Ordinaryday Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 for my case, my ex sent me the bday text in the evening rather than midnight as usual, I bet he must have struggled for sometime before sending it. But trust me, it doesn't feel good for me receiving the text because all I wanted to hear from him is that he would apologize & reunite, not such breadcrumbs. I felt even worse than ever and broke down to tears... so maybe it's for the best that she didn't send you any. at least she might have be considerate enough not to disturb you. I would like to think that most dumpers are considerate enough to leave the dumpee alone on their b'day. if I got a text from the dumper, no matter how much I deny it, for a few seconds I would be excited and think "this is IT. it has finally happened! my dumper is texting me begging me to take them back!" and when I actually read the text and realised it was just a breadcrumb, they dont want me back, they just contacted me with a breadcrumb and I am still dumped and they still dont want me back... well I would be a combination of hurt and furious. hurt that I was still alone and furious that they would contact me with a breadcrumb. so yeah it is better not to hear from them.
flyingfree_hope Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 I would like to think that most dumpers are considerate enough to leave the dumpee alone on their b'day. if I got a text from the dumper, no matter how much I deny it, for a few seconds I would be excited and think "this is IT. it has finally happened! my dumper is texting me begging me to take them back!" and when I actually read the text and realised it was just a breadcrumb, they dont want me back, they just contacted me with a breadcrumb and I am still dumped and they still dont want me back... well I would be a combination of hurt and furious. hurt that I was still alone and furious that they would contact me with a breadcrumb. so yeah it is better not to hear from them. haha that is exactly how I feel! excited & relieved when i first received it - thinking that "yeah at least he remembers it!!! "........then after a few hours, I was left with a broken heart, thinking how sh*tty it is that it was just another day for him & nothing was left between us ..sigh! T.T
Author FredJones80 Posted May 7, 2014 Author Posted May 7, 2014 I would like to think that most dumpers are considerate enough to leave the dumpee alone on their b'day. if I got a text from the dumper, no matter how much I deny it, for a few seconds I would be excited and think "this is IT. it has finally happened! my dumper is texting me begging me to take them back!" I've resigned myself to "we're not getting back together" - although I'd love to, I don't cling to any false hope. The thought would of been nice though, tbh I wouldn't of even replied, but it would of cheered me up a little.
Author FredJones80 Posted May 7, 2014 Author Posted May 7, 2014 maybe she just respects you enough to understand that the best thing for you to move on is for her to leave you alone and allow you to heal. it may not be that, but dont be so negative Oh and about this... I got a message the day before about something completely unrelated which I ignored.
No Limit Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 No need to grief over birthdays. Personally I haven't celebrated mine in, 4 - 5 years now? I even lost count. This year I'm actually more annoyed by friends pushing me for a party 'cause it's the big birthday No. 18, bah humbug.
elseaacych Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 Happy Birthday texts are emotional brain farts from your ex. They remember something about you and think that it matters to wish you a happy birthday, even though they haven't even tried to communicate with you in awhile. But there's nothing behind it. Whatever. Happy Belated Birthday, Fred! 1
STM206 Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 I know it's a hard reality to not receive anything from your ex. The whole catch 22 of "At least they're thinking of me" vs "They still aren't wanting to at least try and reconcile" is the never ending internal battle is dumpees face. I know for a moment you would've felt that place in your heart that had been so numb come back alive, but it wouldn't have lasted long. At least you still have the reality of "progressing" as opposed to false hopes lingering for days after your birthday. How was it? Did you have a self celebration/love day?
Author FredJones80 Posted May 7, 2014 Author Posted May 7, 2014 How was it? Did you have a self celebration/love day? No, I went to the Gym, felt a bit better, came out and cried with no tears, I think I've run out. Apart from that, all ok
jt27 Posted May 14, 2014 Posted May 14, 2014 Happy Birthday dude. My birthday justed pasted last week as well. I didn't get a peep from her. I honestly didn't think I would either. Was there a part of me that wanted her to? Of course. I still love her and want to feel loved by her. I also know it would upset me greatly as I would contrive some kind of hope out it only to be let down. So as of right now, I am glad she didn't text me...well, kinda. haha. Ask me again in another week. 1
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