VanessaVanessa Posted May 6, 2014 Posted May 6, 2014 Guys: What makes you decide to approach a girl? How do you decide if you will approach a girl (does she have to seem friendly, funny or dress nicely etc)? Does it matter where you see her? For those who use hidden techniques to approaching a girl, why do you approach that way? - I have had two guys recently approach me pretending to ask for directions (and one of which I thought was being genuine at first) and I guess I want to know why they do that. Also, is it common to have times when you would like to go up to a girl but just don't know what to talk about or are you ever intimidated by someone? Any answers are welcome, thanks
Ebman Posted May 6, 2014 Posted May 6, 2014 Asking for directions, a cigarette, lighter etc is a way to see how you respond. From your reaction, facial expression, body language we pick up conscious and unconscious signals. We resting the water. Seeing if you are approachable. You can't however control your reaction even if you try. If you're thinking "what a jerk" or "wow! You've been beaten by the ugly stick" or "mmmm... You're a hottie" it will ooze through your behavior. There is no definitive answer to why we choose to approach certain women. Some guys approach many woman. Some guys will spend the whole evening building up the courage to approach that one person they want to interact with. These days it's become acceptable for women to approach men as well. I remember dancing in a club one evening and a woman approached me and asked "what would you do if I kissed you right now?" Before I could answer we were kissing. The reasoning for who,where and when we approach is buried in our subconscious. I feel it's better to just embrace it rather than explain it. But hey!!! That's just me 1
hasaquestion Posted May 6, 2014 Posted May 6, 2014 Guys: What makes you decide to approach a girl? She's hot. I'm not a pig and I don't come off like that I'm sure but lets be honest here. How do you decide if you will approach a girl (does she have to seem friendly, funny or dress nicely etc)? Again if she's hot. Shoot first ask questions later. If we don't get along, or if she's a raging b****, etc. that will sort itself out. Does it matter where you see her? Nope. If she thinks I'm cute she will anywhere. If she doesn't she won't. Same for me - unless she's at a KKK bake sale I'm not going to be unwilling to be friendly. For those who use hidden techniques to approaching a girl, why do you approach that way? - I have had two guys recently approach me pretending to ask for directions (and one of which I thought was being genuine at first) and I guess I want to know why they do that. The hardest part is initiating a conversation. Once people start talking they get more comfortable and confident. Its a crutch to get the conversation started. Also, is it common to have times when you would like to go up to a girl but just don't know what to talk about or are you ever intimidated by someone? Yeah it happens. When I was single I walked up to a girl who was college age or so who was with her mom at Starbucks. As soon as we started talking and her mom looked at me I basically froze. Awkward happens a lot. If you can't laugh it off you won't have much fun approaching people. 1
Targetlock Posted May 6, 2014 Posted May 6, 2014 that certain special undefinable something, spark or quality that makes me want to take the plunge and approach them. 2
sillyanswer Posted May 6, 2014 Posted May 6, 2014 Guys: What makes you decide to approach a girl? She looks good.
Bruce Leigh Posted May 6, 2014 Posted May 6, 2014 that certain special undefinable something, spark or quality that makes me want to take the plunge and approach them. This. Plus any sort of sign that she is interested of course.
Disillusioned Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 Nothing. I don't approach women. ^^That.^^ Women approach ME... especially if they're frumpy and dumpy!
jay1983 Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 I won't approach a girl unless she looks at me and smiles. Otherwise I'll just save myself a rejection. Asking for directions, that's a good way to get noticed, but if you ask, you can immediately tell their interested by facial expression and body language.
IdontPlayanyGames Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 If i catch them looking i approach. I never approach random girls for no reason because most aren't interested. But if i make eye contact with a random girl and she seems interested or smiles i will approach. That is the only time i ever approach period. 1
irc333 Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 I do it occasionally, usually in a venue that's somewhat quite and their are completely solo. Like one day around the holidays, I was waiting for my coffee order along with another woman. It was a coffee shop in a bookstore so it was rather quiet, so I felt the obligation to start up chatting with her. SHe was rather stand-offish and short with me...but hey, at least I approached right? Some women aren't open to being approached when they are going about their daily tasks...meaning, if they aren't in a venue where they are socially prepared to approached, they may even consider you an ass for even approaching. It's like you should've known better NOT to approach (at least that's the vibe I get from them) BUt...if you're at a friends social party, poker night, game night, where there is some PRE-scheduled event GOOD example....Meetup...then women are more open about it. 1
lino Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 A smile is all I need. Dress doesn't matter, a sexy girl is so because of what's underneath the clothes. What will cancel any desire to approach: if she's glued to her phone and/or surrounded by an army of friends, especially if they're all blokes. 3
AdrianCrawley Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 Guys: What makes you decide to approach a girl? How do you decide if you will approach a girl (does she have to seem friendly, funny or dress nicely etc)? Does it matter where you see her? For those who use hidden techniques to approaching a girl, why do you approach that way? - I have had two guys recently approach me pretending to ask for directions (and one of which I thought was being genuine at first) and I guess I want to know why they do that. Also, is it common to have times when you would like to go up to a girl but just don't know what to talk about or are you ever intimidated by someone? Any answers are welcome, thanks If she smiles and looks at me and continues doing that every time she sees me. Ooor, and that's when I approach someone for real, on full throttle, when I fall in love. Sometimes I also approach women for sex, but then I'm less discriminating.
Targetlock Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 exactly they got to show interest as well, which doesn't often happen in my case. 1
AdrianCrawley Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 exactly they got to show interest as well, which doesn't often happen in my case. Most of the times their interest is for getting attention("I smile at you so you will give me attention"), or, in my case, because I look different (I look like a small Russian), so it's sort of interesting to have connections with me, it's like me have connections with an African in my country of origin. That means, nothing will happen, anyway, except maybe some conversation.
Imported Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 She seems interested in me and I am interested in her.....I approach. She has shown me nothing, but I am interested in her. Hit or miss if I approach. Most times, I don't. I think she is interested based on her subconscious behavior, but she acts like she isnt based on her conscious behavior. I am not breaking down her walls. I will accept her efforts to show that she has no interest to be she has no interest. Bye. 1
Legatus Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 Eye contact first.. I try to smile (it's getting better now), if I get a smile back - then I know there's a point in approaching. Sometimes body language, the way she behaves if she's around other people.. But at other times I don't even think about it. It happens just because I say something stupid, which turns out to be funny, or the other way around. As someone already said, it's not always what is said but how we say it and how she responds. In few seconds you can see if there's a connection or not..
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