tito1501 Posted May 6, 2014 Posted May 6, 2014 Hello everyone ! I am going to sum up part of the "plot": -We have 20 years old. We had a great relationship for 2 and half years. -She broke up with me because I was no longer giving her attention (I deserved that). -After two years apart, she came back to me saying she missed me and we started to see each other again. We traveled last week to a beach where we stayed for 4 outstanding days, it seemed as if we had never broken up. Formerly, she was always very private, she never liked to show herself or her body to anyone. The thing is, now she has 8000 followers on Instagram because she took some regular pictures to a clothing store; so, yesterday, just after I left her at home, she posted a picture EMPHASIZING her breasts on the beach (wearing a bikini). I was very jealous, as I love her. Then I sent her a message saying that I do not like this kind of attitude and that I could not ask her to delete the picture because we were not dating, however, I told her I no longer wanted to see her because I do not approve this attitude and soon I will be away for 8 months in an Exchange Program, so will she. After that, she called my mobile trying to explain herself and she said she was going to remove the picture, but she didn't. After yesterday, I was sure that the picture and its 600 "likes" are more important for her than my feelings, it is like as if she has changed her values. At the same night, she sent me a message on What'sApp saying : "Do not forget I love you" I did not reply it. But today she called me and as I didn't answer, she sent a message saying Hi on What'sApp, so I replied. Then, she said she wanted to see me again because she misses me, I answered the following: "I don't think so because after all this days we had together, I was very dissapointed with you and I noticed your values have changed". She replied: "Wow, that is sad to be heard, well, the choice is yours". Should I keep my position and not talking to her until when she realizes she is wrong ? I AM SURE she is worried about the fact I am leaving in a month and she is staying here for a while yet. Should I forget her because she is not a worthwhile person ? Thank you !
David87 Posted May 6, 2014 Posted May 6, 2014 How can you say that she isn't a worthwhile person ? You've been broken up for 2 years, things have changed. It's none of your business to act like this if she decides to upload those kind of pictures. Either you accept them or not but don't make a big deal about it. In my opinion she did nothing wrong. You overreacted. 1
Andy_K Posted May 6, 2014 Posted May 6, 2014 She isn't wrong. It sounds like in those two years she has grown up and matured rather more than you have. Not just your attitude, but your inability to accept hers. 1
Author tito1501 Posted May 6, 2014 Author Posted May 6, 2014 Thank you for the considerations But dont you think I AM Mature now because I did not ask her to remove the picture ? I just said I do not want to see her anymore because we have different values now, she was not this kind of person in the past. I am not acting like a chauvinist.
soccerrprp Posted May 6, 2014 Posted May 6, 2014 I agree with others. She changed since you last broke up and if she wants to put up pics emphasizing her breasts, well, that's on her. You neglected her in the past and that may have had something to do with her OPENING UP more. In some way, you may be responsible for her change. She replied: "Wow, that is sad to be heard, well, the choice is yours". That reply alone sounds like she's done some growing up. Probably due to how she remembers how you neglected her the first time around.
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