dyermaker Posted February 7, 2005 Posted February 7, 2005 Originally posted by blind_otter no hijacking. start another topic RE: the legalities of marijuana, if you want to debate that. Or better yet, use the ones we already have.
savethedrama4allama Posted February 7, 2005 Posted February 7, 2005 Well toes, IMO it comes to this. You smoked when he met you. He dated you anyway. It was not a dealbreaker then. If you smoke with the same frequency, I guess it shouldn't be a dealbreaker now. I don't smoke, and wouldn't date anyone who did, but I let my bf know that when we started dating. He had been clean for a few months before and I made it clear that if he wanted to be with me, I expected him to stay that way. I just wonder, why all the sudden he has a problem. Is he looking for an excuse to end it? Or perhaps he's jealous that you do it and he's not a part of it? Honestly that is a part of it for me- I don't want a guy I'm dating stoned with a bunch of other stoned people, since I'm not sure how it would affect his inhibitions, if you know what I'm saying. But as a person who doesn't do drugs, I can see not wanting to be involved with someone who does...but not after two years. Seems like by now he would have either made it a dealbreaker or come to terms with your smokage.
Author tattoomytoe Posted February 7, 2005 Author Posted February 7, 2005 thanks y'all. and just for he record i am not saying that i should not smoke and i do definately know the consequences. i dunno....it just really gripes me the way that he shows no respect for ANYTHING i do that he does not approve of or that he does not like. and this is with everything, music, movies, colors, food...... i do not know what will happen his time, maybe he has had enough of my BS. i do not know if i really even care. but i will update...prob. a few days. should i wait fort him to call me? if i call i really do not know what to say. i am no good at make up and break up stuff.
acidrein_08 Posted February 7, 2005 Posted February 7, 2005 Basically all I got to say is if you don't care whether or not he is tired of you then go ahead and get out of the relationship. Clearly you are not in love if you do not care about the other persons feelings. This is not something you should be talking to us about trying to justify yourself, but you need to go right to the source and work out everything before it is to late. Too many of us have lost love lately, if its what u want then you are one of the lucky ones. Don't continue to be with him becuase it will just hurt him more.
opaleye Posted February 8, 2005 Posted February 8, 2005 The thing is that even if he knew that you smoked when he decided to go out with you it doesn't mean he can't change his mind. When my ex boyfriend asked me out I said no cos he was into drugs. He said he quit and we went out. Then he phased them back in. It was only marijuana but I still didn't like it. And as it went on I disliked it more and more. I just didn't want to be with someone who did that or needed that in their life. I couldn't imagine the father of my children doing that. When he first phased them back in I sort of didn't mind because I wasn't the boss of him and I didn't want to control him. But as we got more serious I realised that it was an issue. So maybe that's what happened. As he got more and more serious about you he felt more and more seriously about the weed. I dunno. In the end me and my ex just weren't suited. Maybe that's the case with you. But then again maybe not, only you two know for sure (and maybe not even then)
Isabella82 Posted February 8, 2005 Posted February 8, 2005 I was just about to say what Opaleye said. I would never be with someone that smoked pot long term. I would never want to get myself involved with someone that has an addiction like that. I like Opaleye said wouldn't want to have children with a guy like that. I think maybe he was okay with it at first, but now that you guys are getting more serious and probably older maybe his views about pot are changing since he did already quit. I think that if he wants you to quit, that it doesn't mean he is looking for excuses to break up with you, he just maybe cares about you a lot and doesn't want you to have to get high all the time. I am dating a guy right now that smokes all the time, and he got me to try it. I know how addicting it can be. But I would never want to have a serious relationship with him, and the pot is the main reason. Yes, I do smoke with him sometimes, but he smokes everyday, and that is just a problem. You also said in one of your posts that you aren't planning on marrying him. Well if that is true, and you don't see him as a potential husband then you are just wasting your time anyway. Go find someone that you could see yourself spending the rest of your life with. VirginiaBob, That comment you made about Walmart.....I work there. But, its okay no offense, I will have my BA in Psychology this August. I just thought it was funny.
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