IdontPlayanyGames Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 Me and my FWBs haven't hung out in like a really long time. We're close friends and we usually spend at least one night a week together. Not just sex but hanging out. We haven't done that in a while because shes been hanging out with her friends/family obligations. And i'm currently staying at my moms house where i'm not allowed to have girls spend the night + i've been babysitting my niece a lot. But tonight my moms going to a concert. My niece is with her mom and so i have the house all to myself. I invited my FWBs over but she said no because her family is having dinner at her gmas house. I asked her to cancel and she said no again. I got kinda angry and explained to her that its the only night we'll get to be alone for a while so i would really appreciate it if she cancelled. She finally agreed. But now i don't even feel like it. I feel like if she truly wanted to hang out with me she would have jumped at the opportunity. If the tables were turned i woulda cancelled in a heartbeat cuz i really miss her. But i had to argue with her just to get her to agree. So do you think i was being too needy? And now that shes agreed should i really hangout with her? Or just tell her to forget it and ignore her? If i ignore her i know she'll just end up going to the dinner anyway.
Raena Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 Odd that your name does not describe your actions. Don't play games! You begged her to cancel her plans, so go with it.
Assasda Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 You sound like youre having PMS. Yes you are needy, and you cant cancel now because you already "put your foot in it"
ExpatInItaly Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 If you want to ruin every chance of ever hanging out again, go ahead and cancel. Yes, you were being too needy. It doesn't actually sound as though this FWB arrangement is working for her anymore. If she were really interested, you wouldn't be needing to argue with her to get her to meet you. That isn't good.
Author IdontPlayanyGames Posted May 7, 2014 Author Posted May 7, 2014 If you want to ruin every chance of ever hanging out again, go ahead and cancel. Yes, you were being too needy. It doesn't actually sound as though this FWB arrangement is working for her anymore. If she were really interested, you wouldn't be needing to argue with her to get her to meet you. That isn't good. I ignored her anyway. And as far as our arrangement goes? Its working fine on both sides. She didn't want to meet because she had already confirmed the invitation with her grandmother. And i'm pretty sure shes more then interested since shes been texting me all night apologizing to me.
iiiii Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 Yes, you were being needy. And cancelling on someone after you've just persuaded them to renege on another date to meet you is pretty much the height of rudeness, so far as I'm concerned. But I guess if it's only a FWB rather than a long term relationship, it doesn't really matter if she decides you're rude. She might still shag you.
Author IdontPlayanyGames Posted May 7, 2014 Author Posted May 7, 2014 Yes, you were being needy. And cancelling on someone after you've just persuaded them to renege on another date to meet you is pretty much the height of rudeness, so far as I'm concerned. But I guess if it's only a FWB rather than a long term relationship, it doesn't really matter if she decides you're rude. She might still shag you. well i felt like i needed to make up for my neediness somehow. Girls seem to like rude guys anyhow. i gave her the upperhand with my neediness, so i had to do something to level out the playing field.
Emilia Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 Um she is an arrangement, not a girlfriend. If you want a girlfriend then find one. FWBs don't have the same obligations, that's the whole point. Especially as I bet the expectation is only one sided - ie you want her to jump when it works for you but you keep your distance otherwise. 1
iiiii Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 I don't know if rude and needy is a better combination than polite and needy. Well, I'd dump you, but hopefully it works for your girl.
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