Disillusioned Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 It's been my experience that it's much, much worse for women I'm not attracted to at all to have the hots for me, than to not get noticed by the ones I do find attractive. I've had at least 4 frumpy, dumpy women pursue me at various times of my life, as well as 3 who were good-looking but bats**t crazy. I sure hope this pattern isn't going to continue once I start hosting meetups... though when I met the woman who started a celibate singles group back in February, she seemed attractive and sane, easy to get along with... I could easily have the hots for someone like her, if she wasn't so damn tiny. See, if I express interest in a woman, the whole time I'm going to be wondering if she's good SO material. I've had some bad experiences in the past, but I never get to the point where I think it's time to throw water on the fire and walk away.
iiiii Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 Happens to everyone, I think. You're not always going to find everyone who hits on you attractive. Luckily you've always got the right to say no.
VanessaVanessa Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 I tend to get approached (WHEN i DO get approached) by guys who are older than me - by which I mean at least 4 years older than me. I wish I knew if it's a common thing or if I just look older than I am to those guys...but usually I am told by strangers that I look like a younger teenager. I don't get that.
AdrianCrawley Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 It's been my experience that it's much, much worse for women I'm not attracted to at all to have the hots for me, than to not get noticed by the ones I do find attractive. That's 'cause indifference makes you seem very sure of yourself, and thus, more attractive. And besides, people kinda what want they can't have.
AdrianCrawley Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 I tend to get approached (WHEN i DO get approached) by guys who are older than me - by which I mean at least 4 years older than me. Why is 4 years older such a big deal ? 3
Els Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 Nah, I've had both, and IMO my unrequited crushes were way more, well, crushing. Getting pursued by the 'wrong ones' could be annoying if they were too persistent, but wasn't nearly as emotionally intense. What happened to your Realdolls? When you say 'women' you don't mean them, right? 2
No Limit Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 A guy chased me a few years ago and I got a bit suspicious due to my gut feeling. Asked a few buddies if they knew this guy and they all answered "Yeah, he's had about probably every girl in town by now!" Ceased the contact shortly afterwards, thank God he didn't know anything about me except for my number. Blocking makes it pretty easy though.
Targetlock Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 I've never had this problem, usually just the other way around stalker? would like the attention for once lol
Author Disillusioned Posted May 8, 2014 Author Posted May 8, 2014 Well... one thing that works in my favor is that people buy into that stereotype that giants are supposed to be stupid, so usually all I have to do is talk about intellectual stuff like writing or science, and I don't even need to go full geek on them. From their POV it's kind of like trying to buy a Coke from a vending machine but it gives you a 7-Up instead. The ones that irked me the most were the child-sized Asian women who spoke Cookie Monster English (e.g., "I rike giant!"), I used to run into them a lot at speed dating events from '05 to '09... they all seemed turned-on by the idea of nabbing a giant, but then I'd get to talking with them and come to find out they tended to be stuck in dead-end jobs with no hobbies, no future plans... sooooooooo not my type, definitely not gf/wife material.
Candy_Pants Posted May 8, 2014 Posted May 8, 2014 I've never had this problem, usually just the other way around stalker? would like the attention for once lol No dear, you wouldn't. It's frightening and maddening. At one point I had three men all following me, waiting outside for me, downstairs from my home, in my favorite cafés, bars, restaurants. Even going as far to try and befriend my family. I couldn't leave my home without seeing one or two of them.
Michelle ma Belle Posted May 8, 2014 Posted May 8, 2014 This happens to most people I'm afraid. Just the way it goes. If it were that easy to find our perfect match (intellectually, spiritually, physically, emotionally, sexually), we'd ALL be coupled up, madly in love and forever together. NOT! 1
ltjg45 Posted May 8, 2014 Posted May 8, 2014 This happens to most people I'm afraid. Just the way it goes. If it were that easy to find our perfect match (intellectually, spiritually, physically, emotionally, sexually), we'd ALL be coupled up, madly in love and forever together. NOT! No kidding. I tend to get weird women trying to talk to me constantly. You would think me giving them short answers to send them the message to bug off but, apparently, that isn't the case. I definitely would love to get rid of this one female woman that always goes through my cashier line. Calling her "annoying" is me being nice about it.
DArtagnan2 Posted May 8, 2014 Posted May 8, 2014 My problem is I don't notice or maybe really know when someone is interested at first, second.. Ok third glance even. Those I am with always have to tell me that someone was in to or hitting on me. By then, the moment has passed.
Author Disillusioned Posted May 8, 2014 Author Posted May 8, 2014 I definitely would love to get rid of this one female woman As opposed to a "male woman"? :lmao: Nyah-nyah! I'm never gonna let you live that down...
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