Mo_Do Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 Figured I'd put this here. I dated a girl a couple years ago for a couple years, we had a pretty nasty break up. I never, ever looked her up online. A couple days after the BU I "un-friended" her and she responded by blocking me. Both went NC and that was that. Fast forward 2 years, last night I am playing around on a dummy FB account as I deleted mine last year for other reasons (bored of it, too many ppl I no longer associate with on there etc) and I decided to do some ex creeping. I land on her profile which was always locked down like fort knox when we were together, to find nothing public except 3 profile pictures..lol 2 of her and her new BF all wrapped around each other and one that was a motivational / meme type poster basically saying she doesn't care about people from her past and now lives a happy life! :laugh: I was like DAMN!! I must have REALLY made her mad when we broke up!!!
Strength in Healing Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 This is why it's best not to snoop. It's not really funny, now is it? 1
mtnbiker3000 Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 If you broke up 2 years ago, what makes you think this anything to do with you?? Probably some other, more recent ex. 1
Author Mo_Do Posted May 7, 2014 Author Posted May 7, 2014 This is why it's best not to snoop. It's not really funny, now is it? By all means its not advised to snoop - hence why I never did back when I still cared. Now I don't, which is why I looked. Still a shock at first to see that, but I really just want her to be happy and I truly hope she actually is - she had problems with that.
Author Mo_Do Posted May 7, 2014 Author Posted May 7, 2014 If you broke up 2 years ago, what makes you think this anything to do with you?? Probably some other, more recent ex. Agree'd but the pictures are old and from last year
Author Mo_Do Posted May 7, 2014 Author Posted May 7, 2014 (edited) I think I know a little bit about what I am talking about here regarding a girl I dated for 2.5 years and her ongoing issues. Also ran into her best friend last summer and got told many things. Thank you Edited May 7, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Elle1975 Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 Figured I'd put this here. I dated a girl a couple years ago for a couple years, we had a pretty nasty break up. I never, ever looked her up online. A couple days after the BU I "un-friended" her and she responded by blocking me. Both went NC and that was that. Fast forward 2 years, last night I am playing around on a dummy FB account as I deleted mine last year for other reasons (bored of it, too many ppl I no longer associate with on there etc) and I decided to do some ex creeping. I land on her profile which was always locked down like fort knox when we were together, to find nothing public except 3 profile pictures..lol 2 of her and her new BF all wrapped around each other and one that was a motivational / meme type poster basically saying she doesn't care about people from her past and now lives a happy life! :laugh: I was like DAMN!! I must have REALLY made her mad when we broke up!!! I don't get it.. why is it addressed to you specifically?
Author Mo_Do Posted May 7, 2014 Author Posted May 7, 2014 (edited) You haven't spoken to your in 2 years and heard "things" from a friend and even though EVERYONE has pictures of their BF / GF on their profile picture... Your Ex is secretly communicating with you to show you that she is upset / not over the break up with you and wants you. Several questions for you: 1. If she wants you, why hasn't she come back in 2 years? 2. If she wants you, why has she not communicated with you in 2 years? 3. If she wants you, why is putting pictures of her and another dude thinking that will get you to want her back? 4. If she wants you, why is even with this guy to being with? I know the girl (and her list of problems) that I am talking about, you don't. I am leaving a lot out here - like the brick she tossed through the front window of my house 3 MONTHS after. There is no other "recent ex" as I spoke not only with her best friend but also her mother that called me after her daughter was in a deep depression 6 MONTHS after and her brother was in contact with me as well. Edited May 7, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Strength in Healing Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 While the OP shouldn't have looked at her profile no doubt, I must say stud it sounds like you are being triggered from personal experiences, and projecting. Calm down brother. We all have to help each other. 1
Author Mo_Do Posted May 7, 2014 Author Posted May 7, 2014 While the OP shouldn't have looked at her profile no doubt, I must say stud it sounds like you are being triggered from personal experiences, and projecting. Calm down brother. We all have to help each other. CLEARLY ^ And yeah, I should have put more in my first post as after 2 years it would be moronic to still be trying to get back at your ex through FB pictures - but my ex is/was a moron. I don't have the time or desire to post the complete back story
melodymatters Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 (edited) Since I'm assuming you meant for this to be a LIGHT hearted thread, I'll jump in where I usually wouldn't. I have been married to my H for nearly three years now. He still periodically gets FB messages from the ex before me but it's been a while. Just yesterday he got a message asking " what's that other stuff you put in the drink with amaretto in it ? " Obviously Google was down and ' "Amaretto Sour" IS a complicated drink to figure out, lol. But her profile pic is hugging some new guy. Obviously she just wanted him to see this exciting new development in what must have been some pretty boring last 4 yrs for her. ( We always share when we get messages for ex's, so we went on her page together and it's a new relationship it seems ) His answer was funny if mean : "Ameretto and Antifreeze" PS, Oh and then after calling him an assh*le she asked if he was still with me ! Edited May 7, 2014 by melodymatters added
Virgin26 Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 You know the situation better, but I personally don't think your ex thought of you when she posted the pics. If I got this right, you are blocked on her account and she does not know about your fake account. So, as far as she knows, there is no way for you to look at her Facebook, which means that the picture she posted had nothing to do with you. 4
organizedchaos Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 You know the situation better, but I personally don't think your ex thought of you when she posted the pics. If I got this right, you are blocked on her account and she does not know about your fake account. So, as far as she knows, there is no way for you to look at her Facebook, which means that the picture she posted had nothing to do with you. Bingo! How is she secretly communicating about someone who is blocked and would have no way of seeing anything she posts as far as she knows? 1
FredJones80 Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 Bingo! How is she secretly communicating about someone who is blocked and would have no way of seeing anything she posts as far as she knows? Is that Professor Green in your profile photo? 1
Haydn Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 (edited) Think you touched a nerve there. OP. Really why are you looking at an ex`s FB? I have landed on my ex`s page in the past but never by accident. I admit. After 2 years? Don`t look anymore friend. Got the T shirt but i won`t have the tattoo. You haven't spoken to your in 2 years and heard "things" from a friend and even though EVERYONE has pictures of their BF / GF on their profile picture... Your Ex is secretly communicating with you to show you that she is upset / not over the break up with you and wants you. Several questions for you: 1. If she wants you, why hasn't she come back in 2 years? 2. If she wants you, why has she not communicated with you in 2 years? 3. If she wants you, why is putting pictures of her and another dude thinking that will get you to want her back? 4. If she wants you, why is even with this guy to being with? Edited May 7, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator 1
Always Pondering Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 You know the situation better, but I personally don't think your ex thought of you when she posted the pics. If I got this right, you are blocked on her account and she does not know about your fake account. So, as far as she knows, there is no way for you to look at her Facebook, which means that the picture she posted had nothing to do with you. Yup, when I was in my last relationship I'm sure I had once or twice some profile pictures of my girlfriend at the time and all lovey-dovey. Did I put them up to "show my ex who's boss"? Nope, did it cause it was a nice picture and I was in a happy relationship with the girl. Is it possible she did it because you really got on her bad end? Maybe, but I'm just putting my $0.02 on why I put my profile pictures up.
William Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 Moderation received a 'civility check?' report from someone not involved in the thread and did some editing and concurs with the poster that erring on the side of keeping things more light hearted will go a long ways to having a beneficial discussion. Thanks for your assistance!
Raena Posted May 8, 2014 Posted May 8, 2014 Just as an aside... when I was in the process of putting my fb profile on lockdown so my psycho ex and his hobo for a gf couldn't stalk me on there... I found that I couldn't make my profile pictures private. The only way I could keep all the ones I had used as profile pics private was to delete them. That could very easily have been the case with this person. When did she post the meme picture? Was it not long after the two of you split? If it was, then it might have been directed at you. If it was recent, it might still have been directed at you if she never really got over you. It sounds like there is more to the story about your break up with her and it could be that it was directed at you no matter when she posted it. The reality is though... why does it matter?
Ordinaryday Posted May 8, 2014 Posted May 8, 2014 sorry I think you are living in denial. if you haven't spoken to her in years and she thinks you have her blocked then the chances of her having these fb pictures made public just to 'bait' you are almost non-existent. I know exactly what 'bait pictures' are (after I have broken up with and unfriended a few girls they suddenly post very suggestive pics of them online, the kind of thing they never posted before - trying to get a reaction out of me?) but even if she is trying to bait someone, what makes you think it is you? it could be a different guy. sorry.
Strength in Healing Posted May 8, 2014 Posted May 8, 2014 It could not be a bait at all, but rather an expression she views to help herself. That's what it would by far most likely be in this context... she posted that as a reminder to herself, not as a bait to anyone. And that goes for most of your stories, probably.
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