princess rose Posted February 8, 2005 Posted February 8, 2005 Well, ladies and gentlemen, it's been awhile since I've been on here. Anyway, I got rid of my alcoholic, jailbird boyfriend, hooray!! 3 months ago, I got back together with a guy I'd dated many years ago, and well, it's been a rollercoaster. The biggest issue has been the lack of time we spend together. He's somewhat of a workaholic, and his family obligations keep him quite busy, so I complained that I felt I wasn't a priority. This weekend, it came to a head after he said he'd come out and play pool sometime Friday night, but wasn't able to show up, due to the fact he had to pick his sister up from work and help her grocery shop. I left him a message on his cell that said I was breaking up with him, because I thought this issue wasn't ever gonna go away, and I thought we should just be friends, but, sweet as he is, he hadn't gotten the message, as his phone was dead, and he'd been out looking for me for about 20 minutes, so we sat and talked about our problem and it seemed things would start to get better. Well, lo and behold, this evening, when I check my cell phone messages after coming home from work, there's a long message from him about how he's going out-of-state for 6 months for his work, and that he won't be able to call me because it's long distance, and that he doesn't expect me to wait for him. He also said that more details would be forthcoming soon. What the hell!! I'm pissed off and hurt, and I'm here for advice/consolation/slaps upside the head, whatever. My heart is broken, and you know how that story goes.
pizzanova Posted February 8, 2005 Posted February 8, 2005 He isnt really going out of state for 6 months. He's playing a prank on you, because of what you pulled the other night.
moon Posted February 8, 2005 Posted February 8, 2005 Sorry, but if that isn't true that he's going to be out of the state for six months........I'd just have to laugh at that. That's so childish. But it sounds like he knows you were breaking up with him anyway....I'd move on. I only say that because you already mentioned he's a jailbird and an alcoholic. That's a lot of stress to deal with.
Devildog Posted February 8, 2005 Posted February 8, 2005 She dumped the alcholic jailbird. She is currently breaking up with a different guy she had dated before, a workaholic who puts his family first before his relationship. It is kind of early in the relationship. After 3 months it might still be a bit early for him to feel that he should put his family on the back burner for you. It sounds like he isn't really ready to settle down at this point. You need to decide if you are willing to wait until he is ready to get serious or not.
acidrein_08 Posted February 8, 2005 Posted February 8, 2005 Yeah you can definently look at the bright sides on this one. He hasn't said that there is anything wrong with you, just that he is to busy for a relationship at this point. Your lucky to have been it in for just 3 months but you should have seen all those other times as warning signs that it wasn't going to work. There are more out there that will give you there time, just sit back and let this one go.
Author princess rose Posted February 12, 2005 Author Posted February 12, 2005 Well, good forum readers: Here's an update. My boyfriend isn't told his company he didn't wanna go out of town for six months, so now he only has to go for one month. that's really good news. Also, things are getting better, and he is taking my concerns seriously. Just the other other night, he paid me a suprise visit even thought I was recovering from the flu, he tried to cheer me up. I thought that was sweet. Anyway, just thought I'd let you guys know what was up. Thanks for your support.
Recommended Posts