David_1 Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 I'd been talking to my girlfriend via WhatsApp and some of my friends had invited us over for dinner, so I asked her if she wanted to come. Her reply was, "you go". I then just said to her, you know, what is going on, why are you being so blunt? That's when it all sort of came out. She said that she isn't happy, that she wants to move closer to her family home as she can't afford to live with me anymore. That she still loves me, but feels that we should be apart to work on our lives, and that we argue too much. She hasn't actually ended it, but I don't hold out much hope. She is coming back tonight, to 'talk' but obviously, that just could be that she wants to end it in person. So. Yeah. I'm still going to cook her dinner, etc. I guess, I don't really think there's much I can do, here. If she wants to go, I have to let her, don't I. I love her SO much, and would fight to the death to keep her, but if she wants to go, what can I do? I don't want to and I won't be begging or pleading, but this is filling me with so much dread and anxiety - I don't want her to leave, but you can't force someone to stay, can you? What am I going to do?
Harradin Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 There's not much you can do to be honest. If she breaks up with you, then go NC immediately and begin to move on.
Author David_1 Posted May 7, 2014 Author Posted May 7, 2014 There's not much you can do to be honest. If she breaks up with you, then go NC immediately and begin to move on. Thank you, that's what I intend to do.
Author David_1 Posted May 7, 2014 Author Posted May 7, 2014 Also she was talking to me about sex, last night - you know, 'sexting' or whatever. I didn't really play alone with it as I've not felt things were right so....this morning she said it upset her that I did that - I just don't know. If she doesn't want to be with me anymore, why do that. She has totally stopped being affectionate toward me, doesn't call me baby or anything, doesn't tell me she loves me (despite claiming that she does, still) - it's really weird.
Chi townD Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 If she breaks up with you, then that's that. But, do not allow her to dictate what happens during the break up. Meaning, that if she walks out the door, then that's the last time she will ever see you. That you don't believe in being "just friends". That you can't be friends with her while you're still harboring romantic feelings towards her. And that you didn't get into a loving and caring relationship with her with the end being that you are nothing more than a really good friend to her.
Author David_1 Posted May 7, 2014 Author Posted May 7, 2014 If she breaks up with you, then that's that. But, do not allow her to dictate what happens during the break up. Meaning, that if she walks out the door, then that's the last time she will ever see you. That you don't believe in being "just friends". That you can't be friends with her while you're still harboring romantic feelings towards her. And that you didn't get into a loving and caring relationship with her with the end being that you are nothing more than a really good friend to her. Yes! I agree with this advice, that is something I won't be doing. I have been through that mess SO many times, and if this is it then this it. She has been texting me all day, despite wanting to have a serious talk when she gets in - it feels weird, and I have idea what to expect. If she was going to end it, why is she being all casual etc?
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