BaselineLeaner Posted May 5, 2014 Posted May 5, 2014 First off, i would like to thank you all for such good advice on this site. It really does help. Now my situation, I was with this girl for close to 5 years. We started dating in high school and came to college together. I'm fixing to graduate from college next semester and she still has another year but we broke up about a month or so ago. Our relationship was great up until about 6-8 months ago until she joined a sorority. Once she joined that, our relationship went to hell. Not only did we spend less time together, which was ok, but she changed the person that everyone knew her as, including myself. She wanted to party more than she ever had and started going to fraternity parties with her single friends. She proceeded to break up with me a month ago, which I was kinda expecting because our relationship was getting worse and she didn't give our relationship any time to get back on the right track. So we broke up and haven't talked since. Yesterday was my birthday though and she texted me saying "hey happy birthday, I know the future is gonna be bright for you and i hope you have a great day with your family" she said a few more things in the text and i simply texted back "thanks". She also has been on a couple dates since we have broken up which pissed me off at the time but now that i have been going with the no contact rule it is getting better, although hard at times. I loved her so much but she changed as an individual. I don't really have any questions, just any advice would be great and to have somewhere to talk about it. I also deleted her off every social media and got rid of everything that reminds me of her.
Kitchen Posted May 5, 2014 Posted May 5, 2014 You are acknowledging that she's changed as an individual and you seem to be implying that this isn't good enough for you. It seems you haven't really begged or pleaded. You deleted her off your social media. Your reply to her happy birthday text was short and civil. You are handling this PHENOMENALLY. Keep up the good work. Stick to no contact. You will be fine in some time, and it'll get better and better week after week. There might be some days where you seem to fall back to square 1, but the trend will be better overall, trust me. This is the time to take advantage of being single. It's been 5 years since, and you should do all the things you wouldn't have been able to do while being with her. Hang out with your friends whenever, and for however long you want. Talk to as many as girls as you want to. Hook up with the ones you like. Enjoy yourself, my man! As far as she's concerned, I would bet that this was a stupid, fickle decision on her part. If she dumped you just so she can "party", she will regret it sooner or later. So let that thought keep you happy. She will throw you breadcrumbs like the birthday text (that right there is a sign she's possibly regretting it). Just handle it well like you did. Don't show her your cards and don't beg or plead with her. You owe her nothing. Some time from now she might come crawling back to you at which point you will have a choice whether to take her back or not (I would never take her back). But for now, just take comfort in the fact that she most likely is or will regret her decision to dump such an awesome dude just so she can go party with frat boys. And while you're at it, enjoy your new single life. It won't last too long, because before you know it, you'll find the right girl for you. PM me if you have questions. Good luck!
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