ls819 Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 This guy I have been seeing on and off for about two years.... I'm starting to really catch feelings for him. Our relationship whatever it is has always been the same...it's stagnant. He pursues me and I see him. Even if I'm busy he will push to see me...trying to make me feel guilty. If I pursue him he doesn't always answer and it makes me feel bad. I'm not the persistent type the way he is blowing up the phone. I'll call once with anyone and then it's up to them to get back to me. I'm just sad and need advice. I used to only see him late at night...and I stopped at one point because it made me feel bad it would always be so early in the morning. But it's now been two years and we work closely together now so I see him during normal hours. He flirts and makes it obvious in front of his Co workers we had/have something. I don't want to fall for him buy there's a chemistry I can't move on from. What to do? I've told him how I felt before and he reached out to me and apologized for making me feel that way and that he would try and change.
d0nnivain Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 After 2 years you should be able to talk to him. Spell out what you want. Hopefully he'll give it to you. 1
Gaeta Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 You're his booty call and he is not going to change. Those are empty promises to keep you on his speed dial for sex. I have been there. When I blocked the guy he made superhuman efforts to get me back, even told me he loved me. At the moment I let him back in my life I went back to being his late night booty call. Sexual chemistry is really hard to let go but you've got to do what you've got to do and end it permanently. He stalled you enough already. 2
soccerrprp Posted May 9, 2014 Posted May 9, 2014 Is819, He is playing you! He is not going to change b/c you don't give him a reason to. He makes empty promises b/c it works on you. Get away and don't look back no matter what he does! 3
Author ls819 Posted May 10, 2014 Author Posted May 10, 2014 Yea you're all right... I need to be more stern with what I want and stick up for myself. Usually I can but with him it's not easy because his personality is very domineering. Sometimes I dont even know what I want with him. It's been two years so I'm almost beyond looking to him for a relationship but I just don't like being ignored considering I don't try and talk to him regularly. But regardless staying stagnant with him is not helping me find what I'm looking for. Thanks for the advice
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