CarrieT Posted May 8, 2014 Posted May 8, 2014 What should I do now? Continue no contact and give him his space to come around possibly? Do what was suggested in the beginning of the thread: Mail is his ring back and go No Contact. Don't expect him to worry or care about you, your grandfather, or anything else. Time to move on...
Author poisonwine Posted May 8, 2014 Author Posted May 8, 2014 (edited) I'm not mailing his crap to him. If he wants so " badly" like he said he did. He can reach out to me. I haven't texted nor call him all day and don't plan on intimating anymore contact. If he wants to talk to me. He knows exactly what to say, and knows my numbers. You all think it's so "easy" to move on from someone you've been with for three in a half years. To loose your best friend the only person you really rely on. Right now my motto is "Let go and let God". Edited May 8, 2014 by poisonwine
Elle1975 Posted May 8, 2014 Posted May 8, 2014 I'm not mailing his crap to him. If he wants so " badly" like he said he did. He can reach out to me. I haven't texted nor call him all day and don't plan on intimating anymore contact. If he wants to talk to me. He knows exactly what to say, and knows my numbers. You all think it's so "easy" to move on from someone you've been with for three in a half years. Right now my motto is "Let go and let God". It's not easy indeed, but the process to get there has been proven to yield results. I hate to say it, but it looks like you're looking for an excuse to contact him. I know you reached to him to get comfort, but you need to find another source of support. The guy has replied that he wanted to be left alone.. That gives you a clue. Beside, it's not only your feelings in the balance, it's his feelings too. He probably needs some times to sort them out, and get over the break up. Ultimately, it's your decision to keep contacting him, or not. I know by experience that it's not a good idea. It's going to make things worse.
Simon Phoenix Posted May 8, 2014 Posted May 8, 2014 I'm not mailing his crap to him. If he wants so " badly" like he said he did. He can reach out to me. I haven't texted nor call him all day and don't plan on intimating anymore contact. If he wants to talk to me. He knows exactly what to say, and knows my numbers. You all think it's so "easy" to move on from someone you've been with for three in a half years. To loose your best friend the only person you really rely on. Right now my motto is "Let go and let God". No, it's not easy to let go at all. But doing the opposite of letting go doesn't help you get anywhere except on here being angry and lashing out at everything and everybody. It's not easy to let go, but to actually get to the point where you can let go, you have to start the process. That means not contacting him and not answering his contact. That doesn't mean trying to force him to care about things in your life. We all know its hard. But to get through it, you actually have to start the process.
Author poisonwine Posted May 8, 2014 Author Posted May 8, 2014 (edited) It's not easy indeed, but the process to get there has been proven to yield results. I hate to say it, but it looks like you're looking for an excuse to contact him. I know you reached to him to get comfort, but you need to find another source of support. The guy has replied that he wanted to be left alone.. That gives you a clue. Beside, it's not only your feelings in the balance, it's his feelings too. He probably needs some times to sort them out, and get over the break up. Ultimately, it's your decision to keep contacting him, or not. I know by experience that it's not a good idea. It's going to make things worse. No, it's not easy to let go at all. But doing the opposite of letting go doesn't help you get anywhere except on here being angry and lashing out at everything and everybody. It's not easy to let go, but to actually get to the point where you can let go, you have to start the process. That means not contacting him and not answering his contact. That doesn't mean trying to force him to care about things in your life. We all know its hard. But to get through it, you actually have to start the process. I told myself last night. I'm not contacting him anymore. If he wants to intimate contact that's fine with by me. I'll be there for him when he needs it. But, I don't want to push him away anymore than I already have. We were really close and I want that closeness as friends back and maybe it'll happen if I back off. He was the one who said, let your actions speak louder than your words about not wanting to fight all the time and if he's to initiate that too cool.. but, right now I'm going to try and focus on getting this job I want and working to go back to school. Edited May 8, 2014 by poisonwine
Eddiethemunster Posted May 8, 2014 Posted May 8, 2014 I'm trying to stick to no contact but, when I called everyone else he was the only one available. I know it was pretty wrong and stupid for me to try and force us to be friends when he probably isn't ready. It just frustrates me when we broke up before we did pretty well with remaining friends until we tried to pick up our relationship again. I want us to try and be friends on its own time. Day by day. I've been there for him through all his family issues when we were and weren't in a relationship. I just thought he a would do the same. :/ Hun I really do sympathize with you, but you need to completely break off all contact from him. Firstly delete his number! Dont make excuses to yourself to justify contacting him. Its over move on, you're better than he is! PIG!!!!! Try something new join a gym, start dating and enjoy your life, I guarantee after a couple of months you will forget he'd even existed. Good Luck
Elle1975 Posted May 8, 2014 Posted May 8, 2014 I told myself last night. I'm not contacting him anymore. If he wants to intimate contact that's fine with by me. I'll be there for him when he needs it. But, I don't want to push him away anymore than I already have. We were really close and I want that closeness as friends back and maybe it'll happen if I back off. He was the one who said, let your actions speak louder than your words about not wanting to fight all the time and if he's to initiate that too cool.. but, right now I'm going to try and focus on getting this job I want and working to go back to school. Again, it's your decision, but I would refuse contact, for now. Until you get over the break up and move on. You need to make yourself the priority. That's what he's doing. I wish you well at school. That's what I did too. It opens a new world really.
bubbaganoosh Posted May 8, 2014 Posted May 8, 2014 but, right now I'm going to try and focus on getting this job I want and working to go back to school. Great move! Look your hurting and to make matters worse when you lose your job, be it a CEO or a bottle washer it's your security and you life that's affected. IMO that's the most important thing you need right now and along with that, when you start your new job and go to school, your going to have more on your mind then sitting there thinking about the "coulda, woulda, shoulda. Get your job and I can promise you that that big void in your life your having now will shrink considerably. Then whatever happens with him happens but at least you have your security to make a living and have a life. Best of luck to you. 1
KaliLove Posted May 8, 2014 Posted May 8, 2014 I told myself last night. I'm not contacting him anymore. If he wants to intimate contact that's fine with by me. I'll be there for him when he needs it. But, I don't want to push him away anymore than I already have. We were really close and I want that closeness as friends back and maybe it'll happen if I back off. He was the one who said, let your actions speak louder than your words about not wanting to fight all the time and if he's to initiate that too cool.. but, right now I'm going to try and focus on getting this job I want and working to go back to school. Initiate, not intimate. Intimate means something else entirely. Whew! That was bugging me. 1
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