what's the best way to tell her and explain

[seanmathews3]

This girl and I dated a little while back and we took some time apart for my schooling that was very very distant. I've been back and we've been casually dating again but things have been getting rough. We were officially together for only about 6 months, I was gone for 6, and we've been seeing each other every now and then for another 6 months. I've thought about it A LOT and I just don't feel she's a good match for me as a long term partner. There's a previous thread on here with many people agreeing she's not the kinda girl I'm looking for.

At first she was fine with casual dating, she says she loves me and she's pretty convincing about it, but I just like her, we have different feelings for each other. I told her I'm not looking to have a relationship with anyone right now. I feel I'm too young and have way too much going on right now to be caught up in a serious relationship.

 

I feel that now with her feelings out of the bag, there's this pressure on me to love her back. Or this pressure to immediately decide on a long term commitment. If I let her go now, I'll be the bad guy for giving up, not seeing any potential and not loving her back. If I continue seeing her and it ends a little down the road, I'm still the bad guy for not doing it earlier and wasting her time and stuff. Hopefully this makes sense to some.

 

I know if we're meant to be it'll happen. Maybe she is right for me later down the road and just not right now. Once we both grow a bit more. That's why I don't want to completely cut her out of my life, and I don't want to make it sound like there's no possible way ever.

 

If it comes to it., what's the best way to let her down easy? A way she might understand. I know saying "I don't see any long term potential" isn't gonna hit her the best, so I'm looking for options.

 

Any help is appreciated

[David87]

Be blunt and tel her what you told us. Don't sugarcoat it, be sincere and make sure this is really what you want because there's no going back after you let her go.