FrostBlaze Posted May 8, 2014 Posted May 8, 2014 There's this girl i enjoy talking to, but on more then one ocasion she told me i give her butterflies...only to later say it was nothing if i tried to act on it. Even said she want's me at some point.(<--this only once) She has done this multiple times(butterfly thing), does she actually feel anything or what's the catch with all the games? ALSO: how does one get/give them, and what does it feel like? I think i felt it, but not enough times to be sure what this butterflies are...yeah. I noticed the only moment's she feels this butterflies is when i pressure her, like dominate the conversation among other stuff...but it's rare when i'm in such a "good" mood, since i am mostly kinda depressed and laid back ^^.
central Posted May 8, 2014 Posted May 8, 2014 If you don't act on her statement about butterflies immediately, it feels like a rejection, so later on she'll protect her feelings by saying it was nothing, because by the time you get around to doing something, it may feel like you're just using her. You two need better communication and a actual date to pursue your feelings and see where it goes.
MidwestUSA Posted May 8, 2014 Posted May 8, 2014 Well, you turn her on when you're confident, manly and joking around. When you're depressed, yea, she's not feeling it. Be the confident man more often, and she'll have the butterflies more often. 3
Author FrostBlaze Posted May 8, 2014 Author Posted May 8, 2014 Well, you turn her on when you're confident, manly and joking around. When you're depressed, yea, she's not feeling it. Be the confident man more often, and she'll have the butterflies more often. Figured as much, but i can't always do it, more often than not i find it to be quite a big effort on my side to be like that, simply because it isn't really how i am. As for reaction time, i reacted quick the first time she said it, bailed out on me when we set up a date with some excuse, when we talked about it she said it was a mistake. (all them feelz) Since then i don't take it to srsly when she tells me her "butterflies" thing...i always reminder her actually. "Just like last time? Seems to not last to long, it's a thing of the moment".
MidwestUSA Posted May 8, 2014 Posted May 8, 2014 Figured as much, but i can't always do it, more often than not i find it to be quite a big effort on my side to be like that, simply because it isn't really how i am. Since then i don't take it to srsly when she tells me her "butterflies" thing...i always reminder her actually. "Just like last time? Seems to not last to long, it's a thing of the moment". Well, you might actually be able to play it that way. Joke about it, make a game of it. Then you'll get to a certain comfort level. Maybe.
Author FrostBlaze Posted May 8, 2014 Author Posted May 8, 2014 Maybe, why do they all like to play games anyway.
MidwestUSA Posted May 8, 2014 Posted May 8, 2014 Maybe, why do they all like to play games anyway. I meant a playful game, one in which you wittingly partake. Something to lighten the mood; put you more at ease. But that's okay if you don't want to.
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