Murtz Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 So five months ago I took my exgirlfriend for granted and she broke up with me. I put video games a priority over her and my addiction to it ruined our relationship. She was so in love with me, but I didn't give her the attention she needed and even let video games get in the way of sex. She was the most innocent little girl and never drank, partied, or slept around. I treasured the fact that me and her were the only ones that have slept with each other and we talked about sharing that for the rest of our lives. Well she broke up with me of course and started drinking. Five months later she tells me that she slept with two guys right after we broke up. She even promised to me that she wouldn't sleep with anyone until she knew for sure she didn't want to get back together with me. I have spent the last five months fighting for her whether it be through grand gestures or no contact. She has finally told me this and said she didn't want to tell me because she was afraid that I would be mad and wouldn't want to get back together. She sent me this through an email because she was too nervous and afraid to tell me in person. I think she wants back together. Why else would she come out like this? It really does hurt that I will never be able to share this with her, but at the same time I was unable to provide for her sexually, so she went elsewhere to find it. I forgive her, but if she continues this behavior, she is not the same girl I fell in love with. I am in love with the girl she was 5 months ago before she broke up with me and would spend the rest of my life with her. I am talking with her tomorrow. What should I do? What should I ask her? What should I ask myself?
No Limit Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 First off; she's not the girl from 5 months ago anymore. There's always change day by day and from your description it's clear that she's changed greatly. And while some may argue that she can sleep with whoever she wants when you're not toether; if she's made a promise like that, breaking it still makes it broken trust. The way I see it she's kept you nearby 'just in case', or simply didn't know how to handle your frequent attempts to stay in touch. With your addiction I'm not trying to say that the breakup was for selfish reasons but dragging you along isn't exactly right either. Just what exactly do you expect of this relationship? And what exactly makes you feel it's worth pursuing it? 1
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