ThatOneGuyThat Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 My ex and I broke up around 2 weeks ago (See here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/474037-assistance-required#post5667382) and she's already started seeing someone else. To me this feels way to early and completely immature of her. She has stated that she has feelings for him. It just makes me feel that all we had was nothing if she is able to gain feelings for someone so early. One thing to not the person she is seeing is the same person mentioned in my previous thread. I'd be interested to hear your thoughts on the matter. How quickly she has appeared to move on? And any tips for me...
d0nnivain Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 You need to stop paying attention to what she does. Keep yourself busy while you mourn the loss of her relationship . Her new guy is either somebody she was cheating on you with (or wanted to) or he's a straight up rebound. Either way it has little to do with you. 1
organizedchaos Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 My ex and I broke up around 2 weeks ago (See here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/474037-assistance-required#post5667382) and she's already started seeing someone else. To me this feels way to early and completely immature of her. She has stated that she has feelings for him. It just makes me feel that all we had was nothing if she is able to gain feelings for someone so early. One thing to not the person she is seeing is the same person mentioned in my previous thread. I'd be interested to hear your thoughts on the matter. How quickly she has appeared to move on? And any tips for me... She didn't check out the day you broke up. Probably some time before. So it seems so soon to you, but not her.
Author ThatOneGuyThat Posted May 7, 2014 Author Posted May 7, 2014 You're definitely right, she did check out before me. I think it's just difficult to get over this part, I'm going to keep at recovery. Thanks for the thoughts.
VanessaVanessa Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 I agree with d0nnivain. It's most likely a rebound at this point. It's definitely true that you need to not just simply stop paying attention to her as though you are a light switch, but you will need to LEARN how to stop paying attention to what she does from now onwards. You might feel like you want to know more about who this new guy is, but it is best that you try to stop yourself from doing that early on. Avoid anything by which you can find out more info about her or them (social sites, mutual friends etc). If it is a rebound, in the end she will have to deal with her feelings at a later time when you will have moved on - even just a little. And sorry to hear that this is your situation because I know how something like that can make you question the value of the relationship. 1
lamis Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 My ex-fiancee started officially dating the guy she started falling in love with during our relationship, and who ultimately caused the falling apart of our relationship, after seven weeks. I'm sure they started dating even sooner, but she didn't want to look awful in the eyes of her friends and family. I feel your pain about the whole thing, since my ex also checked out way before I did. While it might hurt to think it, it could also help to know tha tmore than likely your ex was developing feelings for this guy during your relationship. This makes her even less worth your time and energy, because obviously you weren't important enough to her. More than likely her current relationship will fail, since she didn't really take the time to work on herself and all the good stuff that comes from a break up and the single period after it. 1
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