Josh224 Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 My ex broke up with me about 6 months ago. Honestly can say I never saw it coming. Everything was going great, we'd been together for 18 months and had started to talk about the future, marriage, moving out together, etc. One night I went back to hers and I was tired after a long week, and I told her that I was worried about the next year of my life, final year at uni, all of that stuff. Then I said (and I still have no idea why) that I was worried that we'd drift apart in the next year and that we'd be more like friends. She said not to worry and that everything was going to be ok. Two days later she breaks up with me, saying she's felt like we were "just friends" for a while (which wasn't true, only a few weeks before that we'd had probably the most amazing week of the entire relationship). I tried NC but couldn't manage it. We both struggled and she texted me on several occasions to say she wouldn't find anyone better, she hoped our paths would cross again in the future when the time was right, etc. Found out that she met a guy 3 weeks ago and is already putting stuff all over her pinterest about weddings and "finding the one". Yet 6 weeks ago she said that "we probably shouldn't text each other, it's too difficult at the moment". What is going on? I've deleted my facebook account and I'm going completely NC with her until after my exams. Friends keep saying "move on", like I haven't tried that for the last 6 months. I just have no idea what to do right now. I want her back but there's no way I'd just let her back in if she texted me tomorrow.
elseaacych Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 Most women who use Pinterest have a wedding board. Hell, I am single. I have a wedding board because I like looking at pretty things! Don't read too much into a girl's pinterest board unless she has different categories of related things. (Wedding dress board. Ring board. Wedding cake board.) That being said. What's wrong with been broken up with for 5 months and then moving on to a committed relationship with someone new? That seems like a decent respectable amount of time. It doesn't look like an emotional affair or cheating was involved with the breakup. Yeah. It hurts like hell. She's moving on. She has a new guy. She definitely is not going to text you tomorrow. Or the next day, for that matter. If your friends say to move on, trust their judgment! There was likely something in that relationship that wasn't healthy for you either! What is that reason? Think about it! You may be surprised! For your sake, commit to moving on. There are many wonderful people out in the world for both of you to have relationships with. Don't sit around and mope because she found one that wanted to have a relationship with her, who isn't you. That does nothing for you! What are you doing? How can you make your life happier? She's not making your life any better, so commit to finding someone or something that does! Implement NC. It is simple to do and will likely take no more than 20 minutes. Block all means of communications. Phone social media, the works. She's not going to talk to you, because she doesn't want to be your friend or be your girlfriend or be your anything. so it doesn't matter that you're doing it. No. It doesn't make you a bad person. No. You don't want to talk to her either. Just do it. Do it because you want to commit to a better, healthier, happier life. Feel relieved. Get out there and LIIIIIVVVVEEE...
Author Josh224 Posted May 7, 2014 Author Posted May 7, 2014 Thanks, I am getting out there and meeting new people, doing lots of things to keep busy. I just guess I'm confused by how she would say all of that stuff and then suddenly change her mind. She said she wasn't going to have a relationship with anyone until September when she moves to London as part of her uni course, and then this guy shows up and everything changes. She's totally strung me along for 6 months and let me think there was some chance of us getting back together, and now she's happy with someone else and I'm sat around feeling like an idiot for thinking she was doing anything other than feathering her own nest.
d0nnivain Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 She's on the roller coaster of a new relationship. It makes people giddy. It has nothing to do with you, even though you are the one getting hurt. Try not to think about her & what it all means. Concentrate on exams & having a fun summer. 1
Recommended Posts