glteximage Posted February 7, 2005 Posted February 7, 2005 Does driving really matter to women? I am 24 years old, very successful, yet I'm told that since I don't drive I cannot go out on a date with a women... Please tell me this is not true, the last time I asked a lady out I was called pathetic because I didn't drive. I don't see how driving can define a person, so what if you don't drive? The last date I went on 5 years ago was a disaster when I was called immature for not driving. What's up with driving? Seriously, this is very frustrating. If a women was given the choice to go out with a idiot who drives or an intelligent man who does not drive, what would they choose? From past experience it seems they would choose the idiot. Why though???
very-confused-girl Posted February 7, 2005 Posted February 7, 2005 maybe because if guy can drive it makes him look like a man. Driving is specific to guys. In the same way a girl who can drive and own her car is considered less feminin - at least in my country. Guys want to be the ones who are going to take care of the girl, driving, etc. You know if guy could not drive and I was the one who had to drive I would feel like I am doing something what should be his job. On the other hand if I was in a relationship and a guy could cook better than me I would feel like he is doing my job either and I would feel embaracced. Traditionally guys are supposed to be the protectors and girls the ones who are maintaining the household. Why dont you get yourself a driving licence?
dyermaker Posted February 7, 2005 Posted February 7, 2005 It's got nothing to do with gender. Adults should be able to drive.
sunlight Posted February 7, 2005 Posted February 7, 2005 I will agree. Everyone should drive. Theres nothing worse then a guy that calls you up and every single time you have to go and get him. I drive, and would find it under me to have to take a bus, cab or other means unless there is a reason, such as Im drinking. Also, even better you get these nice phone calls, could you do me a favour, could you go here, here and here for me. Sorry I will never be someones taxi driver.
JoL Posted February 7, 2005 Posted February 7, 2005 Almost every single person i know in their 20s can drive. Not everyone owns a car, but everyone has their licence. personally, i dont think it is the most important thing in a relationship. It can be hard to organise dates and meetings with a guy if he doesnt drive..but it shouldnt be the be all and end all of defining a guy. Can i ask, why do you not drive? Is it a choice? Im sure there are plenty of girls out there that wouldnt care about whether or not you can drive!
billybadass36 Posted February 7, 2005 Posted February 7, 2005 I'm thinking since you're 24 and don't drive, some of these women may think you've had your license taken away because of some kind of legal problems you may have presently or in your past. Some women might not find that attractive. If it's some other reason why you don't drive, then you should have an explanation ready at the outset. If you don't drive due to a disability or something, then that's a whole different set of circumstances. I have a friend who's recently been diagnosed with a seizure disorder, and he will not be able to drive again in the forseeable future depending on the effectiveness of his medication. Aside from legal problems or a medical condition of some sort, I can't think of any other reason for a guy in his 20's to not be driving. Women, rightly or wrongly, probably don't want to get involved with a guy with either of those things affecting their life.
VirginiaBob Posted February 7, 2005 Posted February 7, 2005 "I'm thinking since you're 24 and don't drive, some of these women may think you've had your license taken away because of some kind of legal problems you may have presently or in your past. Some women might not find that attractive." That would be my intitial reaction too.
tattoomytoe Posted February 7, 2005 Posted February 7, 2005 women do not want to ride the bus on a date. and having to pick up yopur date every time just is not appealing to most women.
Beth Posted February 7, 2005 Posted February 7, 2005 I know quite a few adults who do not drive or have a license. Granted, all of them live in New York City. I think it depends on where you live and how you get around town. If you are within walking distance of her home and wherever you are going on your date its fine to not drive -- if that is your choice or you have a medical condition that prevents it - not because you are not allowed to drive. Buses and cabs are fine. People still managed to date when they didn't have cars of their own. If that is the case and a girl won't date you -- her loss. If you want to go someplace that it not within walking distance, spring for a cab or rent a car/driver. If you have a logical reason for not driving an intelligent woman will understand. My definition of a logical reason would be something like: can't get a license because of a health reason; economic choice (in which case taking cabs would negate that since its still using resources); was in an accident and simply is not ready to drive again. I wouldn't want to date someone who didn't drive or have a license because they were too lazy to get one, or too insecure and nervous to drive, or just figured they could get their dates to do all the driving. "The last date I went on 5 years ago was a disaster when I was called immature for not driving" Five years ago you were 19 -- don't let what someone said then, affect you now. I'm curious too though, do you have a license?
DinNJ Posted February 7, 2005 Posted February 7, 2005 driving shouldn't matter.... You got a scooter??? A bike??? just throw her on the handlebars.. it may take you a little while longer to get to the restaurant, but just think... VIP parking... no valet... it has all kinds of benefits. Seriously dude..... driving a car is a major benefit when dating and trying to develop relationships. Unless of course, you live and work in a major city and you really DON'T need a car... but even most city dwellers, still have some form of their own transportation.
billybadass36 Posted February 7, 2005 Posted February 7, 2005 Yeah, driving isn't that big a deal. If you've seen "Dodgeball", then you'd know that White Goodman arrived at the lady-friend's house on a scooter driven by his minion, Michele.
Hund1976 Posted February 7, 2005 Posted February 7, 2005 Unless you live in the middle of Manhattan you should have a car. If I met a 24 year old girl who didn't drive I would think its pretty strange. One time I was going to cook this girl dinner who I had been dating for a little while, she lived about 15-20 miles away from me. She said she was afraid to drive to my place because she thought she would get lost and instead made me drive over there to get her. At the time she was in college working on a Master's degree. That was a big turnoff to me. I would want to date a girl who was at least capable of finding her way to the other side of town.
very-confused-girl Posted February 7, 2005 Posted February 7, 2005 If I met a guy who is 24 and cant drive I would think he is not capable. In the same way like a guy who cant do some little repair works at home, changing bulbs etc.
Author glteximage Posted February 7, 2005 Author Posted February 7, 2005 Thanks for the information. If I knew that being respectful and successful was useless 5 years ago. I would thrown all that out and just drove. Guess there's a lot I didn't realize... Looks likes it too late for me! Thanks again...
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