Lernaean_Hydra Posted May 10, 2014 Posted May 10, 2014 I'm an early 20s female, I'd rate myself about a 7 but get rated about an 8.5 (go figure) I think I'm pretty okay to be around conversation wise and generally don't get nervous about, well...anything. But especially not a first date. Any other time I get dressed and walk out the door ready to own the night but for some reason this particular date has me so on edge. He's a cute guy, but not drop dead gorgeous or anything so he's not intimidating and seems genuinely excited to be around me, but I'm iffy about whether I even like him or not tbh. So, IMO, its not insecurity that's giving me the spins. Anyway, someone please give me some encouragement! A pep talk...anything.
Potz4prez Posted May 10, 2014 Posted May 10, 2014 You haven't even been on the first date... You have no idea if you like him or not. You sound like you're not attracted to him however... But **** it, just go have fun. Just look at it as socializing with another human being. Maybe he'll swoon you.
Author Lernaean_Hydra Posted May 10, 2014 Author Posted May 10, 2014 You haven't even been on the first date... You have no idea if you like him or not. You sound like you're not attracted to him however... But **** it, just go have fun. Just look at it as socializing with another human being. Maybe he'll swoon you. No, I'm attracted to him well enough and his demeanor in person is something I also find appealing. It's just...him. He makes me nervous and I can't explain it. But yes, after taking a couple mood stabilizers and having a screwdriver or two, I'm back in full form and ready to do just as you said which is socialize with another human being. 1
LustAppeal Posted May 10, 2014 Posted May 10, 2014 Ok first off don't "rate" yourself. That's what beach boys do when they pretend to have high standards... You're a 10 if not breaking the measuring stick. You're dedicated when it comes to dating, you wouldn't be on this site posting this post otherwise... So that's a plus! When you're in this situation: You have many self attributes, and many more to discover. You have great____,____,_____,____,... You're great at______,_____,____,___.... You're going to one day find a man who____ And you wont settle for less! Tonight might me the night because you're going to be yourself regardless of who he may pretend to be! AND YOU'RE GOING TO LIVE IN THE MOMENT!!!!!!!!!! NOT IN THE PAST! NOT FOR THE FUTURE! WHY? because it'll show who you are. If he doesn't like it... Well that's his loss! This is more of a male thing to do as it shows confidence, but that doesn't mean the ladies cannot do it! When something gets awkward call it out before the awkward silence kicks in, try to spin it on it's head and keep the insecurities to a minimum! Dating is about experience like everyhing in life. This site is all theory unless you head to the field and practice, so with that GOOD LUCK. But you don't need luck! 3
d0nnivain Posted May 10, 2014 Posted May 10, 2014 Breathe. He asked you out for a reason. Hang on to that. You have been on dates before that went well. Picture this one going well too. Take your time getting dressed & with your make-up. Think about some conversation starters. Have fun!
littleplanet Posted May 10, 2014 Posted May 10, 2014 You don't sound like the kind of person who bombs out on dates. What's different about this one? Maybe you're nervous for a reason. (I have fond memories of the nervousness of dates....back when I was younger than you.) ...........and it was always a good sign, not a bad one. Lack of "nerves" usually meant boresville. as to the rating game.........a 10 out of 10 only reduces you down to a number. That's what they do on Wall Street, with stocks and bonds. But you're not a stock option investment. Remember that.
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