firsttracks Posted May 8, 2014 Posted May 8, 2014 Why is this such a battle? Why can't it be easy? I dated a super sweet, nice girl last Winter for like a month and a half. It was complicated and she had issues but I was patient. One day she just turned into a jerk and never turned back into the person I thought I was getting to know. She avoided me for like 2 weeks after that phasing me out and eventually wanted to get together. Then she said it was to return this thermos top she has of mine. We talked on the phone and decided to split, she just discarded me with no emotion. I respected that. She said she'd mail the thermos top and asked for my address. So I waited 2 weeks and hadn't gotten it. I hadn't contacted her since our conversation. I said it was a gift from my brother and the thermos is useless without the top. She said she'd mail it so I sent my address again. I deleted her number and 2 weeks more went by and I still hadn't gotten it back. I looked up her number in my phone records and text her saying I'm still waiting for it. She didn't respond. I text the next day saying you said you'd mail it, I was nothing but nice to you, I would appreciate if you could just pop it in the mail. She text and said she's very busy and well get it to me when she has time. So...never. So I text back and said thank you I would appreciate that, I just didn't want to have to keep texting you about it ever 2 weeks. She said "Get over it then. Man up and by a new one. I'm not trying to be a jerk I'll mail it when I can. Sometimes you just need to cut your losses and move on." True, I moved on though, I just want the stupid top back so I don't have to buy a new one. It was a gift and has sentimental value and I let her use it one morning she was tired to take her coffee to school. I was trying to be nice. So I text back "Wow. Move on? I just want my F$%^ing top back that you said you would mail and have not. Simple communication, you should know that. Don't flatter yourself that is absolutely the only reason I text you. Goodbye." If she was going to be such a dick about it why wouldn't she have just told me that in the first place, why try to return it in person and then twice say she's going to mail it. I don't get it, she has no use for it, just mail it back how hard is it to write on an envelope, put it in the envelope, and go to the post office? It's people like this who are skewing my perspective on dating. By default the next girl to sleep over and want coffee in the morning will now get a sour reaction. I'll probably mentally think "Get your own effing coffee on the way to class." I don't want to be bitter. I just can't get past dating women who claim all men are jerks and discard them or never call after they sleep with them, then when I show them I'm not like that they do just that to me. Every woman I've dated who's spoke of men that way have been equally if not worse towards me. Can't we all just be respectful. If an ex of mine was like "Hey I really want that back, I'd say ok I'll mail it so you can have it" and end on good terms. Why all the complications? It CAN be much easier.
Assasda Posted May 8, 2014 Posted May 8, 2014 You put her on the pedestal, and you expect her to treat you any different? Yeah bro. Just forget about the Therms top or whatever, because she probabaly lost it. Just take it as collateral damage. What you need to do is get back in the dating game. Stop worshipping women and expecting something from them and just learn to have fun
d0nnivain Posted May 8, 2014 Posted May 8, 2014 A thermos top is not that tough to replace. You are fixated on this as a way to see her again. If she had 100s of dollars worth of you stuff: clothes, funiture, electronics, jewelry etc. I'd say go get it but a thermos top . . . let it go. Buy a new one. 1
Zahara Posted May 8, 2014 Posted May 8, 2014 Really, all this for a thermos top. You were harping over it because you wanted to keep communication with her. Hoping maybe in that span of time something would change. If it's of sentimental value, then tuck the bottom half of that thermos away since it is valuable to you and go out and buy another. Consider the top a wash.
GemmaUK Posted May 8, 2014 Posted May 8, 2014 Just contact the manufacturer and get a replacement. Job done!
No Limit Posted May 8, 2014 Posted May 8, 2014 Good luck getting her to open the door. She sounds nuts.
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