TylerDurdenn Posted May 6, 2014 Posted May 6, 2014 I have a new girlfriend, she is the most beautiful girl I have ever seen in my life, she ticks every box. However I can't stop fantasising over my ex.. We didn't work at all, we were two different people, the one thing that kept us together for our four year relationship was the sex.. It was completely different to anything I have ever experienced, that was our connection.. We didn't talk about our problems.. We just had crazy sex She still sends me sexual messages, I'm guessing she feels the same.. We know we're not meant for each other but our sex was just too good. I haven't found that sexual connection with my new girlfriend, she is a bit shy in the bedroom, where as me and my ex were like crazy apes trying to kill each other. LS tell me how I can squash my fantasies! And NO I would never cheat on my girlfriend! I just need rid of these evil thoughts!
Zahara Posted May 6, 2014 Posted May 6, 2014 Why are you receptive to sexual messages from your ex while you are in a relationship with your girlfriend? 12
Author TylerDurdenn Posted May 6, 2014 Author Posted May 6, 2014 Why are you receptive to sexual messages from your ex while you are in a relationship with your girlfriend? I have the same number. I never reply.
Always Pondering Posted May 6, 2014 Posted May 6, 2014 (edited) I have the same number. I never reply. And your girlfriend is okay with your ex sending you sexual messages? If I was her I'd want it to stop and you to tell your ex to stop doing that. Edited May 6, 2014 by Always Pondering want*
elseaacych Posted May 6, 2014 Posted May 6, 2014 I have the same number. I never reply. Block her number. 1
mtnbiker3000 Posted May 6, 2014 Posted May 6, 2014 I too have had to learn to live without the most crazy sexual chemistry ever. That person (not my ex) is gone and isn't coming back. So, I guess you have to just keep rolling the dice and hope you come across it again. If this one doesn't have it, then maybe set it down and look elsewhere. Guess it depends how important that is to you. Sounds like it's pretty high on your list...
me85 Posted May 6, 2014 Posted May 6, 2014 Ok guys, we're not here to judge. We're here to help as much as we can with what he is asking. He's not asking if it's right or wrong to read his ex's texts or not...or whether it's wrong to fantasize about her, just how to stop fantasizing about her. Which, I'm sorry dude, no advice here. Only what that other person on here said...block her number to help the whole out of sight out of mind thing. Good luck! 1
Survivor12 Posted May 6, 2014 Posted May 6, 2014 Ok guys, we're not here to judge. We're here to help as much as we can with what he is asking. He's not asking if it's right or wrong to read his ex's texts or not...or whether it's wrong to fantasize about her, just how to stop fantasizing about her. Which, I'm sorry dude, no advice here. Only what that other person on here said...block her number to help the whole out of sight out of mind thing. Good luck! Who's judging? Continuing to read his ex's sexual messages is just feeding his fantasy and is disrespectful to his current gf. Posters have pointed this out and advised him to put a stop to it by changing his number or blocking hers instead of making excuses. 3
Zahara Posted May 6, 2014 Posted May 6, 2014 Block her or tell her to stop. Sexual messages are only flaming your fantasies. And it isn't fair to your girlfriend that your attention is being distracted. Probably won't block or stop it because it's a huge ego boost. 2
Raena Posted May 6, 2014 Posted May 6, 2014 Why not try talking to your new gf about what your needs are. She might be more receptive than you think. 1
KaliLove Posted May 6, 2014 Posted May 6, 2014 You are already borderline cheating on your girlfriend by not blocking your ex's messages. 2
TAV Posted May 6, 2014 Posted May 6, 2014 Since this is long distance, trust is key. You are not helping your relationship by letting a third party meddle in it, albeit in a passive way. 1
Simon Phoenix Posted May 6, 2014 Posted May 6, 2014 Yeah, you allowing your ex to text you is pretty sketchy considering your current relationship. Block her now and give your current girlfriend 100 percent of your attention. Or let your current girlfriend go and figure this out on your own. 2
soccerrprp Posted May 6, 2014 Posted May 6, 2014 I have the same number. I never reply. Not nearly as concerned about your sexual fantasies about your ex. It's clear that you are being reminded of them by reading your ex's texts. Crazy that you would continue such communication with your ex when you have a new gf. I am positive that your gf would not approve. Like someone else said, it's easy to block her number. If you don't, it's for no other reason than you want to continue receiving these texts or worse, want to maintain some kind of relationship in the event you decide to get back with her. You say you won't cheat, but.....you continue to read explicit texts from an ex who was nothing more than a sexual object, fantasy to you..... block her or let your gf go so that she can find someone more sensible or decent. If I found out my gf was getting personal or explicit texts for an ex or some other guy and kept it from me, it would require no further discussion. I would leave her. No time to be with selfish, inconsiderate, unhealthy people in my life. I bet your gf feels the same. It sounds like you get off on your ex's texts. 3
todreaminblue Posted May 6, 2014 Posted May 6, 2014 The sexual messages have to stop or you won't stop fantasizing...you need to move on from your ex, you are in a relationship now so let your ex go and hopefully she will find someone who does make her happy too.....if you are truly happy with your relationship imagine your gf finding the sexual messages...... seeing she is shy with you.....she would probably be really hurt and you would make her really unhappy...i have to ask you ...do you think that is right and what would you say to your gf when you looked at her and you saw how much you hurt her....i think it would be easier on you and definitely her ...to stop the messages dont you?...i hope that you do ...best wishes.....deb
Elle1975 Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 Have you tried talking to you current girlfriend about it? That you would like to try something new I mean. Not everybody is a sex monkey I agree but she could be receptive to your suggestions. Maybe tell her things like.. you have a beautiful body, I really enjoy you doing {whatever it is you enjoy}.. words of encouragement might just do the trick. I can relate. I too had a connection in bed with my ex that I am worried I won't find again. Sex isn't everything but it sure is part of the package.
Els Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 So, what happened to the Mexican girl you were posting about in the LDR forums a couple of weeks ago? That's the ex? You have a new girlfriend already? Slow down, dude! 1
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