MarkRaiders733 Posted February 8, 2005 Posted February 8, 2005 My gf and i broke up a month or two ago (it was a bad breakup and we felt bad about it afterward) and we didnt talk for awhile. I sent her a card recently asking how she was doing, saying i had been thinking bout her and just wanted to know how she was, told her i got into college, some other general stuff. She called me right when she got the letter, saying that she had been wanting to call me for awhile but was afraid that id still be angry and all the anger went away and we both felt sorry. The problem is, im honestly not over her, and i dont think shes over me either. She calls me twice a day and occasionally asks me questions like "are u still a virgin" and stuff, says she misses me and asks me everyday if i have a new gf. Yea, ive gotten a few phone numbers but i havent really called on them yet because i still really love her and think she still cares about me. Shes dating someone right now but they arent really that serious. The reason we broke up in the first place is that it became long distance but she keeps sayin how she wants to come down in visit (in fact, she is next month) and i dont know what to think about her behavior. Do you think she still likes me? Shoul i make a move to say i still love her when she comes down? Please help, i really love this girl and dont want this to end badly....
acidrein_08 Posted February 8, 2005 Posted February 8, 2005 This one is difficult to say the least. You a very fortunate that she still see's interest in you even after she has found someone else. I would not make any rash decisions and spill out your emotions on her becuase it might scare her away. Just keep yourself cool and collected and let nature take its course. Don't get your hopes up high here becuase when you do you start believing things different then thay actually are. Good luck!
Author MarkRaiders733 Posted February 8, 2005 Author Posted February 8, 2005 Thanks for the advice. Any additional input anyone?
FolderWife Posted February 8, 2005 Posted February 8, 2005 Well, the problem that broke you up is still there...long distance. Plus, she has a boyfriend, and believe it or not, even when you love someone else, it's hard to break up with someone your with...sometimes out of guilt. Yeah, it sounds like she still likes you, and you like her, but with her having a boyfriend, there's no point in you getting too involved, even if it doesn't sound serious when she conveys it to you. She may just be doing that to spare your feelings. And again, it's still long distance, and that's what broke you two up. A sure fire way to get her back would be to date someone else. I knew a guy who was 'friends' with his ex. As soon as he and I started going out, that ho bag couldn't stand it, so she dumped her boyfriend, and went chasing after mine, and of course, I got dumped for her leftovers You had her first, so her new boyfriend doesn't stand a chance. I remember when I started dating at the ripe age of 18, EVERYONE in my hometown had an ex that they would get back with after me I got dumped for the old girlfriend more times that I care to count Justin-1 Sheldon-2 Chad-3 Jason-4 Toney-5 Aarron-6 Six SIX TIMES!!!! SIX FREAKING TIMES THAT I GOT DUMPED FOR THE EX. So no, it isn't permanent
Author MarkRaiders733 Posted February 8, 2005 Author Posted February 8, 2005 Thats exactly what my friend suggested I do. My problem is that Id feel bad for starting a relationship with someone with the intention of using her to get my ex back, but I really want her back so I guess I'll have to. Thanks.
DinNJ Posted February 8, 2005 Posted February 8, 2005 Who said you had to start one??? She calls twice a day??? and she has a boyfriend??? That's a perfect excuse for you to distant yourself from her. (without actually letting her know what u r up 2) You want her back??? Don't always be there... don't EVER call her back... You ignore this girl for two weeks and I promise you her mind will do a 180 degree turn. The mind plays tricks on any and everyone when there's no contact. If you do answer the phone... keep it short and sweet... but without emotions. End the conversations.... "I'm have to meet someone for lunch, dinner... " "I'm going to the movies in an hour... I'll call ya later.." don't call. "Bowling... running... walking...with a FRIEND" always leave it with a 'friend' Play it like you don't give a shi# and she WILL be back.
alphamale Posted February 8, 2005 Posted February 8, 2005 Originally posted by MarkRaiders733 Do you think she still likes me? Yes, she does.
Author MarkRaiders733 Posted February 9, 2005 Author Posted February 9, 2005 Thanks for all the advice guys. Ill post again if nething happens.
Author MarkRaiders733 Posted February 10, 2005 Author Posted February 10, 2005 If she doesnt call one day should i call her? Im sry this must seem wierd but i really dont want to ruin my chances.
Author MarkRaiders733 Posted February 10, 2005 Author Posted February 10, 2005 Just to be safe i didnt, but i keep worrying that if she doesnt call one day or something thats a bad sign, i dunno maybe im worrying too much, what do u guys think?
Author MarkRaiders733 Posted February 14, 2005 Author Posted February 14, 2005 I think what you guys suggested is working! I left my cell phone alone for a week and when I came back all the missed calls were from her. Today she called and I answered the phone to wish her happy valentine's day (we had agreed to send each other a card) and we talked for awhile. I can tell she really likes talking to me. What do you guys think? Should I keep it up until she comes back to visit (in like 2 weeks)?
DinNJ Posted February 14, 2005 Posted February 14, 2005 Definately keep it up.... she's not back 100% yet. Don't be emotional, don't talk about feelings, don't talk about the past... let her wonder about YOU!
Author MarkRaiders733 Posted February 27, 2005 Author Posted February 27, 2005 This weekend i was skiing and she called me at 1 o'clock in the morning and we talked for like an hour and she asked "why don't u ever call me?" She didnt sound angry, sort of flirty actually but i begin to wonder, should i keep doing what im doing or call her? Btw, the next day she called me 3 times when i was skiing leaving a message each time...u think its working?
Author MarkRaiders733 Posted March 10, 2005 Author Posted March 10, 2005 She now is calling every other day to ask like if im in a relationship and stuff. Its wierd tho because then shes talking about the person shes dating with now, tho they arent serious she says. Is she trying to make me jealous or something? Im so confused by all this and I really want to get back w/her...shes coming to visit in April and I find it hard to do anything other than hope for this relationship of hers to end...as selfish as that may seem
Author MarkRaiders733 Posted March 16, 2005 Author Posted March 16, 2005 Ok, things have turned wierd. For some reason we wound up talking about our relationship, and she said she didnt think it would work but then the strangest thing happened. She started calling MORE. Today alone she called me three times. Do u think shes in denial?
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