rdons1 Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 It ended only a day ago, she broke up with me. My plan was to go no contact .I was talking to a friend about it talking about how it was confusing because the night before we broke up she was acting like she like she liked me saying how much she missed me and was acting like everything was fine. Then the next day said she was completely done and didn't feel the same way about me anymore. So I went through me and my exes texts to screenshot the parts where she was being all "lovey-dovey" and stuff to send to my friend but I wasn't paying attention and sent all these things to my ex instead...extremely awkward. After I realized I had done this I replied with "omg I didn't mean to send these to you please don't even respond to this" she responded anyway with "loll awkward" and then I tried to redeem myself and made up some bull about how my sister was saying how she's a and I was just looking for nice things she said to show my sister so she can see its not that bad and she gave me another response and then I stopped answering. My main question is whether this is as big of a deal as I am making and if I killed any chances at maybe getting back together.
tlegend Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 It ended only a day ago, she broke up with me. My plan was to go no contact .I was talking to a friend about it talking about how it was confusing because the night before we broke up she was acting like she like she liked me saying how much she missed me and was acting like everything was fine. Then the next day said she was completely done and didn't feel the same way about me anymore. So I went through me and my exes texts to screenshot the parts where she was being all "lovey-dovey" and stuff to send to my friend but I wasn't paying attention and sent all these things to my ex instead...extremely awkward. After I realized I had done this I replied with "omg I didn't mean to send these to you please don't even respond to this" she responded anyway with "loll awkward" and then I tried to redeem myself and made up some bull about how my sister was saying how she's a and I was just looking for nice things she said to show my sister so she can see its not that bad and she gave me another response and then I stopped answering. My main question is whether this is as big of a deal as I am making and if I killed any chances at maybe getting back together. If she just broke it off with you....instead of trying to manipulate your way back into the relationship (which clearly failed for a reason), why not work on bettering yourself and showing her what she's missing? If she comes back to you, she has to come back on her own accord. Until then, get the notion of a reconciliation out of your head.
SpiritualAlchemy Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 She's just rejected you. She doesn't want you any longer. Go to nc and stay there, don't worry about the embarrassment, you'll get over that. But save yourself further humiliation and delete her number and block her. If she wants you back, she will have to do the hard work of finding you and making it up to you.
J21 Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 It's over. Relationships are a two way street, and the fact that she broke up with you means she does not want a relationship with you anymore. Why on earth would you entertain thoughts of potentially getting back together? Just take time to heal and move forward with your life. Stop texting other people all the private lovey dovey stuff between you and your ex. Firstly, it's meant to be private. Just because you broke up doesn't mean you can go around sharing it. How would you like if someone shared your private conversations with others? Secondly, it doesn't do much except hurt you all the more.
ExpatInItaly Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 It probably isn't as big of a deal to your ex as it is to you. You see it as possibly ruining a chance of a reconciliation. She likely just sees it as a uncomfortable faux-pas on your part. 2
Bruce Leigh Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 I don't understand why people still have the exes number in the phone. I understand it was only a day so i'll give you that one 1
Dallers Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 Breaking up sucks and getting over someone sucks. Sometimes it eats you up and takes forever and sometimes if you grab it by the balls you can move on quite quickly and not waste your time and chance of missing out on potential girls just around the corner. The saying "Out of sight, out of mind" is a very good one. Get rid of everything that reminds you of her, that includes messages. Put it to bed. I am one of those people that likes to go back for seconds once a relationship ends at first, or I was until I learnt that once it is over it really is over. There is only a very small chance that you would make a go of it again properly and there is always that doubt. Out of sight, out of mind and surround yourself with people, try not to be alone.
Mr.Pine Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 My main question is whether this is as big of a deal as I am making and if I killed any chances at maybe getting back together. Your last line makes it clear that you are going the NC route with the wrong intentions. NC is to heal. NC is to help you move on. NC is to make the breakup easier by avoiding any and all contact by the one that dumped your sorry ass to the curb. NC is for you, not her. The quicker you realize that, the faster you'll get over her. P.S. You're a shmuck for sending your friend your private texts. We both know you were hoping to get caught. We both know you intended to send them to your freshly minted ex. I was born at night; just not last night. 1
KaliLove Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 I'm totally calling BS on this. You definitely meant to send them to your ex..you know it, and she knows it. This, ladies and gentlemen, is why you should ALWAYS DELETE YOUR EXES CONTACT INFO FROM YOUR PHONE! Save it elsewhere if you must, but delete from your phone so you at least have some time to think before you do dumb@ss bullcrap like this! Go full NC!
organizedchaos Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 I'm totally calling BS on this. You definitely meant to send them to your ex..you know it, and she knows it. This, ladies and gentlemen, is why you should ALWAYS DELETE YOUR EXES CONTACT INFO FROM YOUR PHONE! Save it elsewhere if you must, but delete from your phone so you at least have some time to think before you do dumb@ss bullcrap like this! Go full NC! Yep, slightly related...recently I recently got a new phone. Installed a Twitter client, wasn't paying attention when setting it up and accidentally followed everyone in my contacts list who it found on Twitter. Needless to say, I accidentally followed my ex since I still had her contact info. Once I realized what happened I quickly unfollowed but of course, she would have got a notification that I followed her. She probably thought I was stalking her profile when I wasn't. It really was an accident but goes to show what can happen by keeping that contact info. She never inquired and I never said anything to her about it but I felt like a moron.
Virgin26 Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 I'm totally calling BS on this. You definitely meant to send them to your ex..you know it, and she knows it. This, ladies and gentlemen, is why you should ALWAYS DELETE YOUR EXES CONTACT INFO FROM YOUR PHONE! Save it elsewhere if you must, but delete from your phone so you at least have some time to think before you do dumb@ss bullcrap like this! Go full NC! I don't know the OP, but I disagree with this. Sometimes we send thing to people when we think or talk about them and it's completely unintentional. I once wanted to send a funny pic to my friend and was talking about my boss while I was sending the pic. I ended up sending the photo to my boss, and it was a bit inappropriate Anyway, it happens and it's only been a day since his breakup, so he's used to communicating with his ex on a regular basis. It's only human to make such a mistake. That being said, I think you should learn from this mistake, delete her number, Facebook, etc, and go no contact so you can heal and move on. No Contact might make her miss you, but not to the point that she'll want you back. Please do it for yourself and save yourself any further embarrassment. 1
Itspointless Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 I don't know the OP, but I disagree with this. Sometimes we send thing to people when we think or talk about them and it's completely unintentional. I once wanted to send a funny pic to my friend and was talking about my boss while I was sending the pic. I ended up sending the photo to my boss, and it was a bit inappropriate Anyway, it happens and it's only been a day since his breakup, so he's used to communicating with his ex on a regular basis. It's only human to make such a mistake.. I wanted to write (almost) the same
Author rdons1 Posted May 10, 2014 Author Posted May 10, 2014 I'm totally calling BS on this. You definitely meant to send them to your ex..you know it, and she knows it. This, ladies and gentlemen, is why you should ALWAYS DELETE YOUR EXES CONTACT INFO FROM YOUR PHONE! Save it elsewhere if you must, but delete from your phone so you at least have some time to think before you do dumb@ss bullcrap like this! Go full NC! If I did it on purpose why would I even be posting about it here? It happened because when I screenshotted them I wasn't paying attention and never left my conversation with her to go to my friends I just stayed in the conversation with her by accident and sent them and then immediately realized what I did.
KaliLove Posted May 10, 2014 Posted May 10, 2014 Unfortunately that's not what she thinks. I guarantee you she thinks you did it on purpose. Also, why on earth were you trying to send private text conversations to someone else? That's so rude.
hoping2heal Posted May 10, 2014 Posted May 10, 2014 People who try to use NC to win their ex back are in denial. If someone has decided to dump you, they are prepared to be without you. Sure, some want to be "friends" because they feel guilty and being friends makes it seem like they didn't hurt you that badly. Sure, dumpers get insecure and lonely and sometimes reach out their hand for some validation from an ex. But, point is that you being gone does not resolve any of the issues that led to a break up in the first place. Whatever the reason is. Whether its issues a dumper has with themselves, or issues they have with a dumpee. 1
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