kiterider12 Posted May 5, 2014 Posted May 5, 2014 I really want to ask this girl out. We have been friends for a while and we get along very well. We text ever few days and Ive taken her to company events before. And shes had me over to her familys holiday dinners a few times. and time to time we will meet up for dinner. We are both in our late 20's. Sometimes shell call me just to talk. I have never brought up the idea of dating to her. Haven't even joked about it. We are certainly frineds i guess i need the confidance to ask her out. About 8 months ago we stopped talking to eachother about dating other people and we have both been single. I dont want to read into anything she does or says but its getting hard due to the face I like her. In a lot of ways shes the girl that is "out of my league" so there is an intimidation factor. Now I just want to see if asking her out will put a whole new thought in her head. In a lot of ways she may just be waiting for me to do it already, she is a southern girl so I know she will not make the first move/ Tell me what i got to lose?!?!?!!
David87 Posted May 5, 2014 Posted May 5, 2014 You've got nothing to lose. Just ask her you. I bet that she will say yes and you'll have a great time.
Author kiterider12 Posted May 5, 2014 Author Posted May 5, 2014 how do i go about it. how do i tell her we need to go on a real date together. I dont mind losing someone as a friend if she gets acwkard about it. But i am deathly afraid of feeling like crap for the 3 hours after i ask her out and if she says no . Currently shes out of town and we plan on talking on the phone and i wana tell her we should go out when she gets back
David87 Posted May 5, 2014 Posted May 5, 2014 First of all calm down, you're way too anxious about the whole thing. Second of all it's better to fail if things don't work out than to always wonder ...what if. Ask her out and be casual about it.
Valen Posted May 5, 2014 Posted May 5, 2014 It's not about asking her out on a date at this point. You two already hung out plenty of times as friends. And she even invited you over to her family dinners. At this point, it's about revealing your hand. You should invite her out to a romantic setting somewhere, a nice place where you can be alone. Then when you two sit and chat, gaze into her eyes and tell her to stop talking, pull out a flower (optional) and tell her how you feel. Yup, you go all in and see what happens. She either folds and restrict you to friendzone or she has felt the same but waited for you to make the move. It's going to be a gamble but I think you are ready to take that risk, right? PS: Sorry for the poker references.
Silver93 Posted May 5, 2014 Posted May 5, 2014 Go for it. For all you know she feels the same way about you. I think you will regret not doing it if you don't.
Wisecrack Posted May 5, 2014 Posted May 5, 2014 Hey bud have you seen the transformer movie where he says '50 years from now, are you going to wish if you had jumped in the car...' or something like that? What I am saying is - you got one life. Go for it. On a side note though - don't put her on a pedastal. She is just like any other girl so treat her like one. The moment you start clinging is the moment you've lost the game dude.
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