camelbakx Posted May 5, 2014 Posted May 5, 2014 I need to get this out somewhere and maybe get some advice, so here goes. I am still in love with my ex boyfriend or I think I am. Maybe I"m in love with what we had, either way, I don't know. All I know is that I'm heart broken and I can't seem to quite get over it. My ex and I broke up a while ago, two or so years. Which you would think by now, I might be over him, apparently I'm not. I don't know. For the past year and a half or so, it's been fine. I haven't talked to him, I haven't thought of him and then all the sudden it's back. I don't know where it came from or why. I feel like right now in my life, I should be over him and having the time of my life. I'm young, I'm single, and things should be but they're not. I feel stuck in a sense and don't know what to do. How do I get over this feeling? People keep telling me to go out and date people, which I have done, and honestly I do try. I was in a relationship with another guy for about 3 months but ended it with him due to my feelings for the ex. I've also been on dates with a few other guys and I keep comparing them to my ex and that needs to stop. I don't know. Help? My ex is happily moved on and I'm stuck. I don't know what to do.
Ebman Posted May 6, 2014 Posted May 6, 2014 It happens that everytime we are single or going through difficult stages in our relationships we tend to dwell back on the past. Chances are you keep going back to that mental space because there is something you still need to learn from that relationship. You've come to the right place. The people here can give you some new horizons. Just suppressing the thoughts and feelings by dating other people are merely short term strategies. You need to get it out of your system. Maybe speak to a professional or try some reiki therapy. To conclude... What you going through is normal and you can get past this. 1
Jiivy Posted May 6, 2014 Posted May 6, 2014 I would definitely consider starting to see a professional - it's not a weakness. Some people can detatch easier than others. Moving through this doesn't mean forgetting about someone. Have you ever seen the film, "eternal sunshine of the spotless mind"?? - moving on means opening your heart, acknowledging that your ex will ALWAYS be part of you and accepting someone else in again. That's not something that happens immediately and honestly? I don't think there's a time limit. There's nothing wrong with you for taking 2 years. If anything, I'd say that you must have REALLY loved this man. I commend your spirit and am telling you that we're here to support you.
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