steelgator Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 So my long distance relationship ended yesterday. The month before we didn't talk at all because she was getting ready to take finals for her first year of law school and didn't have time for me. So when she got back home I called her and she said her grandfather had just passed away on top of that. She then told me she needed to tell me that I'm a perfect boyfriend but not "right" for her and that any girl would be lucky to have me and that I'm smart, sexy, compassionate, caring, and I treat her so well and we connected but she doesn't see us together long term. She said with law school and everything else going on that she needed to take time out for herself to grow and mature as a person to figure out what she needs. She said she felt guilty for stringing me along and didn't know how to break up with me and that it's really hard for her because she still cares about me. And after saying all this she said that whenever she hears my voice that it "soothes and comforts" her I agreed and didn't offer any resistance and told her that everything is okay. We agreed to keep in touch and contact eachother a couple times a year to see how things are with eachother. My question is, if I did everything right and I was a perfect boyfriend to her and she said she had fun hanging out with me, that my voice puts her at ease and calms her. How am I not "right" for her? I loved this girl dearly and am heartbroken even though I didn't tell her I was. Does she just need more time?
ExpatInItaly Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 Sorry to hear about your situation, OP. It hurts and most of us have been there at some point. It sounds like you didn't do anything wrong. You just drifted apart. It happens, unfortunately. She realized something wasn't right for her. How long were you together? And how long were you long-distance?
Author steelgator Posted May 9, 2014 Author Posted May 9, 2014 We were together for about a year, long distance for about 8 or 9 months of the year. We were close for the first 2 months. I flew up once to see her and we also saw eachother christmas and spring break. Funny thing is, after new years she met my parents and she gave me a gift card to my phone company to add more talking minutes so we could talk more. But right after that is when we started talking less and I just attributed it to her law school workload
justwhoiam Posted May 10, 2014 Posted May 10, 2014 I might be wrong, but I think she wants to have more experience with guys. Dating, going out, having fun, have some guys in her bed too, probably. I wouldn't keep in touch twice a year, I would just let her go. If you find a good girlfriend, she probably wouldn't like you keeping the door open for your ex. Time to move on and let her go. She asked for it. She needs her freedom right now. She might regret it, or find a man who's right for her later on in her life. But definitely, her feelings were mild for you. And you need to get a girl with strong feelings for you, who's passionate & everything. Good luck.
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