BetrayedH Posted May 8, 2014 Posted May 8, 2014 May 1st marked three years. I missed it. Ah, progress. 32
Smilecharmer Posted May 8, 2014 Posted May 8, 2014 Good. It means you are healing and moving on. Congratulations. 2
ChooseTruth Posted May 8, 2014 Posted May 8, 2014 Congrats! Life marches on. I don't even know the exact date of my DDay . 4
dichotomy Posted May 8, 2014 Posted May 8, 2014 You have a nice woman in your life now right? I am sure that helps ! 3
Owl Posted May 8, 2014 Posted May 8, 2014 Funny...your post prompted me to go back and look. I remembered it was in this general timeframe that my d-day occurred...10 years ago. I went through my old email acct...found my first 'proof' of what was going on. 10 years ago today, at this very time, they were trying to figure out how to meet face to face. Think I'll celebrate. I'm gonna go home tonight, make sure we have a good meal, and a nice, quiet, relaxing, loving evening with just the two of us. 5
Fluttershy Posted May 8, 2014 Posted May 8, 2014 Thankfully I have never been good with dates so I never really had "anniversaries". I'm glad you are moving forward despite the difficulties in co parenting. 2
snappytomcat Posted May 8, 2014 Posted May 8, 2014 the1 year anniversary of my dday,will be on june 7th I have no idea how I will react,but I plan on keeping super busy that day im happy you have moved on,and sounds like youre in a good place 3
Owl Posted May 8, 2014 Posted May 8, 2014 Hey BetrayedH...I just realized that my post could have come across as 'rubbing it in your face'. I'm pretty positive that you know me well enough to know that wasn't the intent at all...if anything, it's kinda rubbing it in the face of 'ex-OM'...but in no way intended at all as any kind of insult to you, old friend! 1
Author BetrayedH Posted May 8, 2014 Author Posted May 8, 2014 You have a nice woman in your life now right? I am sure that helps ! Yeah, I think having limited contact with the ex (who is the trigger master) and being with a good woman instead has made an immense difference. I'm not sure the day would have just come and gone otherwise. 3
Author BetrayedH Posted May 8, 2014 Author Posted May 8, 2014 Hey BetrayedH...I just realized that my post could have come across as 'rubbing it in your face'. I'm pretty positive that you know me well enough to know that wasn't the intent at all...if anything, it's kinda rubbing it in the face of 'ex-OM'...but in no way intended at all as any kind of insult to you, old friend! Not at all, pal. Funny enough, I was feeling bad that I caused you to remember that you were in the middle of a Dday. We'll call it even. Have yourself a nice evening with the missus.
Owl Posted May 8, 2014 Posted May 8, 2014 Not at all, pal. Funny enough, I was feeling bad that I caused you to remember that you were in the middle of a Dday. We'll call it even. Have yourself a nice evening with the missus. That's the funny thing...thinking back on this "time of troubles" as we call it doesn't really bring me any pain anymore. It's kinda like thinking back to any of the other bad things that happened to you...if you've healed from them, they don't really hurt anymore. They're just part of the past. No worries at all, friend. No pain, 'cause things are great between us now. Wife actually has a cold, so I'm gonna pick up some soup for her, and just make sure she rests and eats. No stresses at all on my side of the internet, my friend! 2
Author BetrayedH Posted May 8, 2014 Author Posted May 8, 2014 That's the funny thing...thinking back on this "time of troubles" as we call it doesn't really bring me any pain anymore. It's kinda like thinking back to any of the other bad things that happened to you...if you've healed from them, they don't really hurt anymore. They're just part of the past. No worries at all, friend. No pain, 'cause things are great between us now. Wife actually has a cold, so I'm gonna pick up some soup for her, and just make sure she rests and eats. No stresses at all on my side of the internet, my friend! None here either. Party on with that. Peace out.
atreides Posted May 8, 2014 Posted May 8, 2014 How cool is that.... congrats... and as for next year, cheers to never recalling it again... all the best 1
merrmeade Posted May 24, 2014 Posted May 24, 2014 May 1st marked three years. I missed it. Ah, progress. Oh, thanks, BH - might have forgotten mine on the 31st but not now! Not to worry. There's still time to forget and remember again. But maybe there are no anniversaries. I mean, I could say I have several a week. Discovery as in digging. Figuring it out. Granted, we had several because, well, turned out he had several. Truth and reconciliation have been a, ahem, slow process. Still digging.... 2
Author BetrayedH Posted May 24, 2014 Author Posted May 24, 2014 Oh, thanks, BH - might have forgotten mine on the 31st but not now! Not to worry. There's still time to forget and remember again. But maybe there are no anniversaries. I mean, I could say I have several a week. Discovery as in digging. Figuring it out. Granted, we had several because, well, turned out he had several. Truth and reconciliation have been a, ahem, slow process. Still digging.... Maybe you can celebrate your antiversaries all month, like my Mom does with her birthday. 2
Zenstudent Posted May 25, 2014 Posted May 25, 2014 Congratulations, BH. I envy you. I just passed my third d-day anniversary, and though I tried very hard to be super busy, I just couldn't avoid tears in my eyes on one occassion. But that's progress too, so maybe in a few years from now... 1
veritas lux mea Posted May 25, 2014 Posted May 25, 2014 We don't even know what day is ours. That helps. 2
jnel921 Posted May 25, 2014 Posted May 25, 2014 It's been 17 years since I D my first H and I honestly don't remember when was D Day. All I know that that was the best decision on my life! 1
10thengineerharrison Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 Most people here wouldn't remember, but my d-day was 3 months after a major house fire at our house. Only it wasn't to the day - it was either the day before or the day after the 3-month mark since the fire. I remember being embarrassed, of all things, that I couldn't remember which it was, already, at the 1-year mark. Now, I can't remember either date! And fortunately, I usually don't notice I've missed them for months after they've passed. Life is good. -10th Engineer Harrison 1
Spark1111 Posted May 28, 2014 Posted May 28, 2014 Most people here wouldn't remember, but my d-day was 3 months after a major house fire at our house. Only it wasn't to the day - it was either the day before or the day after the 3-month mark since the fire. I remember being embarrassed, of all things, that I couldn't remember which it was, already, at the 1-year mark. Now, I can't remember either date! And fortunately, I usually don't notice I've missed them for months after they've passed. Life is good. -10th Engineer Harrison Thanks 10 for the realistic reminder of how terrible DDAY seemed at the time, it COULD HAVE ALWAYS been worse....much worse! jeez, why didn't I have a full on house fire to help blot out the date? BH.....so, so proud of you MAN! 2
drifter777 Posted May 30, 2014 Posted May 30, 2014 May 1st marked three years. I missed it. Ah, progress. Yes, you pretty much have made it out the other side of your wife's disgusting betrayal. If it never got any better then it is now would it be ok with you? You can disagree, but I think divorcing her accelerated your recovery ten-fold. It helped you regain your self-respect and balance the scales of life. Regardless, you are doing great and I'm happy for you.
Author BetrayedH Posted May 31, 2014 Author Posted May 31, 2014 If it never got any better then it is now would it be ok with you? Hmm. Not really, bro. I want better. I'm not there yet. But I have confidence that I'll get there. Some luck would be nice. Otherwise, I appreciate your words and thoughts, drifter. I think you know that.
underpants Posted June 1, 2014 Posted June 1, 2014 I think you moved on too quickly with a girlfriend, to fill the void, or have righteous victory, or the comfort level of a light relationship. I'm worried you are going to hurt this girl, like I used to worry about Woggle screwing things up with his awesome wife, because of residual stuff. Hope Woggs doesn't mind the reference. BH, how long have you gone ...on your own completely? I ask because to know one's self you have to be okay with one's self, then when you master yourself, you know how to share with another truely, without fear. Or I could be completely wrong. Anyway, glad you left a toxic situation. Who mourns a bad thing? Well we do until we realize that we were stupid to do so, because our life is supposed to be great. BH, its okay to have a super great life. I dare you. 2
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