Maya_x Posted May 10, 2014 Posted May 10, 2014 Hi there, I wasn't really sure which category to post this under but as it's an issue with dating generally I figured I'd throw it in here. Basically, I have this problem with getting intimate with anyone, in the past my only sexual relationships are with super confident people who just went for it and made all the advances, and it was never a case of going on dates with them it was more just we knew eachother already and went to the same clubs.. but these were also the kind of people who aren't relationship material clearly. Recently I've gone on a couple of dates and I just find myself worrying the whole time about when its normal to kiss someone or even just be in contact with them etc, and I think I must give off a stand-offish vibe because the guys clearly struggle to pluck the courage to make a move too, it hasn't stopped anyone from wanting to go out with me so far in fact its me who ends up blowing people off because I feel so awkward on dates. In every other respect I'm fine I don't struggle to make conversation and nothings awkward socially, its just that we are basically 2 friends spending time together because there's no romantic aspect and I don't know why I have such an issue with showing affection. Has anyone else had a problem like this?
Assasda Posted May 10, 2014 Posted May 10, 2014 You are fine. When you want to be touched, just say "Its ok to touch me" And the guy will feel at ease, and you will get touched. Easy question, I think
Potz4prez Posted May 10, 2014 Posted May 10, 2014 I have the same exact problem (as a guy). When a girl has the same problem... the dates can be awkward haha. Just plan your dates somewhere where you are the most comfortable, and communicate! Let him know you're interested, but nervous. There's nothing worse than wondering if a girl isn't affectionate because she's not into you or if she's just intimately awkward/reserved/whatever. If a guy likes you enough, he'll hopefully address the issue... but don't count on it. Don't be afraid to let him know how you feel. It will take a huge weight off his shoulders.
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