SolG Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 love the search: Don't date a girl who travels Some of you will have seen this blog entry - it's pretty much gone viral. I'm lucky in that I get to travel for work. And I also program in one overseas recreational trip a year as well. I totally get the not spending on pointless luxuries when they could buy more time away :-) Wish I could travel as much as this girl does for pleasure *sigh* In fact, it's probably how I'd like to spend my later years. Do you see it as such an anti-relationship lifestyle as the blogger makes out? I think it would be fine with the right partner who is also adventurous and doesn't need to be joined at the hip. Interested in your thoughts. 1
Emilia Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 The guy that wrote it sounds very insecure. The underlying message seems to be 'don't date a girl who travels because you will never be interesting and stimulating enough'. I don't live in the US but I agree that people who dine in shopping malls probably shouldn't date someone that gets out much, no. 3
Taramere Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 Do you see it as such an anti-relationship lifestyle as the blogger makes out? I think it would be fine with the right partner who is also adventurous and doesn't need to be joined at the hip. Interested in your thoughts. Agreed. The blog would be more aptly titled "I shouldn't date a girl who travels", but that's not how things are done on the internet. On the internet, "I shouldn't" becomes "you shouldn't" or "nobody should". 2
Author SolG Posted May 7, 2014 Author Posted May 7, 2014 Here's the thing though... It's not written by a guy. It's written in the third person by 'The Girl that Travels'. This is the way she sees HERSELF and her lifestyle. As pretty much completely incompatible with a relationship. And that effectively no man is her match. I think she's setting herself up that way with her attitude, as opposed to her travelling. 1
Emilia Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 Here's the thing though... It's not written by a guy. It's written in the third person by 'The Girl that Travels'. This is the way she sees HERSELF and her lifestyle. As pretty much completely incompatible with a relationship. And that effectively no man is her match. I think she's setting herself up that way with her attitude, as opposed to her travelling. It was written by a guy. A very insecure one, similar to the 'females do this do that' brigade.
ThatMan Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 What are you talking about? The author identifies herself as Adi, a woman who loves to travel. She is not an insecure man. I don't know what's the point of this blog, though.
Taramere Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 Here's the thing though... It's not written by a guy. It's written in the third person by 'The Girl that Travels'. This is the way she sees HERSELF and her lifestyle. As pretty much completely incompatible with a relationship. And that effectively no man is her match. I think she's setting herself up that way with her attitude, as opposed to her travelling. I totally missed that. That's what I get for just skimming the first few paragraphs. I think travelling is great fun, but it doesn't automatically transform a person into some exciting dynamo of adventure that others will struggle to keep up with.
Emilia Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 What are you talking about? The author identifies herself as Adi, a woman who loves to travel. She is not an insecure man. I don't know what's the point of this blog, though. The only thing I can tell you that no woman says this about herself: "Her skin is now far from fair like it once was. Not even sun kissed. It’s burnt with multiple tan lines, wounds and bites here and there. " Especially not the supposed blog writer who looks about 20 in her pictures and suspiciously like a model. Guess I don't believe everything I read.
Stillits Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 Ahh that explains why I'm single Well I do think it would probably be hard for most people to maintain a relationship with someone who has travel as a lifestyle. They don't really live anywhere or stay anywhere long enough to really get to know someone, I suppose. As a friend of mine said: "It's easy to find a place you want to go to but it's difficult to find a place you want to stay" - that must be the core thing with someone living this lifestyle. I love to travel personally and would like to find a job that would allow me to travel regularly. Do I expect that to make it more difficult to find a relationship? Well, yes.
Smilecharmer Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 She sounds like she thinks men don't like to travel or have adventures...that's absurd. This blog made no sense to me....people generally attract people who like what they like so why is she worried outside of her comfort zone in dating like preps and business types?
Ninjainpajamas Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 I don't understand how whenever a woman writes something about a man the attention and critique almost unanimously is directed towards the man if he's done even the slightest thing wrong, but when a man says anything critical or even makes any kind of generalization for that matter towards a woman or women; even a circumstance that would be overwhelmingly common (not referring to the blog) whether in his life or not, the man is automatically deemed as insecure or a woman hater...it's amazing how that works. At any rate, my personal opinion is that i neither found the post moving, enlightening or informative...I just kind of read it and said "Ok", if it wasn't for the comments below I wouldn't have recognized it had any impact or connection to anyone in particular to the "girl that travels", I didn't get anything mind-blowing from the blog or like wow but I'm always surprised or shaking my head at the dumb crap that goes viral on the internet but that's how it goes, and as always some generalizations have truth to them but I didn't think this was a highly critical or judgmental post and honestly will likely forget I've ever read it 5 minutes from now. The woman being referred to in the post is personally someone I wouldn't be looking at getting into a relationship with nor would a lot of others guys either, and I doubt they themselves would be intentionally looking for one if they're continuously traveling and saving every penny to do so, she basically goes into the "free-spirited" category, which for many guys is going to translate into "fun" or short-term thing, especially if she is young and meets someone on her travels which happens quite often, I've seen some people try to maintain those relationships but usually fail in the end because of the distance, unless someone is REALLY interested in relocating...then it usually just becomes this long drawn out pseudo relationship type that that would've probably ended in half the time at home but takes six years because of the LDR to happen. So date a woman who travels? sure, why not. Try to have a serious committed and predictable type relationship with her that is traditional and stable? ha! unless she was utterly amazing and mind-blowing to the point where I couldn't even think of anyone else but her....wouldn't even have the thought of even trying. So personally, I just think IF this was even a guy writing in the first place, then he's just kind of dumb or naive if anything, because I don't know a lot of a lot of guys who would try to tie someone like that down or serious relationship that up.
topaMAXX Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 love the search: Don't date a girl who travels Some of you will have seen this blog entry - it's pretty much gone viral. I'm lucky in that I get to travel for work. And I also program in one overseas recreational trip a year as well. I totally get the not spending on pointless luxuries when they could buy more time away :-) Wish I could travel as much as this girl does for pleasure *sigh* In fact, it's probably how I'd like to spend my later years. Do you see it as such an anti-relationship lifestyle as the blogger makes out? I think it would be fine with the right partner who is also adventurous and doesn't need to be joined at the hip. Interested in your thoughts. As a guy that travels a lot (and, thus, meets girls that travel a lot), I'm inclined to agree. In many cases, the girls are looking for excitement and will cheat. Not all, but many. Especially when backpacking, they will have trip boyfriends. Again, not all. I've seen some girls that don't do this. Still, I'd be wary if you plan to marry the girl. After all, she's entitled to most of your stuff plus alimony and child support if you divorce. So you have a lot to lose if you're wrong about her. 1
Els Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 Depending on how much traveling is done (not just a couple times a year, but literally traveling all the time as the article mentions), you'd probably need a very compatible partner. Someone who either has the flexibility to go with you (very few careers offer that), or doesn't mind you being away a lot. The article does strike me as 'stereotypical and condescending', though, as one commenter very aptly puts it.
Els Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 The only thing I can tell you that no woman says this about herself: "Her skin is now far from fair like it once was. Not even sun kissed. It’s burnt with multiple tan lines, wounds and bites here and there. " Especially not the supposed blog writer who looks about 20 in her pictures and suspiciously like a model. Guess I don't believe everything I read. Sounds about on par for an Asian woman, especially the emphasis on 'fair skin'. She also looks mid-20s to 30 to me, judging from the appearance of other Filipino women I know. I wouldn't even be surprised if she was 30+. She does have a Huffington Post biography - then again, that might not mean all that much... 1
halfcrazed_i Posted May 13, 2014 Posted May 13, 2014 love the search: Don't date a girl who travels Some of you will have seen this blog entry - it's pretty much gone viral. I'm lucky in that I get to travel for work. And I also program in one overseas recreational trip a year as well. I totally get the not spending on pointless luxuries when they could buy more time away :-) Wish I could travel as much as this girl does for pleasure *sigh* In fact, it's probably how I'd like to spend my later years. Do you see it as such an anti-relationship lifestyle as the blogger makes out? I think it would be fine with the right partner who is also adventurous and doesn't need to be joined at the hip. Interested in your thoughts. Actually, I think that this really should be re-titled as "Don't Date A Chronic Backpacker" I travel a lot -- for pleasure as well, not just work -- and I still crave the stability that a non-traveler wants. Especially the certainty of a job. I need a stable job so that I can continue to fund my travel whims. And while I tend to move to a different city / country every couple of years, I do still like the idea of having a place that I can call "home." So yeah, a traveler or a citizen of the world doesn't necessarily need to sound as flaky or as uncertain as the person being described in this blog entry.
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