Eternal Sunshine Posted May 23, 2014 Posted May 23, 2014 There is no last resort texts. If someone doesn't isn't interested (and you would be hearing from them if they were) - what's the point? 2
Taramere Posted May 23, 2014 Posted May 23, 2014 I seem to keep falling at the hurdle somewhere between exchanging numbers and getting a date. Although I have had a couple of people ask me out, it is (typically) the ones I actually think are cute that end up stopping texting... one guy after on-and-off texting for a few months, during which he asked me on two dates I couldn't make, and another who stopped after he got my college wrong and I corrected him. Would you consider it acceptable to send "last resort" texts, like "I'm volunteering at this live music event Friday, it's going to be really good! You should come!" Or is a guy who gives up after asking me out twice and another who is put off just by a correction not worth it? I think when the guy suggested a date you couldn't make, the proper response would have been to say "I'm busy on X, but how about Y?" Seems to me like the natural response too. If you didn't do that the first time the guy asked you out and you couldn't make it, then I'm a bit surprised he asked you out again - and not at all surprised he stopped bothering when you said no to the second date suggestion. It does sound as though both those guys have vanished from your pool of options now, and it's unlikely you'd accomplish anything by contacting them now. Trying to put myself in the shoes of the guy you couldn't make two dates with...if somebody seemed that disinterested in me and then suddenly contacted me at a later date with a burst of apparent enthusiasm, I'd be suspicious. I'd probably think they were hoping I'd fix them up with one of my friends, or useful contacts or had some other utiliatarian purpose for contacting me that had nothing to do with wanting to spend time in my company.
DArtagnan2 Posted May 23, 2014 Posted May 23, 2014 There is no last resort texts. If someone doesn't isn't interested (and you would be hearing from them if they were) - what's the point? to me, it depends on the last interaction. Like her saying No to the one guy twice when he asked her to do something with him. Not every guy is pushy, thinks he is King James, or so overly confident that after two turn downs, they will continue to try because she "has to be in to him". If someone turned me down twice, and sometimes even just once, and doesn't somehow let me know they would like a rain check, then I would have to think, they are just not that in to me so I am not going to continue to pursue it and look like a stalker or whatever label would be put on me. The point in this case was that if she sent that text, he would have responded in kind and they would have reconnected. It was only by lucky chance they ran in to each other and were able to reconnect. so yeh, looks like he was and is still in to her. That text would have yielded a positive result. 1
Taramere Posted May 23, 2014 Posted May 23, 2014 Ah, glad it turned out okay. Mea culpa for not reading the entire thread. Again.
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