ExposedBrick Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 Is there any way to discern between a woman not being interested vs. her being introverted/shy? I went on a really bad date. The woman seemed tired and I felt a need to say something about which I did. She did say she was tired but she really didn't seem to get excited about anything we discussed such as her career, hobbies, travel, etc. She might just have a dull personality in which case she may have been offended. She was very physically attractive so I'm tempted to give her another shot. Any thoughts?
passion_flower Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 She might have found you dull. Just because someone is introverted and shy doesn't always mean they're dull. 1
Author ExposedBrick Posted May 9, 2014 Author Posted May 9, 2014 She might have found you dull. Just because someone is introverted and shy doesn't always mean they're dull. That's BS. She was really rude in my opinion, and so are you for making that comment.
Zahara Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 How did the date end? When you asked her if she was tired or if it was something you said, what happened after that?
Valen Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 That's BS. She was really rude in my opinion, and so are you for making that comment. :laugh: The poster was being honest. If you get offended that easily, they might be on to something. 2
Author ExposedBrick Posted May 9, 2014 Author Posted May 9, 2014 How did the date end? When you asked her if she was tired or if it was something you said, what happened after that? She did say she was tired. I didn't say anything obnoxious or rude myself. I work with people all day for my job and rarely is someone able to get under my skin. Her attitude was pretty consistent from start to finish, so I really don't think its possible I could have done anything to cause this. It was somewhat baffling and hilarious. Before asking her if she was tired, she said I should contact to hang out again, but people always say that.
DArtagnan2 Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 :laugh: Originally Posted by ExposedBrick That's BS. She was really rude in my opinion, and so are you for making that comment. The poster was being honest. If you get offended that easily, they might be on to something. I was about to write the same thing. My guess is you two may be incompatible.
Author ExposedBrick Posted May 9, 2014 Author Posted May 9, 2014 I was about to write the same thing. My guess is you two may be incompatible. Hmmm, so your thought is I was written off before the thing started?
Zahara Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 She did say she was tired. I didn't say anything obnoxious or rude myself. I work with people all day for my job and rarely is someone able to get under my skin. Her attitude was pretty consistent from start to finish, so I really don't think its possible I could have done anything to cause this. It was somewhat baffling and hilarious. Before asking her if she was tired, she said I should contact to hang out again, but people always say that. If you can get past the first date and you want to give it another shot (hopefully she isn't tired), then ask her out again. You have to take that chance even if you think "people always say that." I've said that and meant it. It doesn't hurt to give it one more go.
Author ExposedBrick Posted May 9, 2014 Author Posted May 9, 2014 I was about to write the same thing. My guess is you two may be incompatible. Halfway through, I gave her the opportunity to bail. Finished one drink and asked if she wanted another, I'd think she would take the opportunity to bail if she was really that perturbed by me.
Chocolat Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 You seem really hostile about her, assuming it's the same girl you wrote about here. Is this the "flake" who had to cancel because she's an ER nurse and got held up at work on your first date? Regardless, you seem way too easily angered to be dating.
Valen Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 Is there any way to discern between a woman not being interested vs. her being introverted/shy? I went on a really bad date. The woman seemed tired and I felt a need to say something about which I did. She did say she was tired but she really didn't seem to get excited about anything we discussed such as her career, hobbies, travel, etc. She might just have a dull personality in which case she may have been offended. She was very physically attractive so I'm tempted to give her another shot. Any thoughts? In my profession, I work with female customers all the time, and I have to converse with them. From my experience, talking about career, hobbies, travel, etc is boring. Just imagine how many times they talk about these things in every date they have been on? As my military brother would say, "I'm tired of talking about the Navy." If you want to entertain someone in a conversation, you should always have funny stories to tell or some witty remarks about her. I work with this old guy that can make women laugh like constantly. He always say ridiculous things. Being charming isn't easy and very difficult to learn. But people who are charming are not afraid to speak their minds, even at the chance it might offend the other person.
avoforastig Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 You seem really hostile about her, assuming it's the same girl you wrote about here. Is this the "flake" who had to cancel because she's an ER nurse and got held up at work on your first date? Regardless, you seem way too easily angered to be dating. Maybe there is some truth to this, what do you suggest?
avoforastig Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 If you want to entertain someone in a conversation, you should always have funny stories to tell or some witty remarks about her. I work with this old guy that can make women laugh like constantly. He always say ridiculous things. Being charming isn't easy and very difficult to learn. But people who are charming are not afraid to speak their minds, even at the chance it might offend the other person. Seems like a valid point. Could you provide some more details or examples, this was pretty generalized statement.
Keenly Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 She did say she was tired. I didn't say anything obnoxious or rude myself. I work with people all day for my job and rarely is someone able to get under my skin. Her attitude was pretty consistent from start to finish, so I really don't think its possible I could have done anything to cause this. It was somewhat baffling and hilarious. Before asking her if she was tired, she said I should contact to hang out again, but people always say that. Don't you have another thread on the same exact girl starred today in which you said you called her out on it in the end? This would contradict your second sentence in this post. 1
DArtagnan2 Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 Halfway through, I gave her the opportunity to bail. Finished one drink and asked if she wanted another, I'd think she would take the opportunity to bail if she was really that perturbed by me. The only details I know are: bad date She was Tired She was non excited in conversation and maybe even in general she got a few drinks I am not saying she was perturbed but she surely wasn't in to "something". And unless you really offended or disgusted her or you really made her made, you can be sure she gonna stay get that drink. Afterall she did make an effort to put herself together and show. Sure, she could have been tired, or something was on her mind pretty bad, but most times, someone will cancel and reschedule if that's the case. More times then not, those that say they are "tired", "not feeling well" or do not engage in conversation or even make an effort are not having whatever you are serving. There are the rare ones that aren't just using an excuse or whatnot, so you never know. Again, I wasn't there. All you can do is call and ask for another date and find out.
avoforastig Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 The only details I know are: bad date She was Tired She was non excited in conversation and maybe even in general she got a few drinks I am not saying she was perturbed but she surely wasn't in to "something". And unless you really offended or disgusted her or you really made her made, you can be sure she gonna stay get that drink. Afterall she did make an effort to put herself together and show. Sure, she could have been tired, or something was on her mind pretty bad, but most times, someone will cancel and reschedule if that's the case. More times then not, those that say they are "tired", "not feeling well" or do not engage in conversation or even make an effort are not having whatever you are serving. There are the rare ones that aren't just using an excuse or whatnot, so you never know. Again, I wasn't there. All you can do is call and ask for another date and find out. Sure. Its a waste of time to think about it anymore.
avoforastig Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 Don't you have another thread on the same exact girl starred today in which you said you called her out on it in the end? This would contradict your second sentence in this post. Right, no reason to beat a dead horse. I didn't say anything questionably rude until the end of the date.
Chocolat Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 Right, no reason to beat a dead horse. I didn't say anything questionably rude until the end of the date. Are you the OP? Who is ExposedBrick?
Keenly Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 Right, no reason to beat a dead horse. I didn't say anything questionably rude until the end of the date. If that was YOU then please disregard. The threads are just very... very similar.
sarbunoemi Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 I dunno but we women, love to talk about ourselves especially about our hobbies, likes, dislikes. It's how you connect with someone. Funny men are the most successful on the dating field, but you can't say funny stories all the time. You can't entertain somebody if the other person doesn't feel any connection with you. So, you did your best, if she doesn't contribute it's not your problem that she feels this way. You can ask her out if you want to but ask out other girls too.
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