waz367 Posted May 10, 2014 Posted May 10, 2014 Me and my girl have been dating for about 8 months now and im her first, boyfriend and shes 19 and were both adults now and things have been going great, but when she left for University about 2 months ago i started to worry, cause we all know Uni life style is party/clubs and all that fun stuff, but in my eyes i felt a bit worried about her being around that stuff, cause shes never been out to clubs and experienced it, and i know this is my own Insecurities and i should deal with it myself then put it onto her, we had disagreements for like 1 month off and on, i can tell shes had enough, lately i dont care if she goes out has fun cause at the end of the day shes with me, back on point, the other day i let it get to me and i got pissed and annoyed, and yeah this morning she told me she doesnt have any feelings like she use too, she says she wants to be happy but she cant this feeling keeps weighing her down, and im 100% all for this girl she says she loves me but i just dont know how to get her to be Postivie in this hard time she wants to be happy but she cant get out of these negitive thoughts that it will happen again and again she is worn out and its starting to effect me cause im the only one in this relationship trying make it right.
d0nnivain Posted May 10, 2014 Posted May 10, 2014 Based on what you posted alone, I can't really tell. However, I will remind you that very few relationships survive the transition when one or both people start college. There is a whole new world out there & in the scheme of things. . . . the natural order allows for exploration.
Grumpybutfun Posted May 10, 2014 Posted May 10, 2014 Constant confrontations and negativity is a relationship murderer....yes, it is in trouble. You're pushing her away due to your insecurities and nitpicking. Be someone she enjoys, not dreads. Good luck, Grumps
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