nerosane Posted May 5, 2014 Posted May 5, 2014 Hello everyone! I'm currently in a relationship and I want a second opinion on how I am acting with my significant other. I'm 20 and he's freshly 18. He'll be graduating high school this June.We've been dating for 5 months, going on 6 on the 27th of May.I'm his first "adult" relationship.The first few months were rocky. He wanted to spend all his time on his friends and never see me but once or twice a week. After the third or fourth month we would constantly argue over little things.His smoking pot and cigarettes. His lack of attention.Things changed after Easter and has been great since. No arguing and just accepting of one another.However, lately, he has gone back to spending more quality time with his friends then with me. He rarely texts me or calls.I'm constantly having to repeat myself about it. In turn, he gets annoyed and accuses me of "always" making him feel like ****.I'm also having to constantly make plans with him ahead of time because if I don't, he'll just hangout with friends.I'm just confused on, is he really worth my time? Though I am 20, and still in college, I feel that what I have gone through in the past has made me more willing to settle down. Not have children, but to stick with one person for the rest of my life. And surprisingly enough, I would ideally like it to be with him. Yet certain things still bother me. If I didn't bother him, I probably would only see him twice a week. My preference is at least 4 times a week. He ignores me when he's with friends like I don't exist. He smokes pot and has no intention on going to college (at least this year in the fall). He's still immature. I just don't know if I should be patient and ride the storm, or cut my losses now even though I do feel love toward him. When we're together, he's very attentive.Hugs me, kisses me, makes me food, ties my shoes, plays with me, feels me up and the list goes on.We're still struggling on how he should spend some of his money (like taking me out more instead of vice versa) but he has a few times.Constantly telling me that he loves me and needs me in his life, and that he see's a future with me. Married, kids, dogs, the whole thing.Very possessive and sensitive. He has cried multiple times when we've argued.I can tell he cares about me... I just don't know. What do you all think with a bit of background that I have made present?
ExpatInItaly Posted May 5, 2014 Posted May 5, 2014 I think he's very young and not really ready for a serious relationship. You shouldn't need to pester someone into paying attention to you or making plans with you. Personally, I would cut my losses and date around for a little while. I don't think he's a bad guy, necessarily. I just think he (and you, too) have a lot of life to live before thinking about settling down. 2
Assasda Posted May 5, 2014 Posted May 5, 2014 You know that youre not going to leave him. NO MATTER WHAT. So why even ask? You are a needy motherly figure in his life, and the only reason he might have you around is because offer good advice and have a good heart, but you probably disrespect him, during arguements. AND HE WILL LEAVE YOU. Yep. I said it. No one wants a nagging mother for a girlfriend, and certainly not a disrespectful one. OP also secretly knows that she might have bigger faults than her BF
Tressugar Posted May 5, 2014 Posted May 5, 2014 For crying out loud...he's a freakin' child!!! Let him act like one. If you're looking for a relationship, I would suggest you dating a man in his mid to late twenties!
David87 Posted May 5, 2014 Posted May 5, 2014 For crying out loud...he's a freakin' child!!! Let him act like one. If you're looking for a relationship, I would suggest you dating a man in his mid to late twenties! Mid twenties sounds better.
soccerrprp Posted May 5, 2014 Posted May 5, 2014 Hello everyone! I'm currently in a relationship and I want a second opinion on how I am acting with my significant other. I'm 20 and he's freshly 18. He'll be graduating high school this June.We've been dating for 5 months, going on 6 on the 27th of May.I'm his first "adult" relationship.The first few months were rocky. He wanted to spend all his time on his friends and never see me but once or twice a week. After the third or fourth month we would constantly argue over little things.His smoking pot and cigarettes. His lack of attention.Things changed after Easter and has been great since. No arguing and just accepting of one another.However, lately, he has gone back to spending more quality time with his friends then with me. He rarely texts me or calls.I'm constantly having to repeat myself about it. In turn, he gets annoyed and accuses me of "always" making him feel like ****.I'm also having to constantly make plans with him ahead of time because if I don't, he'll just hangout with friends.I'm just confused on, is he really worth my time? Though I am 20, and still in college, I feel that what I have gone through in the past has made me more willing to settle down. Not have children, but to stick with one person for the rest of my life. And surprisingly enough, I would ideally like it to be with him. Yet certain things still bother me. If I didn't bother him, I probably would only see him twice a week. My preference is at least 4 times a week. He ignores me when he's with friends like I don't exist. He smokes pot and has no intention on going to college (at least this year in the fall). He's still immature. I just don't know if I should be patient and ride the storm, or cut my losses now even though I do feel love toward him. When we're together, he's very attentive.Hugs me, kisses me, makes me food, ties my shoes, plays with me, feels me up and the list goes on.We're still struggling on how he should spend some of his money (like taking me out more instead of vice versa) but he has a few times.Constantly telling me that he loves me and needs me in his life, and that he see's a future with me. Married, kids, dogs, the whole thing.Very possessive and sensitive. He has cried multiple times when we've argued.I can tell he cares about me... I just don't know. What do you all think with a bit of background that I have made present? He is not mature enough to provide a healthy relationship with you right now. He's got a lot of growing up to do.
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