Pandalee Posted May 5, 2014 Posted May 5, 2014 My boyfriend was just sent to mental health rehab and before he left he said he doesn't know how long he'll be there for and to not wait around because he wants me to be happy. He had a break down and needs the help, but I also want to be there to support and help him. I won't have any contact with him and I don't know what to do. I've been with him for 2 years and we were planning on moving out together and we planned a future etc. were both 20.
Tressugar Posted May 5, 2014 Posted May 5, 2014 Well if you're willing to wait for him *buckle your seatbelt* and get ready for a bumpy ride.
zen2475 Posted May 5, 2014 Posted May 5, 2014 I know you would like to wait and be supportive of him, but he has cut you lose. Sadly, he has emotional issues right now the he needs to address. He is nowhere near being emotionally healthy enough right now for a relationship, and he's told you as much. Please respect his boundaries and request.
TAV Posted May 5, 2014 Posted May 5, 2014 You should be grateful and appreciate that he loves you enough to set you free. It is a very selfless act that he made under very difficult circumstances. A lot of other people would not even consider someone else in his situation. He did. You have to admire that. I do understand you cannot just let go though. And that this is a sad and painful situation for you too. But if his recovery takes years (or will be a chronic condition which makes living with him very hard) and you feel lonely and letdown because you sacrificed a whole lot for him and did not get rewarded for it, remember that this was your choice. He never asked you to stick around. You are only 20, you only have one life to live. 1
Virgin26 Posted May 5, 2014 Posted May 5, 2014 Please don't wait for this guy. My ex had mental issues as well, he pushed me away, and I insisted to stay around and "be there for him". This made him become resentful, distant, rude, and emotionally abusive. He used to be so sweet and polite. Clingy behavior around people with mental issues is a big no-no. Keep your distance, live your life without him. He will find you when he feels better IF he's still interested. Good luck! 1
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