lindls Posted May 8, 2014 Posted May 8, 2014 I am almost 29, about 2 months ago who is 24. We hit it off from the get go, he seemed to be mature for our age gap and about 2 weeks into seeing each other he would talk about having a relationship with me and wanting to be with me. He brought up that he wasn't talking to other girls anymore after meeting me, and was hoping I wasn't talking to other guys (which I was not). I know guys are not big on texting (some are not big on calling either), so I usually try to play things cool, I am not one to constantly text or call but I do relay my feelings and make sure he knows where my feelings are at. We would text sporadically throughout the day but not non stop, I never would get on his case if I didn't hear back from him or anything like that, like some girls do. I am a pretty undramatic person. He has said things to me like "you're a really cool girlfriend" or "I hope you like me as much as I like you". He went to Vegas last weekend but called me the day before he left telling me he hopes I don't forget about him while he's out there. He was in Vegas for 5 days with his 3 of his single guy friends. While he was out there, I didn't want to be messaging him and calling him because I knew he was busy --and hey it's Vegas right?--so I sent a few texts on two separate days, basically stating how I was hoping he was having fun and that I missed him. He would reply but was very vague and short, I figured he was just busy and didn't have much time, which was fine. Well the afternoon after he got home (he got home really late the day before), I hadn't heard from him so I eventually told him that I hoped he had a great day and I missed him. We briefly chatted before he entirely ended things!! He stated he didn't know if he wanted a girlfriend and being around his single friends made him realize he truly doesn't want a girlfriend and he thought he was leading me on. I questioned it a bit but didn't stir the pot, I didn't name drop, I didn't throw things in his face that he had told me. I basically told him I don't want to beg him to change his mind cause that is not how I am, and I can respect his decision but I did ask him what he meant by leading me on, to which he replied that he thought that for a month he wanted a girlfriend and to be with me but now he doesn't know what he wants. He also stated that he is easily swayed by his friends, and wants to be sure about being in a relationship. I basically told him that, he was sure up until recently but if this is what he wants then I'm done and wished him good luck with whatever he is looking for. I made sure not to cause any uproar, because I am a classy girl. I haven't met these friends he was with, they are his friends from high school and we live in a different state then where he grew up. I have no idea what he said to them. For the record - He openly said that nothing happened in Vegas, I ask him nor did I didn't question it once. I guess I have stalked all social media and have yet to find anything about another girl out there. There are no new friends on his social media that would be from Vegas, and I guess he has been very honest with me from the get go, and has always said he is an honest person....I don't perceive him to be the cheating type but then again I didn't know him too terribly long.... I did really like this guy. I still do. A part of me feels he might be back, just from what he had been saying to me prior to him ending things. We never had a blow out leading to a break up, nor did I do anything behind his back. I want to know from anybody's perspective, what in the world may have happened? Cold feet? Are guys usually easily swayed by their friends, and when he is back here, his friends are in relationships, maybe he would think differently? I simply don't know....my friends all said I handled the break up amazingly, one in particular said it almost seemed like I wasn't trying to fight it, I let him have what he wants - which usually they change their mind (according to her). What are the odds of a guy who is pretty wishy washy coming back? Sorry for all the questions, I am just at a loss for words right now
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