pteromom Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 You are putting too much energy into these girls/women who are messaging you. Most of them won't work out, and what you have to understand is it has nothing to do with a failing on your part. Dating is about connection! Two awesome good-looking people can get together and not make that connection. Sometimes it is instant - there's just something awkward and "off" between you... sometimes it starts out promising but fizzles out. It's nobody's FAULT - it's just the way it is. So you need to work at not tying your worth up with what these random ladies say and do. Keep going until you find someone you are able to create and maintain that CONNECTION with. You need to get out and expand your horizons. Baseball is great, but try some new things - rock climbing, hiking, book clubs, gaming clubs, learning an instrument or language - whatever! Just try new things, meet new people, and expand yourself. It shouldn't be about meeting girls or making friends, but becoming more interesting and confident... which, by the way, will make it easier for you to meet girls and make friends, and will make you a happier person.
hasaquestion Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 You are joking, right? The people I know who online date can't buy a date in real life. They online date because they think it's their only chance to meet / date someone because real life isn't any option for them. Most of the posters here primarily only online date and do not / have not had success in real life dating and most gave up attempting it entirely. I do agree that if you have problems in real life dating it manifests itself in online dating. No I'm perfectly serious. If you can't sell yourself in person, you won't be able to sell yourself with a picture. If you try to use online dating as an alternative to real life dating you'll just end up complaining about it.
StanMusial Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 Seriously? I should really try borrowing a stranger's dog? Well, if you don't know ONE PERSON who owns a dog, then yeah, try to borrow one off a stranger.
mirage12 Posted May 7, 2014 Posted May 7, 2014 OP, I think your problem is that you're making yourself frantic about being single. You're trying too hard, over thinking everything and if you continue to think about things the way you are, you'll come across as desperate and that won't get you anywhere. Part of being able to successfully date women is to first learn how to interact socially with them. You can't skip that step. Forget searching desperately online or trying to meet up with 26 year old women. Instead, first try to become friends with girls. Don't think of them as potential future girlfriends, but just as people you can talk to/hang out with. Over time, this will improve your ability to interact with women generally. The other posters are right about your age too. You're young - don't worry about feeling rushed or pressured because you've always been single. Focus on developing yourself as a person - your hobbies, your interests, your character. Things will get better over time, and eventually you'll meet someone - but it's going to be much harder if you're desperate for it to happen.
Author Armegoggon Posted May 8, 2014 Author Posted May 8, 2014 You are putting too much energy into these girls/women who are messaging you. Most of them won't work out, and what you have to understand is it has nothing to do with a failing on your part. Dating is about connection! Two awesome good-looking people can get together and not make that connection. Sometimes it is instant - there's just something awkward and "off" between you... sometimes it starts out promising but fizzles out. It's nobody's FAULT - it's just the way it is. So you need to work at not tying your worth up with what these random ladies say and do. Keep going until you find someone you are able to create and maintain that CONNECTION with. You need to get out and expand your horizons. Baseball is great, but try some new things - rock climbing, hiking, book clubs, gaming clubs, learning an instrument or language - whatever! Just try new things, meet new people, and expand yourself. It shouldn't be about meeting girls or making friends, but becoming more interesting and confident... which, by the way, will make it easier for you to meet girls and make friends, and will make you a happier person. Really so why don't they spend a minute responding if it's not my fault that they don't respond? So you're saying that if you make 1 tiny mistake it will stop the conversation? I just don't really know what are some nice clubs to join. Btw, I'm just hoping that an Amine convention might give me a good chance of meeting someone. But I'm a shy person so I hope there is a chance I can do a speed date game. But I hate to get rejected in real life Well, if you don't know ONE PERSON who owns a dog, then yeah, try to borrow one off a stranger. Or maybe get one of his own. If the OP thinks he is going to be a lifelong single at 18, he should get a "Man's Best Friend". It will help with those lonely days / nights. Yeah but training a dog can take very long you know. I want at least to take 1 step in dating as least ASAP. I mean if I can take the first step again, I'd be feeling some hope there. OP, I think your problem is that you're making yourself frantic about being single. You're trying too hard, over thinking everything and if you continue to think about things the way you are, you'll come across as desperate and that won't get you anywhere. Part of being able to successfully date women is to first learn how to interact socially with them. You can't skip that step. Forget searching desperately online or trying to meet up with 26 year old women. Instead, first try to become friends with girls. Don't think of them as potential future girlfriends, but just as people you can talk to/hang out with. Over time, this will improve your ability to interact with women generally. The other posters are right about your age too. You're young - don't worry about feeling rushed or pressured because you've always been single. Focus on developing yourself as a person - your hobbies, your interests, your character. Things will get better over time, and eventually you'll meet someone - but it's going to be much harder if you're desperate for it to happen. Yes I'm trying too hard but I've lost some patience. I think it's a problem for me. If I get to be friends with girls, I will treat them as normal friends and not think of future girlfriending them. It's just that, I can't seem to get over the curse of not being able to meet someone online to real life. I just think that people are preventing me from it. lol
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