yessy21 Posted May 6, 2014 Posted May 6, 2014 Okay.. So I met this guy... we started talking... he seems super interested... Always complimenting me ... kissing me... so on.... Well.... I asked him yesterday if he wants to be friends or if he likes me as in wanting to date me.... I asked because I don't want to get signals confused and I don't want to behave inappropriately in front of him. Either way he sent me back a message saying... "I really like you." I wrote. "Oh.Ok." I didn't write back.. then he said: "you?" I said. " I really like you." he said : "Good" then kissy faces and that's it. wtf? is he just not big in communicating or is he not interested? cause he sends me a message once a day at least but I notice he doesn't speak to me much. I don't want to send him a message because I might sound ...u know... pathetic. God ... this is pathetic. I know he said he really liked me but I don't know. this dating stuff is confusing. HELP!
bryceisbryce Posted May 6, 2014 Posted May 6, 2014 One message a day without calling you means he's not really investing much time into getting to know you. If it's mostly kisses and talking about how hot you are then he's probably just trying to get laid. 1
PegNosePete Posted May 6, 2014 Posted May 6, 2014 Always complimenting me ... kissing me... so on.... Well.... I asked him yesterday if he wants to be friends or if he likes me as in wanting to date me.... Either way he sent me back a message saying... "I really like you." I wrote. "Oh.Ok." WTF are you playing at. Imagine the tables are the opposite way around. You're dating a guy who you like, you kiss etc. Suddenly he sends you a message asking if you just want to be friends or really like him. You say you really like him and he replies "Oh. OK". What are you going to think to that? Basically you just TOTALLY dissed him and made him feel like crap! And now you wonder why he's not responding to you very much? wtf? is he just not big in communicating or is he not interested? YOU are just not that big into communicating! Seriously why on earth did you initiate this entire chain of messages. Everything was going smoothly and you just threw a spanner right into the works. I don't want to send him a message because I might sound ...u know... pathetic Well, I suggest you stop the messaging, PICK UP THE PHONE or meet up with him in person and try to make up for the terrible communication meltdown you have caused. 1
Author yessy21 Posted May 6, 2014 Author Posted May 6, 2014 yes we have met... and hung out several times. I am just wondering if he really likes me like he said or if he is just messing with me to get u know... laid... and what not. the thing is ... like I said... I notice he doesn't send many messages to me... I don't want to be chasing tail.
Dallers Posted May 6, 2014 Posted May 6, 2014 I really like you but I am not going to do anything about it apart from tell you which should never happen. I am either a player or I am shy and insecure and just going to text to keep myself busy and ego up but never make a move. Men. From a man.
Zahara Posted May 6, 2014 Posted May 6, 2014 I have to agree with Peg. I didn't note it but when you asked him what his stance was with you and he said he liked you, you responded with Oh Ok. Enough of texting. Pick up the phone and have conversations. You will be able to figure out how invested he is.
stillafool Posted May 6, 2014 Posted May 6, 2014 yes we have met... and hung out several times. I am just wondering if he really likes me like he said or if he is just messing with me to get u know... laid... and what not. the thing is ... like I said... I notice he doesn't send many messages to me... I don't want to be chasing tail. How would we know?? I think you should tell him you are not interested in FWB sex and are looking for a relationship. Just tell him what you want and expect otherwise you will end up having sex with him and not knowing where you stand. Only he can give you the answers you seek. 1
Gaeta Posted May 6, 2014 Posted May 6, 2014 I am just wondering if he really likes me like he said or if he is just messing with me to get u know... laid... and what not. And you think he is just going to answer you if he's just interested in messing around? This is what dating is for you spend time with people and figure it out along the way. If you don't want to be messed around with then you make your list of personal rules and expectations. Example: You want consistency, genuine interest, respect, no pressure for sex, etc. As for him not texting much it may just be his style. He also may not want to overwhelm you and appear 'too eager'. If you like texting then set the tone, next time he text tell him you like hearing from him. I assure you he will pick up on that.
Author yessy21 Posted May 6, 2014 Author Posted May 6, 2014 WTF are you playing at. Imagine the tables are the opposite way around. You're dating a guy who you like, you kiss etc. Suddenly he sends you a message asking if you just want to be friends or really like him. You say you really like him and he replies "Oh. OK". What are you going to think to that? Basically you just TOTALLY dissed him and made him feel like crap! And now you wonder why he's not responding to you very much? YOU are just not that big into communicating! Seriously why on earth did you initiate this entire chain of messages. Everything was going smoothly and you just threw a spanner right into the works. Well, I suggest you stop the messaging, PICK UP THE PHONE or meet up with him in person and try to make up for the terrible communication meltdown you have caused. Okay so I send him a message and he responded with "hi beautiful. just got done with training ...its going well... message here and there... and then I made intent of interaction. I asked if he was going to be busy with training or if we would be seeing each other soon. He responded: the heat play tonight, im excited to watch the game.. you can come over if u want. " I put ok. Was that too much? Im sooo over analyzing the situation... but to be honest... I like the guy. I think he's pretty nice.
d0nnivain Posted May 6, 2014 Posted May 6, 2014 I think he likes you & I think he made that clear when he answered your Q. Has he taken you out on a date? That's the best indication that he wants a romantic relationship with you. If you just hang out but kiss when you meet, that's more NSA / FWB. There's nothing wrong with that if you are both making that choice but it's not a behavior that shows you value yourself & reserve kisses for only men you are romantically involved with. 1
Author yessy21 Posted May 6, 2014 Author Posted May 6, 2014 I think he likes you & I think he made that clear when he answered your Q. Has he taken you out on a date? That's the best indication that he wants a romantic relationship with you. If you just hang out but kiss when you meet, that's more NSA / FWB. There's nothing wrong with that if you are both making that choice but it's not a behavior that shows you value yourself & reserve kisses for only men you are romantically involved with. our first date was going for a stroll around the beach area. we talked and maybe ur right cause he kept giving me weird compliments like "you have the best personality I've ever met." "I love your earings" " what do u like about a guy?" damn.... im freaking clueless... hes been slapping me in the face with I like you's and I didn't even know it. I met his mom and sister also.... but like I said...I like him... but if its nothing more than BS then im out like a light.
FitChick Posted May 8, 2014 Posted May 8, 2014 I hope you are kids. That would explain the nonsense. An adult man asks an adult female on a date, not to watch a game on TV with his other friends. That is for buddies. 1
Author yessy21 Posted May 15, 2014 Author Posted May 15, 2014 Im an adult. but with the heart of a child. and we keep seeing each other and he calls me his gf... so I guess he really does like me. we watch the games a lot but always alone... or with his mom and he wants to see me everyday. soooooo he might just not be into texting and stuff much.
Chocolat Posted May 15, 2014 Posted May 15, 2014 So are you happy with this style of relationship, where the energy is low and you don't actually go out and do things together but hang out when it's convenient? If yes, carry on. If no, move on.
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