Not a long post...but how to move on from this?

[itsabiguniverse]

This guy I recently met really seemed like he liked me at first, like seemed really Really into me but I guess ultimately he just wanted to "casually date" and he somewhat used me to sleep with me. He said he's been in relationships before and he prefers casual dating and not something serious right now. He said, "thought it was obvious. I'm a senior in college about to graduate." The thing is I can't tell if maybe I had handled the situation differently instead of saying things like, don't ever text me again if you're just doing it to use me...if maybe if I had been cooler about it he would have realized later on that he likes me...? He told me he liked hanging out with me and I thought we had a lot in common...and we had fun together. But I feel like if he really did like me at the beginning and Really enjoyed hanging out with me he wouldn't have let me go so easily even if I said some things like, "you ****ed with my mind and made me think you liked me, how could you do that"? If you're a guy and you've been accused of using someone for sex and it wasn't exactly true, you'd correct them right...? I just can't get this guy out of my head, he was the second guy I've ever slept with. And it's also confusing because he'd be so sweet to me, he'd pet my hair and rub my shoulder when we'd cuddle and he'd kiss me in the middle of the night on the forehead. I've known him for a little over a month. But I get attached to people/things easily.....and why would he be so sweet and cuddly with me if he just wanted to use me...?

 

Advice or stories would be greatly appreciated...if anyone has gone through something like this what did you do to get over it and how long did it take you to get over it....thank you so much

Edited May 8, 2014 by itsabiguniverse

[rizzban29]

I was a guy doing exactly the same thing years back. From this guys perspective, he just wants to hop from girl to girl, its the thrill of the chase. Hes young and he wants to explore different women. However, while this all sounds good in theory, what happens is when you get along with one girl a lot and have fun, emotions become involves, including for him. so maybe he did like you a little, but then he just wanted to continue his casual spree. did he make it totally blatant it wa just "casual"? because if guys do this they think they have carte blanche to walk out whenever.

 

end of the days its not right, but a guy like this is just a rolling stone, and youre better off without it. dont be sad over it, theres guys out there that would actually want to be in a relationship with you and value your time

[itsabiguniverse]

Thanks that really made sense to me. He told me I should have asked him from the beginning if I was looking for something exclusive because he would have told me "no" from the start and then there may not have been bad feelings..? He also said he thought he "blatantly talked about other girls in front of me" so I should have known what we had was just casual..but what does "casual dating" exactly even mean or entail? Acting like a couple behind closed doors but not when we don't see each other?