riokid180 Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 Went out on a dinner date last night. Date went pretty long (three hours) I then walked her to her car and hugged her bye. Today I texted her "I tried to play it cool and wait two days before texting you but I just couldn't help myself." And she just responded, ":) Hope your day is going well!" Is that a blow off text? Should I even respond to that?
Gaeta Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 Went out on a dinner date last night. Date went pretty long (three hours) I then walked her to her car and hugged her bye. Today I texted her "I tried to play it cool and wait two days before texting you but I just couldn't help myself." And she just responded, ":) Hope your day is going well!" Is that a blow off text? Should I even respond to that? LOL Why would you think she is blowing you off?? Oh you mean a smile usually means get away from me? She is responsive, go ahead start a convo and talk about doing something together again. 1
DArtagnan2 Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 well, she did put the smiley face first.. *rolls eyes* for ****s sake, respond. Wish her the same and / or ask how her's is going. 2
Author riokid180 Posted May 9, 2014 Author Posted May 9, 2014 LOL Why would you think she is blowing you off?? Oh you mean a smile usually means get away from me? She is responsive, go ahead start a convo and talk about doing something together again. Because it just seems like a polite, cordial and aloof response. Similar to the sort of text I send when a girl texts me and I don't really like her. 1
Zahara Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 I don't see that as a blow off text. Tell her your day is going well and that you really enjoyed the date and you'd like to do it again.
sagetalk Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 Went out on a dinner date last night. Date went pretty long (three hours) I then walked her to her car and hugged her bye. Today I texted her "I tried to play it cool and wait two days before texting you but I just couldn't help myself." And she just responded, ":) Hope your day is going well!" Is that a blow off text? Should I even respond to that? Who knows, ask her out again and you will find out in a hurry. That will save you and us a lot of brain cells. 3
Gaeta Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 Because it just seems like a polite, cordial and aloof response. Similar to the sort of text I send when a girl texts me and I don't really like her. Really? When you're not interested you send smileys and ask how they're day is going? Well, now you know to stop that. If you don't like someone you say it was a pleasure to meet you but I don't feel we have enough in common to pursue any further. That being said what do you want her to say? She probably spent the past 2 days wondering if you were interested or not. When you go on a date and you like the girl you text her after and let her know you enjoyed meeting her. You don't play those silly dating games of waiting 2 days. If you had not waited 2 days maybe she would show a little more enthusiasm. She is being prudent just like you.
J21 Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 I don't mean to knock on you or anything, but to be completely honest your text sounded a little desperate man. You could've conveyed a nice "I had a great time" type of message without all that unnecessary stuff. But yeah, I didn't see it as a blow off text either. She said it with a smiley face and she added that exclamation mark. 2
Dallers Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 She barely knows you and you are so early on in the dating process that text is perfectly normal. A hug is very friendly, did you not think about going for a kiss or not enough signs?
Author riokid180 Posted May 9, 2014 Author Posted May 9, 2014 She barely knows you and you are so early on in the dating process that text is perfectly normal. A hug is very friendly, did you not think about going for a kiss or not enough signs? I've never been bold enough to try kissing on the first date. In this particular case, there wasn't a lot of touching so I wasn't getting the signs anyway.
Michelle ma Belle Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 Personally, if I really liked you and had a great time with you on our date and got a message like the one you sent, I would NOT have responded that way. It does come across as a bit aloof in my humble opinion but then again, it could be that she was busy when she got that text or something. I mean, it hasn't been THAT long since you messaged her, has it? If she hasn't responded to your text in greater form by tonight, it may very well be that she's blowing you off. But who really knows... The only way to find out is ask her out on another date and see how she responds. That will certainly give you the answers you're looking for. Good luck! 1
Chocolat Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 I think her response was fine. She may have been unsure what to say because your text was a non-starter -- you sent a message that doesn't invite a response. If you want to know if she'd like to go out again, ask her. 2
Imajerk17 Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 I'm noticing a big problem with many of the guys on this forum is that they overanalyze every little thing to try to figure out if the girl is interested. That somehow strikes me as rather feminine. Respond back to her and tell her that you want to see her again. 2
Author riokid180 Posted May 9, 2014 Author Posted May 9, 2014 Personally, if I really liked you and had a great time with you on our date and got a message like the one you sent, I would NOT have responded that way. It does come across as a bit aloof in my humble opinion but then again, it could be that she was busy when she got that text or something. I mean, it hasn't been THAT long since you messaged her, has it? If she hasn't responded to your text in greater form by tonight, it may very well be that she's blowing you off. But who really knows... The only way to find out is ask her out on another date and see how she responds. That will certainly give you the answers you're looking for. Good luck! That's sort of what I think but yeah, I should just ask her out instead of waiting to see if she texts me again right?
mirage12 Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 The original comment you made wasn't exactly a question for her to answer or something to really start a conversation with, so her response seems fine. If you want to ask her out, now that you've texted her next day you might as well just ask her out again now. There's no point in waiting, if she's interested, you'll know. 1
Zahara Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 That's sort of what I think but yeah, I should just ask her out instead of waiting to see if she texts me again right? Too much analyzing for no reason. Just text her back. If she wanted to blow you off, she would first have to be uninterested, and if she was uninterested, she would not have responded OR she would have responded politely that she was uninterested. Instead she responded and with a smiley face -- that means she is opening the door.
Author riokid180 Posted May 9, 2014 Author Posted May 9, 2014 The original comment you made wasn't exactly a question for her to answer or something to really start a conversation with, so her response seems fine. If you want to ask her out, now that you've texted her next day you might as well just ask her out again now. There's no point in waiting, if she's interested, you'll know. Ok, I just texted her back and straight up asked her out. I will report back to you on her answer (if any) 1
stillafool Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 See, this is the problem with texting and not talking on the phone. You can't gage emotions when they are in text. I thought her text back to you was a bit aloof compared to the text you sent. I thought what you texted her was sweet. 2
Michelle ma Belle Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 See, this is the problem with texting and not talking on the phone. You can't gage emotions when they are in text. I thought her text back to you was a bit aloof compared to the text you sent. I thought what you texted her was sweet. AMEN!! I miss the "old" days when you had to use a telephone to make or break dates 1
mirage12 Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 AMEN!! I miss the "old" days when you had to use a telephone to make or break dates Sometimes I've found that women get freaked out by the phone call, especially if you've only had a first date. It's not everyone and I'd actually rather call, but I've had a few experiences where they act like asking them out on the spot puts them under pressure.
bene Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 Don't consider it a blow off until you have been blown off or she stops responding. "I tried to play it cool and wait two days before texting you but I just couldn't help myself." Just my two cents that this kind of statement can sound a bit insecure. If you otherwise come across as confident, then it can be endearing to a woman to know that she has gotten under your skin and you're not afraid to show it. But if you don't feel confident around women then rather fake it until you make it.
Keenly Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 Wait a second.. Its possible she didn't even receive the first text, because her text actually sounds like her initiating a conversation, rather than replying to a text.
stillafool Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 Sometimes I've found that women get freaked out by the phone call, especially if you've only had a first date. It's not everyone and I'd actually rather call, but I've had a few experiences where they act like asking them out on the spot puts them under pressure. It's probably because they are stunned and surprised that someone would actually have the balls to phone them!
Author riokid180 Posted May 9, 2014 Author Posted May 9, 2014 Don't consider it a blow off until you have been blown off or she stops responding. "I tried to play it cool and wait two days before texting you but I just couldn't help myself." Just my two cents that this kind of statement can sound a bit insecure. If you otherwise come across as confident, then it can be endearing to a woman to know that she has gotten under your skin and you're not afraid to show it. But if you don't feel confident around women then rather fake it until you make it. The comment was intended to be tongue in cheek. I was very confident on the actual date. 1
Speakingofwhich Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 (edited) Your comment/text to her was light-hearted and fun! Was an opp for her to volley with a flirty response but she might not be as good with words as you are is why her return seemed a little bland. Some people just aren't as colorful as others. Text her again or better yet, call her at some point in the next day or so. Edited May 9, 2014 by Speakingofwhich
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