Jay77098 Posted May 8, 2014 Posted May 8, 2014 Hi All - Some of you on here may have read my story about my BU with my GF. I am now 2 months post-BU, and I am riding the normal emotional roller coaster. Some days are OK, and some days are pure misery. Nighttime is the worst, being alone at home and going to bed alone. And all the while being filled with jealousy because my ex has a new BF. It's awful. I did want recommend a book that I have started reading, as it has been very helpful in figuring out WHY this is all so very hard. The book is called "The Journey from Abandonment to Healing" by Susan Anderson. I am about halfway through it, and I can say that it has really helped. I will forewarn you that the book contains a lot of material about the body's biochemical and biophysical responses to a breakup. So, much of the book delves into the biology of the brain and what it does to you in this BU scenario. HOWEVER, I have found this material to be strangely comforting. There are physical reasons behind the longing, behind the inability to let go, behind the crushing desire to be back with the ex. When I read/learned about this stuff, it showed me that at least I'm not crazy. Well, not totally anyway. I recommend the read for all of you (us) who are going through the pains of the breakup. It doesn't FIX the problem, and you won't be smiling and happy just because you read it. But I have found it to be helpful. 1
Michael 93 Posted June 20, 2014 Posted June 20, 2014 Hey man currently looking into buying this book. How was it? Im looking into getting it and wanted to see how its made you feel afterwards? Mike
windypast Posted June 24, 2014 Posted June 24, 2014 I just finished another book by her. Black Swan. Very good. Will be ordering the one you mentioned next.
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