nerdlingZA Posted May 6, 2014 Posted May 6, 2014 I'm 100% sure that if I was Rich Rich my Ex was never going to leave me,not because she loves money or anything but we all know how women are. anyone else feel this way ?
ja123 Posted May 6, 2014 Posted May 6, 2014 I would probably pretend to be somewhat poor, if I were rich, just to ascertain the feelings are genuine. What you're saying though doesn't only apply to some women, but men, too. I know a guy and one of his considerations for marrying a gal was because her family is really rich and he knows there's a great inheritance. Be careful not to make "all or nothing" statements, as you're shooting yourself in the foot in terms not being able to open your heart to be vulnerable with someone and find true love.. If your ex would've stayed with you for the money, it doesn't mean all women are like that. Good thing you're not with your ex, eh? 3
MidwestUSA Posted May 6, 2014 Posted May 6, 2014 No. No one expects 18 year olds to be filthy rich. Unless he was born into money, then he can run around and play games within the social circle that creates, with girls who feel the way you think they feel. I think I just confused myself. 1
d0nnivain Posted May 6, 2014 Posted May 6, 2014 As a woman I don't think that is universally true. yes, some men are more attractive while standing on their wallets & there are lots of gold diggers out there but if you were otherwise fundamentally incompatible money wasn't going to change that. It's reality television so take that for what it's worth but look at that show Millionaire Matchmaker -- lots of the women say "no thanks I don't want another date with him."
JZH Posted May 6, 2014 Posted May 6, 2014 I'm a female. I dated a guy recently who has a lot of money, but I didn't like the way he treated me, so I stopped dating him. He's still getting in touch with me and wants to date again, but I'm not interested because, in my opinion, he's an ass. The guy I'm dating at the moment is paid minimum wage.
TXGuy Posted May 6, 2014 Posted May 6, 2014 I'm 100% sure that if I was Rich Rich my Ex was never going to leave me,not because she loves money or anything but we all know how women are. anyone else feel this way ? A girlfriend might not leave you, but why wouldn't a wife? She can get half your riches and her freedom. 2
Haydn Posted May 6, 2014 Posted May 6, 2014 I am horribly wealthy. I have so much gold i have a `gilt` complex. She still left.. Now i am reduced to looking for spare change down the back of old sofas . Or raiding my child`s piggy bank. OP a huge sweeping statement. 3
SadNLonley Posted May 6, 2014 Posted May 6, 2014 I guess it all depends how bad it is. Women can put up with a lot of bs.
carhill Posted May 6, 2014 Posted May 6, 2014 I'm 100% sure that if I was Rich Rich my Ex was never going to leave me,not because she loves money or anything but we all know how women are. anyone else feel this way ? In my social circle I've seen a number of marriages survive strife as well as infidelity due to the comfort level and social power of wealth. It happens, most often with 'family' money, where one or both spouses are well-protected by the power of the family, their attorneys, etc. I know it was a factor (not being wealthy enough) in the downfall of our M because my exW as much as told my best friend exactly that. She was greatly disappointed in my lack of monetary success, at least compared to where she wanted to be. Fair enough. Hope the next guy got her where she wanted to go! I would imagine each demographic and social circle/strata is different. I believe so, so am seeking out a different location/social circle which perhaps is more in line with my belief systems and life goals. Something for everyone! BTW, being rich (I define rich as money is no longer important and life is spent simply enjoying living) is no guarantee against pilfering the family fortune in a divorce. Happens all the time. Just haven't seen it happen very often around here. In fact, the empty mansion across the street is a perfect example of that, not happening around here. Husband and wife have separate homes and neither live in this one, and haven't for 15 years. Still married. YMMV.
Gaeta Posted May 6, 2014 Posted May 6, 2014 I remember when I was just starting in life and financially struggling. I would take walks at night in those rich neighborhoods and wondered how wonderful and easy life must be behind those beautiful fancy doors. Fast forward several years, my late 30s. I lived a few years with a wealthy man, 5 luxurious cars at the door, maids, gardeners, etc. It was the most sad time of my life. I cried a lot, probably every day for the 3 years I lived with him. Money does not impress me at all. In fact if a man with anything fancy approaches me it's a turn off. 2
Phoe Posted May 6, 2014 Posted May 6, 2014 but we all know how women are. Hmm. There are lots of men who know how women are. The above statement shows that you are not one of them. 4
soccerrprp Posted May 6, 2014 Posted May 6, 2014 I'm 100% sure that if I was Rich Rich my Ex was never going to leave me,not because she loves money or anything but we all know how women are. anyone else feel this way ? I'm certain disgruntled men do, but since my perspective and experience with women has been vastly positive.................NO, I don't share your feelings. I would agree, though, that there are women who do put money (so-called "security") ahead of happiness, love. But that's their loss... 1
GrandeH Posted May 6, 2014 Posted May 6, 2014 They say money doesn't buy happiness, but I wouldn't mind crying in my Ferrari. Also, those who say money doesn't buy happiness just don't know how to spend it P.s those are jokes, I do not live by those principles.
slizl Posted May 6, 2014 Posted May 6, 2014 Money isn't everything, but it sure makes everything a lot easier. 5
Hopeful30 Posted May 6, 2014 Posted May 6, 2014 lol! If any of my exes were super rich, I wouldn't have left them either. Lots and lots of money can compensate for (some) shortcomings.
Author nerdlingZA Posted May 6, 2014 Author Posted May 6, 2014 I would probably pretend to be somewhat poor, if I were rich, just to ascertain the feelings are genuine. What you're saying though doesn't only apply to some women, but men, too. I know a guy and one of his considerations for marrying a gal was because her family is really rich and he knows there's a great inheritance. that's why I never said "Ex GF" on the threads names.
Author nerdlingZA Posted May 6, 2014 Author Posted May 6, 2014 I'm a female. I dated a guy recently who has a lot of money, but I didn't like the way he treated me, so I stopped dating him. He's still getting in touch with me and wants to date again, but I'm not interested because, in my opinion, he's an ass. The guy I'm dating at the moment is paid minimum wage. But u wouldn't date a guy who doesn't work! You left you Ex who has money for another guy who has money. Same thing.
stillafool Posted May 6, 2014 Posted May 6, 2014 I'm 100% sure that if I was Rich Rich my Ex was never going to leave me,not because she loves money or anything but we all know how women are. anyone else feel this way ? So if she doesn't love money how would your being rich prevent her from leaving you? 1
mammasita Posted May 6, 2014 Posted May 6, 2014 That's such BS. I have lots of money and can't keep a man
Hopeful30 Posted May 6, 2014 Posted May 6, 2014 That's such BS. I have lots of money and can't keep a man That's because they feel emasculated. 1
Author nerdlingZA Posted May 6, 2014 Author Posted May 6, 2014 Lol most of you girls are amazing, 'I used to date a guy with a lot of money but I left him' sure enough! The reason why u dated him is coz he has money & u left some1 who doesn't have money for him.
MissBee Posted May 6, 2014 Posted May 6, 2014 I'm 100% sure that if I was Rich Rich my Ex was never going to leave me,not because she loves money or anything but we all know how women are. anyone else feel this way ? I don't get what you're asking. You say your ex wouldn't leave if you were filthy rich "NOT because she loves money but we all know how women are." What does this mean? If it's not because she loves money then what is it? In any event....if someone doesn't want to be with you, maybe money might allow them to bear you a bit longer than normal, but it still stands that they don't in fact want to be with you. Your ex didn't want to be with you for whatever reason...not sure why you're making it about if you were filthy rich esp if you're saying she doesn't love money.
SadNLonley Posted May 6, 2014 Posted May 6, 2014 That's because they feel emasculated. I completely agree. I dont think some men can handle the fact the woman has more money than them. 1
DArtagnan2 Posted May 6, 2014 Posted May 6, 2014 I dont agree with your original post. While I have heard of a few women personally, that are staying in relationships/Marriage because the guy is well off and will take care of her, for the majority, I don't believe that a woman would stay with a guy just because he has money.
Hopeful30 Posted May 6, 2014 Posted May 6, 2014 I dont agree with your original post. While I have heard of a few women personally, that are staying in relationships/Marriage because the guy is well off and will take care of her, for the majority, I don't believe that a woman would stay with a guy just because he has money. I think it depends on the woman. A woman who grew up in poverty and is struggling financially is more likely to stay in a relationship for the wealth. A woman who is independent and/or has never struggled financially would be less likely to stay with a man just because he's rich... she has her own money and wants other things. A golddigger wouldn't care as long as he had money. So I think it greatly depends on the woman, what she really wants and what she's willing to sacrifice for money.
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