Once in a lifetime relationship some serios romeo and juliet ****

[tmoney42]

My ex-girlfriend is a junior and i am a senior in highschool. I met her in chemistry class and noticed her instantly at first because of her looks and used a cheesy pick up line, "Hey do you have a library card"? She replied "no, why?" "because i want to check you out=D" After that day we were on and off until I was on house arrest during a long winter break, where i was going crazy just laying in bed all day. I had this girl named Ashley come over to **** a few times, at the time me and my ex were just friends, i told her and she became instantly jealous and came over for 1.5 weeks straight just to watch netflix and cuddled, we didnt hook up because i knew something was special. I waited until valentines day, she came over and i made her chicken alphredo. It was a perfect valentines day, we eventually both got naked but neither of us could get turned on and we blamed it on that This was more than just a valentines **** and done. She went home and the next 3 days a Massive blizzard hit, during the three days i was miserable with out her and she was without me. Remember im on house arrest during all this, and i was going to be off in a week so meaning i cant **** up otherwise i go to JDC i was 16 at the time. Something came over me and i just broke it off to run over her house to watch dear john and i got away with it! She asked when did you get off house arrest, i said i didnt. As we were watching dear john a part in the movie said that,"i fell in love with you in 2 weeks." at that moment i looked at her and she looked in my eyes and with a shaky voice, i said,"I think im in love with you". She said i am too. Before all this i promised myself i would never fall in love again after this other girl. She completely changed me. Maybe i was over analyzing things but i had a best friend named Seth, who's birthday was on May 16th ironically after we weren't friends anymore, i met my new best friend who's birthday is on may 16th as well! It blew my mind away. The first day i got off house arrest, her parents found out that she smoked and drank with me and followed me to the buffet we went to and i dropped her off and they didnt let me see her for 2 weeks, during the two weeks of just falling in love with her i couldnt stand not seeing her or texting her, so on cold nights i would climb on her roof just to see her and kiss her through the window. From that day on we couldnt stand being anywhere but with each other and we hung out for six months straight, i got cocky and basically was being a dick head and she broke up with me right before school started. I learned alot from this break up i eventually thought it was over and some rumors spread that i was talking to this other girl and she freaked out and came over my house almost immediately and we made up and started dating a few days later and couldnt stand losing each other again. days were great and she was even greater, no matter how hurt i am she will always be an angel in my eyes. After the first break up i started to change how i was acting towards her, her parents saw it to and finally fell in love with me as well. She has a 2 year old cousin who asks maddie everytime she sees her and says,"Wheres Ty" whether im there or not. Its extremely cute, so we worked at the same place, her family loved me and everythign was just great. I took her to prom and she ended up choking and i gave her the heimlich and saved her life, i ended up getting a 150$ tab paid for and i put my jacket over her and comforted her and said hey baby tonights still going to be great. I love you and you love me and were happy and thats all that matters. Prom wasnt that fun but i just loved it that i spent it with her. A few weeks after prom we were butting heads. And on may 17th i was on my man period and freaked out on her in the car which ended up me saying hurtful things to her and vice versa, she punched me and elbowed me a few times in the face, but it hurt my feelings more than anything. I told her to call her mother to ask for more time because she was going to be late for her class caus ei wanted to calm the situation down because she was biligerent and just screaming, in the school parking lot. I didnt want her to be seen like that so i held her on her waist and told her to calm down, the School police officer came down and handcuffed me and she didnt stand up for me even though i was not hurting her and thought i was doing the right thing. I spent 2 nights in jail and over my video court, i told her she looked beautiful and she laughed with tears down her face. I have a no contact order with her which sucks balls, and basically she ended up breaking up with me again. I was completely cool accepting that she wanted it and not desperate or begging her or anything that would drive her away. One night she told me she was drinking at some guys house and i freaked out and came over to talk to her, i didnt start a scene just wanted to figure whats going on. She told me she hated me, while intoxicated. I left. Since than i havent contacted her. Her birthday is coming up in about 10 days and i dont know whether i should tell her happy birthday and make her think i still care or dont tell her to shock her and make her think that i moved on? i love her to death i do and i been handling this alot more maturer than she has. im just in a dillema and need some guidance. We dated for 14.5 months so its not a brief relationship, we planned everything including colleges and details came down to what animals were going to get. This was a beyond serious relationship and i wish none of it happened. I always want whats best for her with or without me. I need help i have a few questions needing to be answered;

 

Should i try and win her back or have her text me first? shes not a chaser

 

Should i wish her a happy birthday to let her know i care or is that a mistake? pros and cons are obvious

 

And if i should do no contact how long should i wait? whether to text her first or to find out that theres nothing left? its been a full 8 days

I just dont want to wait to long with a thought that i couldve of changed the outcome if its not the outcome im looking for

 

Thats the briefest summary of my relationship as i can give you, any more details needed just ask. Theres so much more to be told but dont want to intimidate my readers thank you

Edited May 7, 2014 by tmoney42

[Natsume21]

Kid, for future reference, separate sentences into paragraphs. This actually hurt my eyes reading it.

 

Aside from that, I don't know where to begin with this.

 

I don't know what Romeo and Juliet you were reading, but this isn't love. This was messy and borderline abusive.

 

You're 17, I take it? Do yourself a favor and do two things: Stop doing stupid stuff or you're gonna throw your future away.

 

And please, leave this girl alone. She isn't worth jail time.

 

Not tryna put you down, but once a woman calls it quits, that's it.

 

Shockingly, I don't see anything she did wrong, other than the punching you and hurting you, that's a sign she's abusive and a signal for you to splitsville.

 

Go ahead with your college plans. Just expect to not have her in it.--Natsume21.

 

NC is your best friend. Any other interaction is going to hurt you, annoy you, and thus, kill any chances of future reconciliation.

[d0nnivain]

14.5 months seems like forever in high school. Young love is also far more dramatic than more mature relationships. However, this one ran it's course. Let it be.

 

Remember -- every body dies at the end of Romeo & Juliet so pick another course.