daisybuchanan55 Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 Hi everyone! I read this article earlier today about why men "ghost" you and definitely agreed with a lot of the points, but I was curious to see what points you think the article missed? (Asking men of the board of course.) 10 real, concrete reasons men will "ghost" you | The Eighty8 And girls, what are the reasons you "ghost" guys? PS -- if you're not aware, ghosting is when you literally just disappear off the face of the planet. Maybe you were dating or casually seeing each other, but then you just kind of DISAPPEAR. No explanation. Literally the worst thing that can happen. 1
somedude81 Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 #1 He's an ass and doesn't have any respect for you or himself. 4
EasyHeart Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 Those are reasons that a guy wouldn't want to date you (ie, it's a list of "Girlfriend from Hell" criteria). The reason he 'ghosts' you is simply that he doesn't want to date you. When I start dating a woman, I think of each date as kind of like an interview. Afterwards, I ask myself whether I enjoyed being with her enough to want to see her again. If I did, I ask her out again. If she says yes, then I assume that's her way of telling me that she also enjoyed being with me. If I don't enjoy being with her, I don't ask her out again; if she doesn't enjoy being with me, she says "No, thank you" when I ask her out again. It's no more complicated than that. 1
Keenly Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 I stopped reading after 2, when I saw that it was blaming the women. Men do this because they are no longer interested and too cowardly to tell you that. End of story. 7
blueskyday Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 (edited) I agree. They don't want to date someone so they disappear. If it's been only one or two dates, no big deal. See ya ! But if you've seen them three or more times, I think it's just common courtesy to say "hey I'm not feeling a connection so let's go our separate ways. " pretty simple. I've had it happen on one occasion where a guy seemed very into me. We dated a few weeks and then he just pulled a disappearing act. Radio silence for six weeks. I called a few times initially and no returned cells. Then one day he calls me, "hey what's up? Sorry we stopped talking." (We?) I could not believe he had the nerve to call me again ! Edited May 9, 2014 by blueskyday 1
Decipleoflove Posted May 10, 2014 Posted May 10, 2014 (edited) I've had it happen on one occasion where a guy seemed very into me. We dated a few weeks and then he just pulled a disappearing act. Radio silence for six weeks. I called a few times initially and no returned cells. Then one day he calls me, "hey what's up? Sorry we stopped talking." (We?) I could not believe he had the nerve to call me again ! hahaha that one cracked me up lol sometimes people are too busy (dealing) with all sorts of stuff in their lives (and they don't want to bother you with it), having difficulties juggling all plates in the air, that they disappear on you, it's nothing personal, it could be that he feels it istoo much work rightnow, to invest in this R. If you really Like him, hold on for awhile. Some people tend to test your patience and your intentions. If you don't, next him and move on. you're waisting eachothers time really. Edited May 10, 2014 by Decipleoflove
gaius Posted May 10, 2014 Posted May 10, 2014 It's the kindest way to say goodbye. I don't know why people often claim to crave what they really don't want.
Strength in Healing Posted May 10, 2014 Posted May 10, 2014 If a girl says "I'ma do me" or uses the expression "ghost" in the context as this topic has, I would cut out. lol
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