jdk4 Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 Dated this girl for roughly 2 months, not long at all. But we did have a great time together, never had any problems whatsoever. She told me nearly every day how much she cared about me and how lucky she was to have someone like myself. She's 3 years younger, I'm 21. I'd say I'm a well rounded guy, great student, athletic, driven, well mannered, her friends and family loved me. Yet I made a very stupid mistake when we were together one night, I had been drinking and bragged to some friends about our sex life like an idiot. I'm only the second guy she's been with, so she felt very disrespected as she should. I hurt her, and it hurt me because I care a lot about her and how she feels as a person. Anyways, that night she told me she wasn't going to break up with me, she said there was NO WAY. The next morning she said she wasn't sure what she wanted to do. I said I'd give her a few days space, and she said "well we aren't together for right now", I played it off well and just said okay that's for the best (I had a rough break up before that I begged, pleaded and cried in). Later that day she contacted me saying sorry and she wanted to give me a shot, I said okay. The next morning she recanted again and my response was "Your loss, take it easy" she said sorry, and I said there's no reason to be because it's what I wanted too. It's only been like 4 days, I'm doing well and just living life with the understanding that I may or may not get her back but I am moving on and will be okay if I don't get her back. I have not contacted her and don't plan to for at least 3-4 weeks. That being said, I would like her back, she's a great girl and other than that one slip up our relationship was great, she said I made her the happiest she's ever been and that she loves me. Lately on social media she's been talking about how great she's doing, she's been hanging out with her ex (Who treated her like dirt, left her broken for a year because of all the hurtful things he did). Questions: is she doing all of this to make it look like she's doing great when really she probably isn't? She wasn't really sure what she wanted when she broke up, because even though I hurt her I know she cared deeply. I've been doing my own thing, hanging out with friends and she sees this. I posted a picture with a female friend and she FLIPPED out to her best friend.
Author jdk4 Posted May 7, 2014 Author Posted May 7, 2014 Any insight and advice would be great, I'm doing fine with the NC so that's not the problem. I just want some advice on what people think about it all, thank you.
David87 Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 She wants space .... then giver space. And stop with the social media stalking. Who knows why she's posting those things, maybe she really is happy. Btw you mest up and if you didn't apologised for what you did then you should.
Author jdk4 Posted May 7, 2014 Author Posted May 7, 2014 She wants space .... then giver space. And stop with the social media stalking. Who knows why she's posting those things, maybe she really is happy. Btw you mest up and if you didn't apologised for what you did then you should. Definitely giving her space, not just for herself but for myself as well. And good idea, I'll cut that. I did apologize, sincerely too since I genuinely feel terrible for what I did. And since I've apologized I've left it at that.
justlife Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 I noticed from your post that she says all this nice stuff to you but you never said you said it back. Did you not feel quite the same way? You said shes a lovely girl but didn't really go as far as anything she said.
Author jdk4 Posted May 7, 2014 Author Posted May 7, 2014 I noticed from your post that she says all this nice stuff to you but you never said you said it back. Did you not feel quite the same way? You said shes a lovely girl but didn't really go as far as anything she said. Sorry for not clarifying, but I definitely told her everything back because I really felt it. She knows how I felt about her because I would not only tell her but show her, minus my slip up. She said her trust is broken, which is understandable. But she also told her best friend at first she was just doing it to scare me But I didn't pour my heart out when she broke up with me because I did that in a prior breakup and completely pushed that particular girl away.
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