Girlfriend is becoming distant already...

[dallast]

We have only been dating for 3 months and it seems as if we're headed toward a breakup, but I do have genuine feelings for her and was wondering if anyone had any input on how (if anything) I could try to turn this around.

 

We have been fighting more and more lately about the dumbest stuff, and although I keep a very calm demeanor (I am definitely not one to yell, verbally abuse, etc) any time I try to have an actual conversation, she usually starts crying and tries to turn herself into a victim by saying things like "what else is wrong with me?" and accuses me of yelling at her even though I am most definitely not.

 

When we first started dating, we would see each other about two weekdays per week and would usually spend the weekends together. But as time has gone on, that has dropped off quite a bit. I understand that's to be expected since it's not "new" anymore, but it seems like she is blowing me off. I'll text her a few times throughout the week to see if she wants to hang out/go to a show, etc, and she'll usually respond with a "I dunno, I'll let you know later" and then one of two things will happen:

 

1. She'll reach out to me super late, way after whatever it was I had invited her to, and ask me how it was.

 

2. I won't hear from her at all and then in the morning she'll text me something completely random that has nothing to do with the fact that she blew me off. If I bring it up, she always just says "sorry, I fell asleep right after work." She has used this excuse multiple times.

 

It gets annoying because even though I know she probably won't actually communicate with me, I'll still make accommodations for her in case she actually does.

 

As I am writing this, I am looking at a text I sent her at 12:20 this afternoon that said "hey do you want to go xxxxxxx at 7:30 tonight?" and it is currently 7:05 and I haven't heard from her.

 

It's fine if things like that happen once in a while, but it's like this multiple times a week with her. I don't think I am being needy, but maybe I am? Is she just bored with me? Should I just go ahead and end things with her?

 

Any advice would be welcomed.

 

Thanks.

[Assasda]

Stop bothering her so much and get your own life together and maybe it'll turn around.

 

Stop acting like you need her, stop acting like she's the linchpin in your life, and stand on your own 2 feet. example: as her to some place, if she doesnt go, you go alone.

Or just go out by yourself, better yourself without involving her in anyway.

 

Not to sound derogatory, but youre a man, she should be leaning on you, dont lean on her

[spiderowl]

Sounds like she's not that interested, sorry. I wouldn't put up with such messing about. If she doesn't respond within a reasonable time and with some interest, move on. I know you probably don't want to do that but no point hanging around for someone flaky.