult to do. She is out of control. Also, even worse, she could be pregnant. I really feel for you in this situation. I'd start with talking to an abuse counsellor and see if anything becomes clearer for you in terms of what to do about this. I would guess if social services found out how she was behaving, she could end up losing her children. She doesn't sound as if she could keep them safe from harm if she's capable of abusing someone else.
silvereyez Posted May 11, 2014 Posted May 11, 2014 Stop being dumbarses this is basically rape. Double standards people. He said no, that's the end of it. She forced herself on him. No means no. 1
Eivuwan Posted May 11, 2014 Posted May 11, 2014 I also believe that this is rape, but reporting her to the police would probably do more harm than good. As others have said, most people would just laugh it off because he is a guy who could have easily pushed her away. OP, you need to tell her how horrible her behavior is and break up with her. Do you really want to keep being abused? There are plenty of girls out there who don't treat their bfs like this. If she is attracted to you, then that is evidence that other people would be attracted to you too. It's not that you're so lucky to have her... I hope you can stop thinking so lowly of yourself and stop living in fear.
Author Medium.Lumo Posted May 11, 2014 Author Posted May 11, 2014 I agree.. I'm hesitant to even mention it to anyone because it would probably get laughed off. As for the police, I don't think I'd go that route anyway. She might be a brat but she doesn't deserve a criminal record over this. Thanks for the post. Maybe you're right, but even so how could I go about breaking up with her? She might be devastated. It would be a lot of drama. I also believe that this is rape, but reporting her to the police would probably do more harm than good. As others have said, most people would just laugh it off because he is a guy who could have easily pushed her away. OP, you need to tell her how horrible her behavior is and break up with her. Do you really want to keep being abused? There are plenty of girls out there who don't treat their bfs like this. If she is attracted to you, then that is evidence that other people would be attracted to you too. It's not that you're so lucky to have her... I hope you can stop thinking so lowly of yourself and stop living in fear.
Author Medium.Lumo Posted May 11, 2014 Author Posted May 11, 2014 Thanks man. I missed your post but it was great. I agree she has some good traits, but she definitely haa to work on some of her bad ones. I'm flip flopping about being with her now though. I am not sleeping well since this happened. It is really embarrassing and I find myself getting irritated with her over small things which is unusual for me. I'm starting to calm down about it but it still makes me sick to think about it. The reason I didn't want to do anything in the pool was because I figured if we stayed close together there was less chance of anyone seeing what was happening. We were also in the deep end... not right in front of the kids as many posters here seem to be thinking. Medium, your girlfriend submitted the one time you made what you wanted clear. So all you really have to do is make that happen more often. Women like it when a guy taked charge a lot of times. If something like that happens again steer her over to the side of the pool, turn her around, push her up against the side and rub her butt a little. Show your dominance and give her some attention at the same time. We really are just animals at the end of the day. Like with Phoe I don't think your partner is a bad person and you don't have to break up with her. As long as you start making what you want clear more often. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted May 11, 2014 Posted May 11, 2014 I agree.. I'm hesitant to even mention it to anyone because it would probably get laughed off. As for the police, I don't think I'd go that route anyway. She might be a brat but she doesn't deserve a criminal record over this. Thanks for the post. Maybe you're right, but even so how could I go about breaking up with her? She might be devastated. It would be a lot of drama. Yes, but that's her problem. Not yours. She needs to be an adult and understand that her inappropriate behaviour has consequences. How she chooses to deal with that isn't your responsibility. Tell her that you simply can't overlook that level of disrespect and that you can't continue the relationship. She showed you exactly what she thinks of your needs and feelings. (ie. zilch) End of story. 2
Author Medium.Lumo Posted May 11, 2014 Author Posted May 11, 2014 I agree that what she did was unacceptable. But maybe I am overreacting about what happened to me personally and being a prude. I feel awful that we did it when we were supposed to be looking after the kids and I get a sick feeling from thinking about her refusing to let go... but I know this will sound lame but she has a lot of great personality traits. Usually she is very sweet. I need to find a way to bring out her sweet side and suppress her crazy side. Yes, but that's her problem. Not yours. She needs to be an adult and understand that her inappropriate behaviour has consequences. How she chooses to deal with that isn't your responsibility. Tell her that you simply can't overlook that level of disrespect and that you can't continue the relationship. She showed you exactly what she thinks of your needs and feelings. (ie. zilch) End of story.
silvereyez Posted May 11, 2014 Posted May 11, 2014 What she did shows a great deal of immaturity in this woman, and yeah I can understand not wanting to go to the police, I wouldn't either in this scenario. She obviously felt it was somehow spontaneous and exciting, but you have to make it clear that she majorly overstepped boundaries at the very least. And also what she tried to lead you on to do was essentially having sex in the vicinity of children. It's up to her if you want to break up with her. But immature or not, you have good grounds to.
stillafool Posted May 11, 2014 Posted May 11, 2014 I'm sorry I don't understand. How could she 'slip it in' if it wasn't erect? If your penis was erect wouldn't that mean you wanted it too? Is that rape??? 1
Gaeta Posted May 11, 2014 Posted May 11, 2014 (edited) Two things: 1. Anyone of you ever tried to have sex in a swimming pool? it's practically impossible to have intercourse. The water is washing away all natural lubrication. Penetration has to be a common effort and IF you succeed at having intercourse in water than getting that dvk out demands as much efforts because of the vacuum the going in created. Edited May 11, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
MidwestUSA Posted May 11, 2014 Posted May 11, 2014 I'm sorry I don't understand. How could she 'slip it in' if it wasn't erect? If your penis was erect wouldn't that mean you wanted it too? Is that rape??? A guy can get it up without mentally wanting it. It's strictly a physiological reaction. 5
DArtagnan2 Posted May 11, 2014 Posted May 11, 2014 This almost sounds like a movie script where decent nice guy meets off the wall girl who brings chaos to his life. My guess is something is "THAT" good that you stay with her because most girls that would continue to disrespect their partners wishes or in front of family and friends, wouldn't be around very long.
Author Medium.Lumo Posted May 11, 2014 Author Posted May 11, 2014 I'm sorry I don't understand. How could she 'slip it in' if it wasn't erect? If your penis was erect wouldn't that mean you wanted it too? Is that rape??? Just because I had an election doesn't mean I was ready to jam most guys will get aroused if a woman runs her body against them... 1
DArtagnan2 Posted May 11, 2014 Posted May 11, 2014 I agree that what she did was unacceptable. But maybe I am overreacting about what happened to me personally and being a prude. I feel awful that we did it when we were supposed to be looking after the kids and I get a sick feeling from thinking about her refusing to let go... but I know this will sound lame but she has a lot of great personality traits. Usually she is very sweet. I need to find a way to bring out her sweet side and suppress her crazy side. There is something not right upstairs for her to lock in like that, not let go and continue to force herself on you. You need to distance yourself from this girl. It isn't up to you to get her to do anything. This is how she is. You accept it or your dont. You continuing to stay with her after each episode is enabling her behavior to be Ok and continue. There is no changing someone at the core. When someone shows you who they are, BELIEVE them. This is who she is. You take it or leave it. Appears you want to take it. if so, then you can't continue to get upset about what she does. For someone who wants to be with someone like her needs to embrace it. If you can't embrace it, the relationship won't work in the long run. 3
Author Medium.Lumo Posted May 11, 2014 Author Posted May 11, 2014 (edited) 1. Guess this must be an individual thing because it wasn't difficult at all... In fact I hardly knew what was happening. Two things: 1. Anyone of you ever tried to have sex in a swimming pool? it's practically impossible to have intercourse. The water is washing away all natural lubrication. Penetration has to be a common effort and IF you succeed at having intercourse in water than getting that dvk out demands as much efforts because of the vacuum the going in created. Edited May 11, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Author Medium.Lumo Posted May 11, 2014 Author Posted May 11, 2014 Sorry. I should have mentioned she is my girlfriend. I'm confused medium, was it your girlfriend who did this or your cousin? I didn't notice any mention of your girlfriend in your original post, but I could be missing it. What she did was assault. You could report her to the police. I know that a guy might find this difficult to do. She is out of control. Also, even worse, she could be pregnant. I really feel for you in this situation. I'd start with talking to an abuse counsellor and see if anything becomes clearer for you in terms of what to do about this. I would guess if social services found out how she was behaving, she could end up losing her children. She doesn't sound as if she could keep them safe from harm if she's capable of abusing someone else.
Confusedguy81 Posted May 11, 2014 Posted May 11, 2014 should have dug into the sides of her ribcage to get her off you.
ExpatInItaly Posted May 11, 2014 Posted May 11, 2014 I agree that what she did was unacceptable. But maybe I am overreacting about what happened to me personally and being a prude. I feel awful that we did it when we were supposed to be looking after the kids and I get a sick feeling from thinking about her refusing to let go... but I know this will sound lame but she has a lot of great personality traits. Usually she is very sweet. I need to find a way to bring out her sweet side and suppress her crazy side. Er, no you don't. You are not her parent. She is responsible for her behaviour. You are not. If you have to work so hard to suppress someone's "crazy side," what does that tell you?
bubbaganoosh Posted May 11, 2014 Posted May 11, 2014 This almost sounds like a movie script where decent nice guy meets off the wall girl who brings chaos to his life. My guess is something is "THAT" good that you stay with her because most girls that would continue to disrespect their partners wishes or in front of family and friends, wouldn't be around very long. Or that movie in the 70's where a guy gets picked up by a car load of girls and they "rape" him and leave him on the side of the road and he's got the flag wrapped around him trying to explaing to the cops what happened and they don't believe him
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